Raphael
09/19/2023
Everything I do seems little to my wife, she always complains that what I do for her or the house is little or that I never have the initiative, always when I get home from work she locks herself in her room to watch podcasts on YouTube or to “relax” and listen to music when I get home from work while I have to take care of getting the kids ready for bed.
Literally out of his mouth it comes out that I don’t do anything when I feel like I give 100% in all areas.
Nowadays I am the only one who supports the house with my work, but in a way it shows up that I am the only one who cares about the housework.
At the beginning of the relationship I was studying academic studies and she was the main financial supporter, but the situation changed and she blames me for the fact that she did not advance in her work aspect because of it.
He is constantly telling me that his desire is to separate from me, but that is just words. For my part, I have come to question it, but when I think about what is best for my wife and the children, I am afraid to take the next step. Regarding that, I also hope that the situation can improve in the future.
In fact, she was unfaithful to me, she blamed me, telling me that it was a product of how I treated her and I forgave her for the same reason previously stated.
I know that I am not perfect, sometimes my reactions have not been the best, but I do not believe that I am to blame for everything or that I am doing everything wrong.
On the other hand, our intimacy is good and that sometimes makes me forget everything else that makes me less happy.
Sometimes I think that and our children is what keeps our relationship going.
If you ask me why I don’t end my relationship, it’s because the truth is I’m not sure if ending the relationship would lead to a better situation for me… I generally have strong mental health and I can handle a lot. .. but I don’t know if I’m trying to maintain something that is already broken or if all that tension is a product of difficulties and that one day we will overcome everything and everything will remain only in our memory as a difficult moment in our lives. ….
Sarah
08/09/2023
In my case I already tried to talk to him,
He criticizes me and yells, I respond in a bad mood and he says that he speaks badly to me because I speak badly to him, when clearly he started it. He told her that he doesn’t expect people to speak well to him after how he treats and criticizes him. He says “do you compare yourself to me?” “having stopped urinating” “you just like to argue” and she starts shouting “shut up!, shut up!, shut up, don’t talk” and so on always. Every day. Criticism after criticism, yesterday I told him that for my job, with the first payment it would be a good idea to buy two shirts for work. And he started to tell me that because when he gave me money I didn’t spend it well, that because I don’t know how to do things well, I told him that that had already happened, that I only told him about the shirts, and he told me “then I don’t care.” talk, shut up now”
Juan Sebastian
02/13/2023
Excellent article just as it is happening to me.
Ana Varela
06/07/2022
That’s happening to me, whenever I do something important, I only look at the mistakes, it’s so ugly because every day I’m hitting rock bottom.
Jose Denis Pavon
06/24/2021
I saw the article and thought it was good.
Julia
04/10/2021
I am experiencing all this first hand, I never thought that people like this existed… it is very sad and the worst thing is that I know that this is coming to an end.
Sandra
03/13/2021
How to convince someone that they need psychological therapy. My partner and I have many differences and that makes us tense at times. He is very stubborn about his ideas and he does not give in and sometimes blames me for things that happen. I would like to go to therapy because he is actually a good person but I think I know he realizes that he is pushing me aside every time he criticizes me.
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Julia
04/10/2021
It’s very sad. I identify with you a lot. The worst thing of all is that I love him. But he’s only dedicated to losing me.
gilbert
03/06/2021
My partner, after a problem we had, offered me to one of our friends saying that I was a good person, it’s good to keep quiet or let him know, for me it seemed disloyal because I would never have done it even if I was very hurt or angry.
Mel
02/18/2021
Does the partner make you feel? Or do you allow yourself to feel, I think that in relationships the couple always has to see the problem in the third person, in order to see the problems from a different perspective, and make more assertive decisions, which although your You don’t like hormones, they are the best for you.
Yudith
12/27/2020
My husband talks bad about me with his friends, and everything I say and do seems bad to him, he tells me, poorly educated, that I don’t even know how to eat, that’s the minimum, and he always reproaches me for things from the past, I get tired To put up with so much evil and I have moved it to the girl’s room, but the truth is I feel like an idiot, because on top of that I keep preparing his food, and breakfast, etc., and I see that of course he is in the room all the time He only goes out to eat and when the children and I have eaten, he hardly talks to us, he just criticizes me with his friends and makes me feel terrible, the question is? What should I do, how to act, I don’t want to lose my mind or argue about the children, I’m desperate, I feel like the situation is getting out of hand, I know that he doesn’t love me because of his attitude, and I think what you want is to make it seem like It’s all my fault, to have more things to blame me for, please if you can tell me something so I can solve this situation. Thank you
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JZC
03/13/2021
What a hard situation. I don’t know why your problem started, but thinking about the children, I think that if my partner distances himself from me in that way, I don’t see it as correct for my children to believe that a relationship should be like that. Better to let it go and preferable your emotional peace and that of your children. First I would talk to him at length. And if there is no solution, I don’t see any good in having him there if he doesn’t interact in any positive way at home.
Carlos
12/14/2020
When someone is bothered by everything you say and do, it is usually because they have stopped loving you.
I’m sorry.
The best thing is to recognize it and talk about it clearly with your partner.
And he begins to assume that it is possible that this relationship is going to end.
Cheer up
Jorge
06/12/2020
For my partner, everything I do and how I do it bothers him, he is looking for a way to create conflict, I confront him, but he gives me his expression of “get away” and threatens me saying that I will never see my daughter.
Tiburcio
12/11/2020
It helped me understand many things, my partner’s personality is described exactly as is the treatment I am receiving from her. There are many things that I have thought that I could have another relationship since it seems to compare me. The truth is I’m not being happy
Wilhelm
10/28/2020
Excellent article. Thank you very much for sharing, it helped me a lot to relax a little and think more objectively about what is happening in my relationship currently.
It is extremely sad and exhausting to be with a partner whose everything you do never seems to be enough, that everything you tell him about the bad things that happen to you during the day, in the end he ends up agreeing with other people except you.
Reading this article made me think that I have to reevaluate my relationship and take matters into my own hands or make a definitive decision for my own mental health.
Thanks again.
Sandra
09/06/2020
My partner has a very difficult character, he gets stressed and angry very easily and that causes us to constantly have fights. He yells at me, he offends me and blames me for everything that happens to him. If I try to defend myself, he says that I never accept my mistakes, that I think I’m perfect. that my pride is going to end this marriage and that my ego is too big but if he chose to only listen to his screams and his offenses he says that I am ignoring him and he is filled with anger he has made many mistakes in all this time of marriage and I I have forgiven everything, including an emotional infidelity, but he only sees my mistakes and tells me that I ended his life and his desire to live and that I hope I never regret what I told him and now because of that situation, everything he tells me did already is a zero to the left now everything bad about this marriage and if it ends it is because of me not x him
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Fernando
12/24/2020
I think you should step aside and end that relationship.
balm
12/05/2021
Value yourself a lot and take the highest flight so that you can land firmly but you must put a stop to it, no one has the authority to wear down your life and your feelings. Mental health is a priority, may God protect you and give you wisdom.
Danae
03/01/2022
John Gray. Men are from Mars, women are from Venus. Couples therapy is a recommended book.
MARY VICTORIA
09/02/2020
I have a friend MARIO, whose wife abuses him psychologically and has even hit him, and I don’t know whether to report the situation because he is very afraid of her.
And apart from the children, it’s a woman who checks his cell phone, if she sends him to buy it, look how long it took, she makes him look ridiculous, and the truth is that if I saw it, on the contrary, I would have already reported him, but he asks me to wait. and I feel very bad because she also enjoys it.
Araceli Magellan
07/31/2020
What should I do if I’ve tried a little bit of everything and they keep ignoring me or they say to me, you already told me, I understand but it doesn’t do anything.
My husband always criticizes me, he only sees my flaws, he doesn’t look at me at all, he doesn’t tell me anything good about me, he spends his time highlighting everything that I do wrong for me, he even likes how he eats, I love how he laughs, I like almost everything as long as he doesn’t criticize me. I have been with him for 16 years and at the beginning of my relationship I was a bitch in my girlfriend, thanks to him he took the shit out of me, I mean my explosive nature everything was more or less fine later now if he sees my flaws and everything bad now I am very different from the one I was and I see for the better but changing only hurt me, my husband didn’t even care if he was interested as a woman, I already talked to him and told him what I like in private and he doesn’t do it. I’m the one who gets out of the routine or monotony, I see that he loves it and he looks for me a lot more, but he doesn’t do anything to me even with anger or a lot of laziness, he touches me a lot with his fingers, he’s 15 years old and he doesn’t like me. In short, as a woman, I feel nothing about the ugliest, I am so disgusted that I no longer have the mood to get ready because I want my husband so much and see that he is not interested in anything other than satisfying himself, he no longer feels like anything if I feel like it. Sometimes I struggle a lot to get to the orgasm, I always pretend to last every time, you see, it’s my turn, I ended up feeling worse, it’s getting further away every day, more, &
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twenty
08/01/2020 Hello Araceli:
It sounds like there’s a lot to talk about with your husband. Explain how you feel without accusations so that he does not feel cornered and feels in a position to understand.
I sincerely believe that the best thing for your relationship if you continue to love each other and have the intention of making the relationship work,…