Why should we develop tolerance in our relationships?

This ability is more positive when it is put into practice in different areas of life. Experts on the subject explain the reasons and provide advice to keep in mind.

It is key to understand that tolerance, respect, inclusion, dialogue and negotiation are essential pillars in human relationships. and that, when put into practice, would improve all the scenarios and dynamics that are part of life: personal, couple, family, social, work, academic, political, etc.

Currently, there are cutting-edge therapeutic models that link psychology and other approaches to the human being, with methodologies based on expressive and creative arts such as art therapy, music therapy and therapeutic theater, which invite the inclusion of art in healthcare systems.

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Marta Cecilia Restrepo, an expert in creative and expressive therapies, body-mind regulation therapies such as Mindfulness and others, has studied for more than 10 years different self-knowledge and self-care tools with an artistic nature, which facilitate healing and mediation of intra-eternal conflicts. interpersonal, for adequate management of emotions and stress levels, thus improving performance in all environments.

Tolerance with the partner

One of the best strategies to enjoy a good relationship is to learn to have a high level of tolerance., negotiation and dispute resolution. And, although there are too many emotions in this scenario, it is essential to know what to do and what not to do.

In this regard, couples psychologist Giovanna Andrea Losada and member of the team indicates:

1. Win or be happy: When it is negotiated poorly, one of the two parties feels like a winner, while when it is done well both parties win, therefore, it is not about competing but about understanding what to listen to and accept.
2. Agreeing is not always necessary: Inevitably there are moments where an agreement cannot be reached; However, what is truly important is respect and tolerance.
3. Deliver before demanding: To be able to negotiate in a relationship, you need, before complaining, to be willing to be the first to give in and allow yourself to actively listen and accept that you are not always right.

“No relationship escapes the need to negotiate with tolerancesince these are different beings with diverse mental structures that must converge in the same space, therefore, the negotiation of small and transcendental things is vital to live in harmony, says Paula Marcela Escobar, creative/expressive therapies help self-knowledge and allow an important liberation in people”.

Tolerance with children

The love given to children must be proportional to the respect and authority that is imprinted on the relationship.. In the case of adolescents, different dynamics occur. We must not forget that the teenager is not an adultand is still in training and structuring, therefore, it requires a deeper dialogue, rapprochement and infinite patience to develop confidence, security and responsibility that favors a better transition to maturity.

Some tips for teenagers are:

1. Avoid “the cantaleta”: This is unnecessary and exacerbates the conflict. It is important to avoid blaming and making judgments without knowing the context. You should correct or insist only on what is truly important.
2. Understand that children go through a period of ups and downs: Parents can give more value to positive moments and accompany them in those that are not.
3. Be careful when correcting: It is important to know when corrective, educational and adaptive actions can be generated.
4. It’s not about imposing: Clear, assertive and authentic communication are the keys.

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Tolerance in companies

One of the key ingredients in job frustration is the feeling of lack of control., which arises in the fulfillment of expectations and expected results at work. In psychology, it is associated with internal and external locus of control.

In this regard, Santiago Arjona, strategic director of Trinidad Salud, recommends:

1. Recognize the place and assigned functions within the organizationwhich allows us to take into perspective the role and goals to be achieved.
2. Establish an adequate prioritization of achievable objectives at a certain time.
3. Identify and respect different personality types of the team members.
4. Listen respectfully to the points of view of othersincreasing mental flexibility and allowing a broader view of the different scenarios.
5. Put yourself in the other’s shoes with an empathetic and collaborative attitude.
6. In the face of failuresbeyond the trials, action plans.

The art of tolerance

Nowadays, negotiation is an essential skill to cultivate leadership at all levels. Some skills that can be stimulated through practicing the art of tolerance at the business level are: optimism, integrity, perseverance, active listening, planning, decision making, sense of belonging, construction and solidification of work teams.

Marta Cecilia Restrepo exalts these points to develop tolerance tools in companies:

1. Preparation: Have an action plan of “how” and “what” you want to achieve.
2. Discussion: Reflect, look for arguments and learn to exchange opinions.
3. Reading: Learn to empathically ‘read’ the positions and arguments of others.
4. Exchange: This stage is about getting something or giving up. You have to give to receive and seek to be equitable.
5. Agreement: This is the final point and the true negotiation, where the favorable points reached for both parties are highlighted with an “appreciative look”.

Tolerance allows us to foster greater awareness and acceptance of life, family and society, building a more just and essentially human world, experts indicate.