Ilse Anahí Cortez Cuellar
08/10/2023
Hello, good afternoon, I have a partner but we separated because I made the mistake of texting with a man and I didn’t tell him until his father and mother found out and they kicked me out. I know I lied to him and I can’t live with that. He claims everything from me. time for that and he tells me that if I don’t trust him but before that he texted with a lady from the USA and he never let go of his phone the lady sent him photos and he did too and I asked him and he told me that it wasn’t true that although He knew that this woman was forbidden and it is the courage that AMI gives me that he didn’t know how to tell me the truth either, he only got angry and I made things worse.
Aurelia_800@hotmail.com
03/03/2022
How should I help my partner not to tell lies or speak fantasies?
jozept muñoz mamani
10/14/2021 In my virtual classes I met a girl and her name was Tefyta, well I must admit that I fell in love at first sight and not 1 week later she confessed to me and we ended up being boyfriend and girlfriend, but almost a week and a half later we stopped dating. talk from one moment to the next and since I had no way to talk to her because from one moment to the next she blocked me (according to her she says that they hacked her, but it would be the 2nd time they have done it but I do trust her), and The only way to contact her was through calls and well, I left her voicemails and shortly after she told me that if I listened to them and I felt good, about 5 days passed without speaking to her and then she wrote to me telling me that I couldn’t speak because the internet went away and well, I do understand that because even I lost it.
And since I was curious since she also blocked me on WhatsApp and I didn’t understand the exact reason, I used my mother’s cell phone and wrote to her asking how she is?, and if she wants help she can ask me, and today when my boss was at work she called me telling me that my girlfriend’s father saw the message and told me that he was in the same city as me (it was worth clarifying that he told me before that he was going on a trip and would return and until now I was waiting for her until his father gave me the news ) and I felt very depressed knowing that she lied to me about that and I don’t know if she still lies to me about other things, but I will talk to her soon to find out why.
Psdt. I truly love her with all my life, but I don’t know if this lie will affect our relationship.
Stephanie
06/21/2021
My problem is the following, I have lived with my husband and 3 children for almost 20 years, two 18 years old and one 2 years old, the relationship with my husband is good, he is a little cold but in private he is very affectionate and he helps me. a lot in my personal development and he is also very concerned about our children but he was unfaithful to me many times (even having a daughter out of wedlock) and I refused to forgive him but I don’t live in peace I know that I am emotionally dependent on him sometimes I feel like I want to justify some of his attitudes covering up the bad he does with the good, but currently he works far from the city where we live and there are times, especially at night, that I check his WhatsApp to see what time he last logged on and I imagine what he is doing and I suffer Because I think he is with someone else, there are times when I tell him what I feel and my suspicions, but in the end I end up asking him for forgiveness, because he talks to me calmly and tells me that I am doing it just to annoy him and that he is calm. Because I always think the worst, there are also many nights that I cry in my bed thinking what it would be like if I separated and how my daughter who adores her dad would suffer. Many times I decided to separate between arguments and what was done at home, but he never wants to leave. He sleeps for weeks on the couch but he doesn’t leave home and in the end I need his affection, his hugs and I am the one who takes the first step to reconcile. I don’t know why I am like this and what to decide for my emotional health.
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Helen
03/26/2022
You are not to blame for feeling this way, he has broken your trust on many occasions, I have not shown real regret, the best thing you can do for yourself and your children is to separate and start therapy to heal that emotional dependency, you deserve love without fear and pain, you deserve more.
Jorge
06/07/2021
I have been married for 15 years and have 3 children, and 2 days ago my wife confessed some things to me, the first was that when we were dating at about 18 years old. She cheated on me (just kisses), with another boy, from what she told me and the details, I believe her when she tells me that nothing else happened. Also when we met, I asked her about her previous partners, whether she had had relationships or not, to which she told me NO, I, amazed, insisted with the question and asked her again saying that nothing was happening, I had already had other partners. that they had had sex before and it was never a problem, I just needed to know, to which she always told me NO, when the time came for our first time, she didn’t bleed, but it was difficult to do it, in my little experience I am sure that she didn’t I had done it before, reading a lot we found out that there are many cases where there is no bleeding, but when it is done very delicately and slowly (which it was). Well, the second thing she told me has to do with this topic, she confessed to me that with her ex-boyfriend, there was oral sex on his part towards her and also very affectionate kisses on the upper part of her torso, she also confessed to me that she had a chat not appropriate with other people (when we were already married). We talked and I forgave her, but the pain is very strong, it comes and goes suddenly. Since that day we make love several times a day, I don’t know if it’s right, but it’s the only way to alleviate the pain of both of us (she is also very hurt for causing me this pain), but I couldn’t take this anymore. secrets that tormented her. I am waiting for an answer that will help me in this regret and what I can do or just wait for time to solve it.
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Helen
03/26/2022
The pain is not relieved by having sex, if they continue like this the relationship will wear out, they should start couples therapy, communicate about how they feel, what hurts, do not recriminate but make suggestions, start from scratch but without denying the pain or punishing themselves for it. it. More than ever they must be a team.
Rosmely
04/13/2021
Since I met my partner he has been lying I have tried to trust him and I thought I could trust him but he won’t stop lying, what can I do I am very disappointed he always says he is going to change and he stays the same
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Gala
04/26/2021
I understand you perfectly Ema lie and lie then if we forgive her for whatever reason it is our responsibility but I will not trust 100% again after that experience when I met my husband he lied to me saying that the person who lived in his house and She paid rent, she was a friend, yes she was, she is in a relationship, etc. Until then, everything is fine, but why did she deny that they had had a relationship for years before??? She told me the moment I discovered that there was something locked up and she had to leave, I cried and wished myself the worst!! That’s not the relationship of a friend who wants the best for the other friend, right? Then I find out that after having told him. I don’t want that toxic woman close to us. I discovered that they wrote to each other, sending each other kisses and hugs, and why did they hide it from me? Because I knew that I didn’t like doing something that I said was correct. I don’t believe in him and that’s there. He promised me that he would never talk to her. I called him and told him that the friendship was being cut off, but I repeat, I don’t trust him because someone who lies once continues to do so.
Currently I only believe what I see and what shows me at the moment, this is how things are, I think about myself, taking care of myself, loving myself and doing positive things, giving in to myself. It is not very clear what will happen next, but I do not trust.
Candle
02/19/2021
5 months ago I moved with my boyfriend to his city, we had a long-distance relationship and we decided to get together. I was always trustworthy but a couple of weeks ago I began to distrust a lot and a few days ago I saw a conversation on his Instagram with a girl in the one who told him that we were not a stable couple nor that we were compatible but that it was an experience for him to be with me so he could leave his parents’ house
When I confronted him he denied everything saying nonsense like he had been hacked and things like that after a lot of insistence I confess the truth is that he doesn’t know why he said such things he just said it and I forgave him because I really love him but it’s costing me a lot trust him and I don’t know what to do
Mary
01/29/2021
What can I do to regain my partner’s trust?
Sentimental
12/02/2020
I have been with my partner for two years, at first everything was going well although it was a little difficult to trust, a few months later I was able to fully trust her, she started a new job, she told me that she was very happy to be there, after a few days she met a boy from there He seemed very nice and gave him his number, I didn’t give it any importance because I don’t see anything wrong with it. Lately when she came home from work she spent hours talking through messages and sometimes she called him to talk to him, I didn’t give it any importance either although it didn’t seem very normal because the time she could take advantage of with me she took advantage of talking to him, until one day I told her that Lately she’s been ignoring me and she’s been talking to that guy and she told me that they were just talking about work but I told her I was a little hesitant, so she showed me the conversation without me asking, she only showed me what she wanted because by looking at me well, I saw conversations that didn’t seem like they were coworkers, I told her to let me look at one thing in the conversation with her permission and I saw that she told him that he was the complete and perfect boy who never expected to talk to him and that in At work she told him that he ate her with the look that intimidated her, she also told him that she loved how he had a smile and pretty eyes. I don’t think they are words from the other world but I don’t see it as normal because on top of that she lied to me telling me that they were only talking about work and this makes me think that little by little she likes that boy, the truth is I wouldn’t know whether to forgive something like that because Even though that happened and we argued, she told me that she talked to him about it and that they are just friends and that she doesn’t want anything to do with him. The truth is, I don’t know what to believe because if she has already lied to me, maybe she is also lying to me now. Her conclusion is that She talked to him because she liked how he was with her and he was always listening and supporting her, supposedly because she feels alone being with me. I don’t know what to do, the truth is that she doesn’t want to break up with me because she wants a life with me but now she is confused and that boy is only still a friend to her. I want to tell him that I don’t like him talking to that boy but I don’t dare because maybe he takes it the wrong way. Any opinion?
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Dibed
01/21/2021
Hello!
I believe that truth and sincerity should always prevail in a relationship. If you are not calm about something, tell them and reach agreements so that you can be at peace. I believe that if a person does not give you peace of mind and in addition to your multiple money worries, …