matias
08/13/2023
my mother makes me feel guilty sometimes I feel sad only no one who understands me I hate myself I don’t want to live I don’t want to have been born but I’m going to move on
Gabriela
04/30/2023
I’m 16 years old, since I started college, my mom has started to blame me for everything she spends on me, sometimes she gets upset and compares me to my friends who started their careers, who help at home, and I’m a useless piece of shit who doesn’t do anything (lately I’ve started sweeping, washing dishes and leaving the kitchen clean), at least he stopped calling me an idiot, he loves calling me stupid hehe, but he always says that I don’t do anything, that I’m only good for spending money, yesterday he told me that I’m a cold person without feelings, and he repeats the same thing as always: “Raise crows and they’ll tear out your eyes, when you grow up you’ll forget about me, you’ll be a grateful Maka who will pay me badly, because of the I’m just trying hard for you”, I have to admit that after that, he starts talking softly and telling me that it’s my fault for doing stupid things, then he talks to me nicely and I forget about all the horrible things he can say to me, I try to resent him but no I can, I want to vent by crying, but he won’t let me, even when I don’t achieve something, he tells me that you will cry for nothing, I have to take advantage of every time he comes out to cry and cry, I feel my chest hurt and the knot in my throat is horrendous, sometimes I think that if I am such a bad daughter, I should not have been born.
Melanie
03/16/2023
Most of the arguments I have with my mother, she puts things in my face and I feel like she only highlights the bad things I do.
And appeal that we have other problems and she could make mistakes or hurt me, she doesn’t apologize, things have to be the way she wants, I don’t have the right to make mistakes.
She wants me to improve and supports me in my studies but sometimes she pressures me because she wants me to go to another country so she can take me to her later so she can get out of her problems.
Since I live with my grandparents for my studies I feel much calmer but I feel that sometimes there is a lot of pressure on me, we cannot have a calm conversation without yelling at us 😔
Alan Santiago
09/30/2022
My mother has blamed me for me rearranging her things when in reality that is not the case. My mother has been under a lot of stress and fatigue that I think that is the effect that not knowing can have on her mind. What I mean is that her stress is causing something that she doesn’t see and that’s why she blames me if I upset something or that I stole something from her.
Maria Jo
04/21/2022
In my case, my mom always blames me for everything. If there is any problem in the family, for her, I am the one who starts it and I am the one who is always to blame. She forms an idea in her head and holds it to such a degree that she makes others believe that what she says is true. Actually, I have come to think that my mother hates me and it is more me for her, I no longer feel any affection. Before she kept her mouth shut, but now, I respond, because it doesn’t seem fair to me that she treats me like she does and that even today, she wants to buy my affection with gifts…
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Fanie
08/07/2022
I am in the same situation as you, I am 32 years old and I think the time has come to start making decisions regarding this problem. I have a 13-year-old child to whom I want to leave a legacy. The most beautiful legacy that any human being can have ( A united family full of love and respect)
I ask God for wisdom, I am looking for a lot of information to try to resolve this conflict. Do not lose faith, if you want, we can talk in another way, I can tell you things that can be of help to you, thank you.
Yamy
01/16/2023
I’m in the same situation
Sabrina
03/27/2022
I am 16 years old, I work 6 days a week and I am a full-time student. I have all A’s and I never ask my mother for anything unless it is absolutely necessary. So why is it the first time in 3 years that she makes me passionate about something enough to try it she can’t support me she can’t be happy for me. Today auditions for a talent agency because I’m younger she had to be there out of 240 only 10% would be chosen and I passed I received the email at work, I was so happy that I cried my colleagues and manager were happy and said I deserved This is because I have made an effort, but my mother only told me that she didn’t think so (why do you have to pay for the keys because I have no previous experience, she was not the one who would pay for it if not me) it is not the first time but I don’t know how to tell her that sometimes I would like her to smile for my achievements, to tell me that she is proud without me asking, to just support me unconditionally. I had a suicide attempt 3 years ago, she found out and became the victim. Since then, I struggle every day not to do it again. Instead, she pushes me to the edge, pushes my limits and pushes every button that can lead me to self-destruction. The worst thing is. who seems to either not care or not notice
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Fanie
08/07/2022
Love, I have been through the same thing as you, you have to love yourself, take care of yourself and try to heal that pain inside you, so that you can be happy one day.
Nobody in this world, listen to it well, nobody deserves your suffering, your destruction, that empty fear and loneliness that you feel in your chest.
Neither your mother nor anyone love yourself.
Contact me, I would like to create a support group and tell you things that I think will help you. I am 32 years old and I have suffered a lot, but I have learned to take care of myself little by little.
Nicole
02/11/2022
My mother blames me for everything, when she argues with my father she tells me it’s your fault, when she’s angry she says rude things to me, they compare me to my friends, she tells me that I’m good for nothing, she criticizes me every day, she tells me that she took away from me. all his time, for taking me to therapy, he tells me not to give my opinion because I don’t contribute anything, yesterday I checked my Instagram just because it had a photo of me, he told me it was just any one, he started insulting me. When she tells me to tell her what’s happening to me, she criticizes me worse and I honestly don’t know what to do.
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Cecilia
03/28/2022
Forgive her 😔 but tell her that what she does hurts you,… Explain to her and make her feel the emotional damage she does to you 🤔… But above all, learn from that experience so that you never make the same mistakes with your children 🥰❤️
AnaCe
01/01/2022
My mother has always been manipulative and a victim. She raised me as a good girl who can’t say no even if I’m being abused. The psychological abuse was constant and when she did not pay attention or set limits she hit me. She has always blamed me for everything, and if she made a mistake she would insult me or let me know that she was useless. Emotional blackmail was my daily life. It has been very hard living with her for so many years, and currently I have problems relating to others. I have anxious attachment and do not set limits, which has led me to have constant abusive relationships with everyone around me. Her continuous criticism has also led me to have severe eating disorders that I still have not overcome, unfortunately.
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Crismary
12/16/2022
And tell me, how has it been with your mother?
Carla
11/08/2021
I love my mother, I LOVE HER A LOT, DON’T MISINTERPRET ME, but sometimes the words she says to me make me feel insufficient… I don’t know.
Diana
10/03/2021
Because my mother hates me
fried potato
08/21/2021
My mother always scolds me for everything, she never tells me that she loves me and when I need her I know that I can’t count on her because she criticizes me and I know that it is not easy for her to be a mother and father at the same time but she always makes me feel guilty. If I make a mistake he will say a lot of harsh things to me and I feel like he hates me. What she could do.
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angel
10/01/2021
The same thing happens to me, what could we do? There is a solution, but what could we do?
Lina
08/14/2021
Hello, I need support. I feel like I’ve lost motivation. I don’t know if it’s my mistake, but my mom demands a lot from me. The truth is that I don’t like cooking, but my sister does. She reproaches me all the time that I should be like her and that I don’t do it. nothing. In reality I feel like I don’t have time, I work all day, I’m 22 years old and I don’t have enough time, however, with cleaning the house I try to help him as much as I can. I feel like she doesn’t understand me, I help with a lot of household expenses but she treats me badly and then she tells me that if I produce then they have to put up with everything when I haven’t said that, she keeps telling me that I humiliated her and I throw her out. in your face because I ask you to have a little patience with me because I am working. The only solution when she treats me like this is to start crying and when she sees me she treats me even more badly because of this, whenever she asks me for something to buy for her or for whatever I always give her money and I have never said no.
I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel like I’m losing motivation for everything. Every time I see that nothing catches my attention, I don’t know what else to do. I even apologize and she tells me not to even touch her. If you are reading this, I appreciate it if you can help me. I would like to know if I am the one who made the mistake or if it is she. I don’t know what else to do. My only defense is to cry. I have no one else to talk to because she even says that it’s my fault that she fights with my dad because He tries to support me.
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Henry
09/08/2021
I think you should not lose motivation, because you are still young and if you give up now you will not be happy in the future, try to find a middle point between what she wants and what you want.
joselin
02/07/2022
Try to become independent, she is the one with the problem, not you. Get out of there quickly and you will see that your inner peace will improve. I have also gone through things similar to yours, I am the same age as you and the truth is that I live in a country where I cannot buy my own apartment with the inflation in which I live, but if you can do it, she will never It will change, but you can change your way of life.
Laura
05/23/2022
I think you shouldn’t judge her, maybe she is like that because her mother was like that with her… understand her because she lives in a world of chaos and pain, that’s why she only has to give you contempt… But friend, what you should do is look for your own happiness… becoming independent may be the best thing. I’m also 22, I became independent for the same reason my mother didn’t know how to treat me… it was always with rudeness and reproaching me for her bad life (which she herself created because of her decisions) I left me. house and yet sometimes when I call her she continues with her attitude of reproaching me that because of me she is alone… but it is not true she is alone because it was her decision… we must take off the weight of other people and start living for ourselves themselves. Only in this way can we help them by showing them that they can choose to live happily.
Rodrigo
08/12/2021
My mother blames me for having taken a very expensive medicine and the truth is I didn’t do it and she blames me and tells me that you are the only one who would have done it.
Love
08/11/2021
My mother tells me things that hurt me a lot, I don’t understand why, knowing me, she tells me…