There are some signs that can indicate that you do not feel good about your relationship. If this is your case, one of our specialists provides a series of recommendations so that you can make the right decision.
People and relationships change over time, which is why it is possible that stop feeling satisfied with your partner Is this good or bad? There is no right answer, it’s just part of life; However, that does not make the process of recognizing that satisfaction with your partner is over any easier.
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Many times, even though different problems are already occurring, such as repeated fights, distancing or, in the worst case, violence, it is difficult to admit that it is time to end the relationship.
Those involved in the relationship, in which there is no longer satisfaction, usually begin to present mood problems, appearing sad or irritable frequently. Despite this, they often stay together with the desire for things to be fixed and return to the way they were before. Unfortunately, unless there is judicious joint work in which both parties are committed, this is very difficult; in general, The expectation is that the other will change and this only generates more problems and dissatisfaction.
Below we leave some of the signs that may indicate that the relationship is no longer satisfactory:
- you search excuses for not being home alone with him/her.
- Already you are not interested in sharing your things with the other person.
- Do you prefer be far.
- Do you think that you would be happier living a different life.
- You use alcohol or other psychoactive substances to make you feel better.
- You feel belittled or disrespected.
- Are irritable and angrymost of the time.
- Tea you feel sad when you are at home.
- Only you are with him/her because of the children, the house, the pets or the money.
- All the time you compare the current relationship with the past.
- You feel resentment towards your partner.
- You feel that you have stopped doing things you want for the other person.
If you feel that this may be happening to you, you may want some recommendations on what to do now, so we leave you options that may be useful:
- Honestly identify what is not working: without anesthesia and without lying, recognize those things that you no longer like about the relationship and that you would like to work on.
- Decide if the relationship is worth saving: Once you identify the things that you no longer like, you have to decide if you think it is something that can really be worked on, knowing that it will surely require time, effort and commitment. After this, you must ask yourself Do I want to invest all this to rescue the relationship? If you feel inclined to say no, it may be time to move on.
- Communicate with your partner assertively: change your defensive posture from criticizing and blaming your partner to be more vulnerable. Share the aspects of your relationship that you would like to improve and the ways in which you both contribute to its current state.
- Invite him to look for solutions together: Focus on finding solutions. Remember that here you must find a way for both to align and that implies commitments and teamwork.
- Take some time to separate yourself: If things don’t improve, time apart can provide distance and perspective in the relationship. If you give yourself space, you can think calmly if you want to get back into the relationship..
Now, you may definitely come to the conclusion that you don’t want to be in the relationship anymore. If that’s the case, You must make the decision, organize your things and communicate it to your partner. This is not easy, but it is necessary and important.; Find a quiet space, a suitable time and be as clear as possible, tell him that you have already decided and that, although you respect him a lot, you want to end the relationship.
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Finally, we want to tell you that there are situations in which there is definitely no room for negotiation or talking. If the relationship crossed the boundaries of violence, the most important thing is to get to safety and find a place where you are safe.