G. Anonymous
01/13/2023
The truth is I feel inferior to my partner, perhaps because it is the first relationship in which I am seriously getting involved. The most obvious thing is that I have low self-esteem and it is something that I have struggled with for years, being next to him I feel very inferior, I am a plump person and I have always had a complex about that, my partner has a worked body and very well cared for, apart from the fact that he is a much more intelligent person than I possibly am, apart from the fact that he has abilities that I applaud and admire but at the same time end up comparing them with mine. He has told me that he loves me just the way I am, but despite that I have the constant fear that at some point someone will appear who will meet his expectations. The truth is, every time I think about how little I became at his side, I start crying and scolding myself, “Why am I not better?”, “You have so many other good options,” “Why me and not him/her?” ”
I want to help myself raise my self-esteem, but years and years in which I have hated myself for my defects are like an obstacle that prevents me from progressing.
Andrea
11/01/2021
I feel inferior to my husband because his family lives very comfortably and his children are bilingual and professional and every time he gets the opportunity he talks about it.
He still has contact with the mother of his children and no one in his family (siblings)
He doesn’t know that he is married to me, not even his children.
I feel hidden and I don’t know what to think or what to do.
Carolina
07/08/2021
I feel inferior to my partner, since he earns much more than me, and even though I pay a little of the house expenses, which I can because my salary is much lower than his, I feel very bad because he always tells me that I don’t contribute anything, that I have no goals or vision of growing, when really I am the one who does everything at home, I am in charge of keeping the house clean, food, washing clothes, etc., and he alone Giving money says that it is enough, in addition to the fact that he is attached to his mother, and they talk badly about me because I don’t support anything, that I don’t appreciate what I have and what they give me, when really I give what I have and I I try too hard to make everything go well, I feel like he doesn’t appreciate anything, that he demands too much of me, and he makes me feel bad every time he brings up the topic of expenses, since he knows all my expenses and knows that the money I have is I contribute to the house and my personal expenses, it makes me doubt my ability and that I am not capable of achieving more and earning more, and I know that I am very capable but I don’t know how to prepare my emotions and be able to talk about what makes me feel every time he just claims that I don’t give more money, he doesn’t see what I contribute even if it isn’t economical and that frustrates me.
davmic
06/30/2021
I have many complexes, I have always felt very inferior to others since I was a child, I have always seen how everyone around me has triumphs, they do interesting things, good and well-paid jobs, and I barely managed to get a very poorly paid job (but It’s something), my partner is 4 years younger than me, she has managed to graduate from university, she was able to obtain an American visa, and she is now working temporarily with a very high profit margin (I would have to work 2 years to put all that together on her own 2 months) every time something good happens to her, I weaken emotionally in a very strong way, once she got a job where I study, and I felt very miserable, and it is very difficult to work on my self-esteem, I have already tried with psychologists, and my self-esteem does not improve, it has even affected me very strongly in my life, I was not able to finish university, and I put myself down all the time, and I want to leave her because she does not deserve to deal with all this.
David Alejandro
06/02/2021
This is exactly what happens to me, and since I was a child I was always a closed person and when I started my relationship I have not changed partners again because I don’t know if someone is going to love me. But thanks to this information I know that I suffer from low self-esteem. Thank you very much and if I have to ask for help to be able to treat it.
Yusimitj Diaz
09/30/2020 Hello, for some time now I feel like I don’t miss my partner, I don’t want to make love with him. Beces…and I feel that I’m not in love and that I’m not going to fall in love with him, and that I won’t leave him to not feel alone later, what can I do?
Alejandra Sanchez
02/14/2020
Well, I have felt like my partner for a long time now. He doesn’t value me. I feel like he sometimes treats me like a child or like I’m stupid. If it’s true that he earns more than me. But I think that’s not why he should treat me or I feel like he treats me like that and me. I feel inferior. The truth is that I never thought I would feel this way. I would like to disappear. I am now nothing like I imagined it would be at this age to feel inferior. Everyone loves my partner. But when he talks to me I feel like he belittles me. Sometimes I think I’m crazy. I hope you can help me. Thank you.
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Maikellys
11/22/2022
I feel the same way, even though I had never been insecure, this man came to destroy my self-esteem.
Gabriel
01/18/2020
I have never had a partner (in fact I have already raised something similar in the section “Why am I afraid of falling in love?”) and I know that I will never have one. Although I do not believe in love (I suffer from Philophobia), in truth, I am in love with a girl, she is Turkish, dark-haired and very pretty, whom I do not know personally but I have noticed a few things about her, her tastes when less. She has the most contagious smile I have ever seen and her voice gives me an unusual peace (yes, seriously, more than you will believe). Anyway, it is the first time that I feel something like this for someone, sensations inside me that are this deep, but I realize that I could not live up to her, I feel that I could offer her nothing and that I would even embarrass her in front of the rest by myself. presence. I have imagined and even proposed to buy her gifts to win her over and/or entertain her, based on her tastes (she loves cats, like me), and also flowers (because she is very romantic) and chocolates, or things of that nature. But I know perfectly well that he would not receive them with the same enthusiasm from someone like me as from any other man. The point, at the end of the day, is that I can’t imagine having a single date with this girl or any other. I don’t even know why she or anyone else would accept my invitation to go out…let alone someone asking me, I’m “immirable”, so to speak. I don’t even think, at 24 years old, I could kiss someone, because no one would want to, they would be repulsed (only blindfolded and without knowing it was me would they do it); And let’s not even talk about a bigger issue, having relationships or making love: IMPOSSIBLE (who would want to touch me if it’s not paying??). I look in the mirror and I hate what I see reflected in it. And I think while I do things like: “What woman is going to want to wake up every morning with a face like yours?” Or “who will like you, if you are horrible, anyone is more attractive and interesting than you”; or also “luckily there are prostitutes, otherwise you wouldn’t touch any girl with a stick, and you would remain a virgin for life.” I don’t feel enough for anything, I don’t feel up to it: neither to conquer someone, nor to kiss them, nor to take them for a walk, nor to be a good lover, nor to keep someone’s interest in me for a long time, After all, I know that anyone, no matter how much of a womanizer they were, would be a better match for a woman than me. I am worthless as a man, I feel degraded, it is horrible to know that you will never attract anyone’s attention, that no one will ever think of you in a “romantic” way, that they will never even physically fantasize about you!!! I have very clear ideas of what I would like to have (or rather what I ‘would have liked to have’), based on a serious relationship, but at the same time I think about this Turkish woman I mentioned previously, two years older than me, and I say to myself: “Get her out of your head, do you think a woman like her is going to notice something like you?” In this case, I am in love (I know this from how I perceive the situation, I have never felt anything like this) and it doesn’t bother me, at the very least, to fantasize about the idea of visiting her and sharing a talk, a dinner, and even making her laugh, managing to conquer her progressively and waking her up. even the true desires in her for me. After all, ‘dreaming costs nothing’ and it’s going to be the only thing closest to a relationship with someone of the opposite sex that I’m going to have: the dreams, the fantasies. Now I’m in love with her to the core (in fact I even know that they cheated on her shortly before she got engaged to be married, “God gives bread to those who have no teeth”), but that’s all that will happen. I can’t even imagine if I confessed, either to her or to anyone else, that I’m interested, I like it a lot and I would love to start a relationship: they wouldn’t run the other way, but they would all reject me outright. I’m sorry to all the women who read this (if they continue until
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Andrea
02/28/2020
Hello…you are 24 years old…super young…how can you think like that???….
Gabriel
03/12/2020
Yes, Andrea. All my life I felt like this, inferior. The age of the person does not matter, it depends on each individual I assume. There are 3 main factors: radical feminism (which makes me want to know practically nothing about women as a couple); my feeling of inferiority, and also the fact that I am a loner by nature. I do not and would not allow for a life of commitment to someone who I know, on top of that, is going to end up cheating on me or whatever. I am very particular. I am already very tired of the topic of Love as a couple and all that, because I understood, in contrast to what I strongly believed as a teenager, that you cannot expect in life something that does not exist, that society shows you that it does not exist. Furthermore, I am a person who likes to do her will (such day, such time, such movie, such food, etc.), that no one bothers me, and let’s be honest, what woman would put up with someone like that: only my mother. That’s why I was always in the dilemma of commitment and freedom (freedom not debauchery), and added to my feeling of inferiority, well, imagine. There are people who do not deserve to receive that kind of “sentimental pleasures” (that’s what I occasionally call them), for me there is no such thing as a “special person”, it doesn’t exist for anyone, much less for someone as little as me. I know perfectly well that no woman would ever want to be with me and I don’t blame them: after all, after all, I don’t allow anyone to get close to me either so as not to be hurt or bothered. As a teenager, between 13 and 16 years old, I believed like a deluded idealist that sooner or later I was going to find what they call the “love of your life”, I wanted to have a girlfriend, get married… only to end up realizing lately that For me that no longer means anything, that neither the world has room for me (in that aspect) nor do I have room for the world (that is, for women on a couple level, I repeat). The unusual thing is that I continue to be an incurable romantic… but hey, until Al Capone…