José
08/16/2023
Hi, I’m José. I’ve been traveling outside my country for 6 years. A year ago, the mother of my children arrived and I brought her with me, but for a while I met someone for exactly almost two years, but we’ve been in a relationship as a lover for a year and a half and each time It became more intense, my wife discovered photos and messages with my lover. I feel like I want to leave my wife and run away with my lover, but I also feel very sad because I had life plans with my family. My children are raised in a family union without fights, everything. with love and now I feel devastated I don’t know what to do or what decision to make
ximena
10/18/2022
I fell in love with a married professor with children. He also fell in love with me. He always tells me about the future, about when we are old, about how his love for me is true. I feel that this is the case, he has shown it to me with every fact. From the beginning we have been very clear, that we could never have anything more than just this, living in hiding, that there is something that we cannot change and it is his wife, I accepted it that way. However, I feel that this love is growing, at first we were more afraid, but this is getting out of control, we see each other every day in his office, we have gone out downtown and at some point we hugged, I know it sounds like a sinism, but no we avoid loving each other. I would never dare to allow him to directly harm his wife or children, but… I’m afraid that deep down I would want something more than what I know is prohibited. I don’t know what to do, or rather, I don’t have enough courage to leave him, he does me good and he loves me, he takes care of me, and I wouldn’t want to walk away.
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nicolas
03/30/2023
Ask him if he is willing to leave his family for you, then we will see if he really loves you.
Loam
07/06/2022
I had a relationship with a woman married to a man. I am also married to a woman. I fell madly in love and she told me that she was too. She told me many times that she would leave her husband and she would come with me. There came a time when I couldn’t continue cheating on my wife and I told her everything, that she had fallen in love with someone else and that I was leaving her. After that my lover left me, she told me that she wanted to have a traditional family and I was completely destroyed.
Despite feeling cheated like those women in mid-afternoon movies, whose lovers promise that they will leave their partners but don’t leave them, I recovered and right now, seeing this from the passage of time, I conclude that whoever falls in love with their lover It is because he does not love his partner and that the healthiest thing is to be honest.
Isabella
06/16/2022
I had a relationship for 7 years, we got along well. Suddenly one day I started to notice a change in my partner. That I began to doubt and suspect infidelity. I told him one day what’s wrong, he told me I don’t love you, it’s better that we separate. The world came over me. I told him it’s because of someone else and he said no. In the afternoon I neglected his cell phone and checked it and found the cause of his change with me. I wrote to her that I was her partner who told her to stay away from her and that was worse, maybe she took it as a challenge. He realized that I already knew why the girl told him. He just laughed as if with pity.
She was from another city, I distinguished her through networks. I told him you are crazy. Shortly afterwards he traveled to see her. I knew that he was going and I accepted that it is normal that there is a weakness for another person. And I said suddenly that’s temporary. She came back, she told me that she loved me, she gave me kisses. She was affectionate. I thought she had gotten over it and she wouldn’t travel again. We were fine 2 days after I was still connected I was talking to her in front of me and she became shameless. I fought with him. And he told her to get over that old lady. I left the house heartbroken crying. She told me that she was going to go again but I’m coming back for you because I love her too. I don’t believe you, I told him, you no longer feel anything for me. She told me it’s just a whim, let me live this adventure and we’ll start from scratch again. I told her okay. Because I love him. Tomorrow is her trip, I don’t know how long I will have to wait for it.
Natalie
03/19/2022
Very interesting and enlightening…very good, well explained
Natalia Guzman
10/14/2021
I identify with many things that the article says. I know that I am not in love with my lover but I feel that I want to continue with him. I don’t want to hurt my husband and I don’t know what to do with this whole situation. Please, if you could help me.
Angela
01/15/2021
I lived with a man but the relationship became toxic, with financial manipulation on his part, in one of my sadnesses I met someone who was committed but also with a lot of marital problems, one sad day we met, we exchanged numbers and from then on We became friends from venting to each other, but as a result of those messages and calls I feel that we have become more attached and we say things like we miss each other, we love each other, we have already kissed each other and we have reached intimacy, I I separated because I felt like I was in a meaningless relationship, where my husband and I had different thoughts, but my friend suffers in a marriage and doesn’t make decisions and that confuses me more every day……….. …………. I want to get away from him and I am not able, I don’t know what prevents me if I myself realized that we can only be friends or rather I am his cloth of tears. What do I do in this situation?
you are baron
11/16/2020
Very good article.
Angi
11/05/2020
Hello, I am going through a moment that has me bad, I am married but I got married without love I thought that over time I could fall in love and it didn’t happen to my husband I love him as a friend like a brother but I don’t love him as a man and he is a wonderful man, it happens that I met a person and I think I fell in love, it is reciprocal, he is a widower and something inexplicable has already awakened in me, I also do not want to hurt my husband, I sincerely wish that he meets a good woman and this situation has me very I badly want to be with the man I love and I can’t because I’m married to someone who, although I don’t love him, I respect him. In this case, what can I do? Thank you for the advice you can give me.
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Rosy
01/04/2021
Hello, how old is the widowed man? I mean, he’ll be young to be a widow. Greetings and encouragement.
Marine
10/25/2022
Hello, I have a similar situation, I got married 1 year ago, I had been in a relationship for 5 years and I knew that I loved him but I never really felt like a fugitive love like I saw with others, I even thought that it did not exist, and that Everyone had what happened to me of not feeling 100% but they didn’t say it, 6 months after my marriage I met someone who worked, we were always connected since we were little, same high school, same friends, neighbors, the high school he went to His brother, a friend of mine, is his cousin, but it wasn’t until 6 months ago that we really saw each other’s faces and talked, from that day on I felt a chemistry that I couldn’t explain, even my husband is prettier than him but poof I really haven’t understood how we got to where we are now, I can only say that it has been beautiful knowing him, that I love him, that it turns my head, but I don’t have the courage to leave my husband, because of fears, insecurities, because of society, because I know what he would suffer when he suffers more with what I do to him, if it were that simple to take advice, I myself and I would tell you, leave your husband and not for the man we love, but for him to do what we did. It is a clear answer that we are not okay with him or with ourselves, and the best thing is to let go, but since it is not that simple or at least for me, I have not done it, he is now going to live in the US and Maybe I’m letting go of the love of my life and I will most likely regret it, but I need to be consistent in everything and make decisions without having him by my side.
Ivon
10/24/2020
Of course you can fall in love again, and you can also make a home with your lover, many marriages live bitterly, if the partner cheats on you it’s because there is no more love, that’s the truth, so fuck it. Be happy with whoever you truly love because life is only one.
Vincent
09/02/2020
I think you forget the third person, you praise marriage in an outdated way, because love knows no established concepts. Another thing is the fear of making a firm decision about something that creates conflict. You treat it as if they were stupid and only let themselves be carried away by passion, I don’t see anything about the possibility of a deeper connection outside of marriage, of something more mature, not just sex or animal attraction. From my point of view, I think that you lack experience and have plenty of formal academic training, but it is only the point of view of a layman.
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Ana
04/28/2021
Just as you said, bravo!!
Adelaida Gonzalez
07/09/2020
I have a partner older than me and he doesn’t satisfy me in sex due to power problems and he is also cold and doesn’t use other ways for me to have my orgasm with him and a good relationship. Well, I have communicated my concerns to him so many times and he says that there is nothing more he can do. Well, I looked for a lover, I felt low and discouraged in my self-esteem and now I feel good, happy and with high self-esteem. But I fear that my lover or vice versa we will fall in love further? I love the way he treats me and he says the same thing. Does he worry me? What advice can you give me?
Meli
05/05/2020
This topic is very difficult, I never thought I would be involved in something like this. I have been dating for 5 years and married for 1, and about 5 months ago I met my ex-husband, whom we left due to immaturity. Then he gave us pleasure to see each other and little by little the fire was fueled and where there was fire… The ashes burned, and we are lovers. He doesn’t agree and wants me to leave my current partner to go back to him, and the truth is that I have fallen in love with my ex again…!!! And I don’t want to hurt anyone, I love my current husband very much, but I have fallen in love with my ex again, but I am afraid of losing a great man for a passion, and at the same time of losing the love of my life for not hurting him. to my current partner… I need your advice please!!
gelder
04/25/2020
My lover after three years tells me that he doesn’t want to stay with me because I’m married, we work all the time together in a doctor’s office where we remain in terrible silence. What should I do? I am in a zero contact position but I would like to talk to her. She doesn’t want to continue, she says that later but I think it will worsen the distance. In two days I have to see her and I don’t know how to continue acting. I want to get her back but I don’t want to separate from my wife. thank you
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Ana
04/28/2021
Separate or leave her alone, your lover has the right to live her life and get married, she is no less than your wife.
Carla
02/06/2022
Look, men are selfish, I don’t want her to leave me but I don’t want to leave my wife, have balls and do what you have to do, if you love your lover, bet everything or else let her go and stay with your wife, you can’t have the best of both worlds! Women have feelings, we are not a sexual object, a man can have sex only for pleasure, a woman always ends up in love and destroyed! So if you can’t leave the…