The consumption of alcohol, when there is a heartache, is a practice that some people can use as a technique to “forget that pain generated”, should care be taken when doing so?
Avoiding the discomfort we feel is the least effective strategy we can use, and a common way in which this is evidenced is with the consumption of substances, in this case, alcohol. Of course, alcohol can be a very used element on outings with our friends, almost the magic recipe for the “success” of overcoming a problem.
Not for nothing, there is an entire musical genre closely linked to alcohol consumption and spite. If I drink liquor then I won’t be coping well with the breakup? The key is in the pattern, i.e. Do you drink more than once a week? always to stop thinking? How do you feel once the alcohol wears off? Do you have a very abrupt change in behavior when you drink?
Let’s imagine two scenes. A person goes out to have a beer with his friends on a Friday night and tells them that he broke up with his partner, they continue drinking, sharing, crying, laughing. He continues with his life, there are moments when he thinks about his ex-partner again, he feels sad, but throughout the day he finds different important and valuable activities. He hasn’t consumed liquor again in more than a month.
In another part of the world, another person makes the same plan, but the following week he calls his friends again and they repeat the scene. This person starts drinking alcohol every time he thinks about her partner, which is more or less every week. He begins to have financial problems, now he drinks liquor almost every day, and even so, he can’t stop thinking about his partner.
After seeing these 2 scenarios, which of them seems to have problematic alcohol consumption?
Tips to heal
- Be patient with yourself: Everyone has time to adapt to new circumstances, and each person’s speed does not make us “strong” or “weak.”
- It’s not bad if you decide to walk away: It is very common to meet people who are still in contact with the ex-partner, for some this is very difficult, so if you feel more comfortable you can take some distance to begin to adapt to their absence.
- Look for a balance between sadness and joy: You have the right to feel bad, and you also have the right to seek to feel better, going through the breakup requires rebuilding our routine, our goals, our objectives, look for a balanced way to live sadness and live happiness.
- Avoid stalking: Maybe being aware of your ex-partner’s every move is not the most conducive method to feel better. Do your best to stay away from this, if you have a hard time doing so, block this person.
- Give yourself a chance to walk away.
- Support yourself with others: Seek support from friends, family, people you trust, you don’t have to live this situation alone, contact people you trust.
- Go further if you feel like nothing is working: If you think that it is a situation that is affecting your other important areas, you may need another helping hand, so do not hesitate to seek professional help. You can call us or write to us via WhatsApp at 3330333588.