With more than 120 million reproductions, the BZRP Music Sessions #53which launched the singer Shakira together with Bizarrap, it is on all music platforms in streaming like YouTube or Spotify.
A hit where the Colombian singer throws darts at her ex-partner, the former FC Barcelona footballer, Gerard Piquéwith phrases like “so much that you claim to be a champion and when I needed you you gave your worst version”, “a wolf like me is not for guys like you” or “she has the name of a good person, she is clearly just like you”.
In this last stanza, he alludes to the athlete’s current partner, Clara Chia, thanks to the play on words “clearly”. “I’m worth two out of 22,” Shakira sings, also referring to the age of Piqué’s girlfriend. “You traded a Ferrari for a Twingo. You traded a Rolex for a Casio.”
Words that have raised a stir and debate on social networks.
As explained to this portal Itziar Jimenez Seville, psychologist at , “showing relationship problems is not bad in itself, it can even be a way to dismantle certain romantic myths, thus favoring a more realistic vision of relationships. The problem is in the form and the intention by which they are made public.
And it is that, according to the specialist, “that one of the parties, or both, use the publication of the conflict with an individual interest without taking into account the other party, is what favors a negative repercussion for the couple and third parties if the had”.
And even “coming to want to actively confront the other, without the intention of solving anything, simply with the aim of showing their own innocence and making clear the guilt of their ex-partner.”
Shakira’s new song “sal-pica” to the children
In the event that there are children in common, as is the case with Shakira and Gerard Piqué, family psychologists highlight the risk that they end up being triangulated by the parents.
This term refers to when one or both parents seek an alliance with the child, and the child is involved in the conjugal subsystem; the child is forced to help one of her parents in the marital conflict, and as a consequence, could end up being rejected by the other parent.
The fact of making certain problems public (and in a certain way) can expose children to a position of excessive vulnerability, becoming observers and thus active participants in the couple’s conflict.
As the psychologist indicates, this “manipulative and biased discourse on both or one of the parties” favors that children may end up taking sides with one of them.
And these arguments support the contraindication of criticizing the new partner of the father of your children.
Therefore, it is essential to integrate that even if the couple part has not worked, they will continue to be parents of their children all their lives. The most advisable thing, obviously, is to make a friendly separation.
Jiménez Sevilla also considers important look after the interest of the other parent for the good of their own children and “try to favor it as much as possible, not fuel the conflict unnecessarily”.
Whether you have children in common or not, in order to overcome a relationship it is essential to elaborate the corresponding mourning process. This is accepting the reality of the loss, working on the emotions and the pain of the loss, adapting to an environment in which the other person is no longer a couple. And in the case of encountering difficulties in the process, ask for help from a professional.
Jealousy: enemies of health and the couple
Jealousy generates negative effects on the health of each of the parties involved, and can cause a significant devastating effect.
The irrational statements that the other party is unfaithful or there is a risk that it could become so, lead to constant interrogations, which favors the issuance of verification behaviors to confirm their suspicions, causing a high state and constant anxiety.
The specialist points out to this portal, “since it is an irrational fear coming from one’s own insecurity, it causes that even if the suspicion is rationally disconfirmed, it is not possible to calm the anxiety of the same and other alerts appear again, maintaining the suffering”.
At the same time, the couple is plagued by the effects of this vicious circle of verification, being able to see their own freedom questioned and limited, which in turn generates high levels of anxiety.
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“Jealousy also favors a poor self-concept of themselves in this part of the couple, due to the feelings of guilt established before the victimizing discourse of the other party, being able to come to believe that they are the cause of the suffering of the person they love ”.
By not wanting to see the other person suffer or a conflict break out, “They may end up adjusting their decisions to the needs of the other, going so far as to hide, justify, limit their activity, reduce their relationships, change the way they dress…”.
All this in turn favors that “both parties reach high levels of irritability, hindering the effective resolution of the conflict”. This situation thus causes a progressive deterioration of the couple.
The importance of public exposure
The fact that both are public figures and known throughout the world plays against the separation and “can become an added difficulty, since many media seek an audience by publishing sensitive details of the relationship and the rupture, further complicating the process.”
Jiménez Sevilla emphasizes that “it has been shown that the greater the exposure of family life before the breakup, the more complications they can encounter when it comes to separating.”
In the same way, that there is money involved and that both or one of the parties can benefit financially from this event, “it can cause the conflict between the two to increase.”