“OF ABSENT PARENTS, LOST CHILDREN”
There was no bond between father and son, no spiritual connection, and that’s why we see many men who are unable to find their power: they either become macho or soft, because they have lacked a healthy example of fatherhood and masculinity (…) When the father is absent, how do you find your own gender? You will create your own initiation, through drugs, violence or depression, but it is very difficult. You need a mentor or a father to show you the path to healthy masculinity.”
“A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR is something different from the men we send to Afghanistan or Iraq; these are lost: they still need to behave, and this behavior annihilates their own soul, because they have to do things that are against life. A spiritual warrior, or a warrior of the heart, fights for life, not against it. We definitely need warriors of the heart. And I believe that young people are crying out to be introduced to this way of life, which makes life worth living.”
“At school children learn to behave and be ‘good boys’. But that’s not what makes them real men. Thus, they will not find themselves: they will only behave well or badly. WE NEED AUTHENTIC MASCULINITY, men who are self-aware and know what it is to be alone, to be spontaneous, to be loving and to be wise. The savage is an initiator into the mysteries of life itself.
“(…) That’s what the old initiation rites were about: honoring the mystery and magic of life. It is what is found today in the HARRY POTTER movies, children love it, because it speaks to them about these values that are not learned in school”
“THE PATRIARCHY IS DOWN; patriarchal religions, patriarchal economics, patriarchal politics, have had their time. We need ecology, and a new balance between feminine and masculine energy. If not, we will not survive. We cannot continue as before, that’s for sure.”
“Rights and positions of equality are important, but even more important is the fact of valuing true femininity and true masculinity in the same way. Otherwise, women will come to office but they will have to act in a man’s world, and ultimately they will be like men.
That has already happened. WOMEN HAVE SACRIFICED THEIR DEEP FEMININITY to become men’s equals. What matters is not equality, but being who we really are. We are not the same, men and women are very different and we must honor and value that difference. This turns society into a more sensual and fun field of exploration”
Ton van der Kroon
“Healthy masculinity is no longer that of the macho, who lacks any feeling and prides himself on an outdated and authoritarian image, but neither is that of the soft man, who is immersed in his emotions and no longer knows what he wants or what is not able to act”
“In our society, many men find themselves at some point on this quest. They make their descent in silence. It is a painful journey, often caused by illness, layoff, or divorce. While the movement of the woman is directed upwards and outwards, and becomes more and more visible, the movement of the man is downwards and inwards. Because of this opposite movement, women walk ahead and are much more present. But both sexes must go their own way. The woman has to recover the power that was taken from her. Instead, the men will have to lose theirs.
Your position, your power, your money, your self-respect are in danger.
Dying in order to be born again. The initiation process is underway in an invisible, but also irreversible way.
EMOTIONAL AND ENERGY Cracks OF MEN
Today men unconsciously carry their own energy knots and those of their family system, coming from unresolved emotional processes, and from painful experiences of their men in the past, these fissures can make men decide between two paths, the first is the to heal and resolve to allow yourself to grow, and the second is to continue accumulating those fissures, but this second will take away strength from your life, bringing you closer to depression and the collapse of your being.
Men have experienced very painful processes, since the first separation, wars, lies, deaths, secrets, etc., and they have dragged with them information from the collective consciousness, where he has strengthened the layers of the shell that has been made to protect himself. , and where he takes refuge to survive in an uncomfortable and unconscious society.
The emotional and energetic fissures of men have been nourished by that collective and social information, where as men we have not known how to accompany, protect, and defend life, this is due to the illusion of the power of imposition, which makes us look at ourselves as enemies. and puts us in a pointless war. Today’s men bear the decisions and experiences of abandonment, pain and suffering that our ancestors had, we bear the pain and guilt of those who did not find a better way to sustain life, added to that are the personal duels that we drag since childhood, and that put us in an unpleasant place, and that in turn shows us what we have not resolved or healed in our lives and in our systems.
Understanding our wounds is the first step to healing, it is the step to undo the energetic knots created by various men in our system, and that today puts us before the need to resolve to make and sustain life in a different way.
Right in this transition period, men must begin to look more at themselves than at others, and not for personal convenience, but because, if he does not resolve in himself, he will increasingly close the possibility of the survival of the humanity on earth, and headed towards extinction. We must begin to look at the darkness of our men, to assimilate, honor, and in this way seek better ways to guide and sustain life.
If you want to start healing the wounds, you must begin to close cycles, you must begin to look at the history of your family system, you must work with your guilt, and that of your ancestors, you must begin to do things differently.
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