Sharing intimate photos and videos is quite common today, however, it is important to address some important aspects surrounding this practice. Next, we will talk to you about the topic.
Is it bad to share intimate images?
We may think, especially early in life, that everything that has to do with sexuality or expression of sexual desire “is wrong.” For certain people, sexual issues they have been taboo for a long time, but currently, and increasingly, talking openly about sexuality has been understood as a necessary and urgent issue that we must demystify and normalize.
In that sense, it is pertinent to talk about one of the common practices today, thanks to the new technologies and instant messaging platforms that we use daily. This practice is that of the so-called “sexting” or, which consists of the exchange of erotic messages and includes sharing intimate images or videos.
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At the outset, we must say that this practice It should not be considered something negative in itself., since it would be part of the expression of desire in human sexuality, which is completely natural, like being hungry, sleepy or cold. If for you, as an individual, it is something that feels good, It is a decision that you make consciously, without coercion of any kind. (manipulation, conditioning, blackmail, etc.) and it occurs within the framework of a relationship of mutual respect with whom you share, it is certainly not an improper act. However, as with any act, you must have some precautions and considerations.
What should you keep in mind when sharing intimate images or videos?
- Let it be your decision: The most important thing is to know that you have made the decision freely and autonomously, without feeling no pressure from your partner or anyone else to do itsince it is your body that you decide to share and it is you and only you who decides what you want to do with it.
This decision is called consentand it has to do with whether or not you agree to do something. It should always be present in any emotional and/or sexual relationship in which you get involved. Before doing anything, there must be an agreement between you and the other person, which define or delimit the conditions within which they will act. Clearly understanding what each person wants and respecting the limits that are defined and the rules that must be respected is an essential part of any sexual and intimate practice.
- Knowing that consent changes: he consent can be removed at any time. That is, even if you already expressed that you would do it, you may regret doing it and, then, the prior consent will no longer be valid. You should only do something if you truly feel at peace with it.. If before sending a message, photo or video you feel or think that you shouldn’t do it or you have doubts about sending it to that person, it may be better that you don’t do it. It’s always good to be sure before doing something.
- If you already decided, enjoy it: It is normal for you to experience different emotions, it may be a moment as tense as it is exciting. But If at any time you feel uncomfortable, don’t hesitate to let the other person know.. Communication is essential in these situations.
- Learn: It is advisable to analyze whether the situation It generated feelings of well-being and enjoyment or if, on the contrary, you felt different from how you thought it would be.. Knowing if you enjoyed it or not will be good so that you can elaborate your feelings about it and on a next occasion consider the same or other agreements and even whether or not you want to send this type of content.
Always keep in mind that if you want to send photos or videos and the other person wants to receive them, you can do so. On the other hand, If the other person does not want to receive them, you must respect their decision and avoid sending them.
What should I do if I don’t feel comfortable sending these types of images?
Certainly, if you are considering sending this type of content to someone, it is because you have the confidence to do it with that person. In this sense, also It would be advisable for it to be someone you feel comfortable talking to. and communicate, in addition to your tastes and desires, your worries. This way, if you decide that you are not feeling well, it will be comfortable to mention it and make it clear. If there is not complete security and tranquility, you should not do it and that person must understand this and don’t force yourself to do anything.
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What should I do if I sent photos and now I feel bad about it?
Communicate it alsoa relationship (permanent or not) entails trust, respect and a very punctual communication capacity. Whatever the other person’s response, it is important that you make your point of view and decision clear, Well, it’s your body, your photos and what you do with them is what really matters. You can delete images from the conversation and ask the other person to delete them from their device.
Is it okay to insist on receiving this type of images?
For everything there are limits and codes that we must always read well. It is one thing to insist and another to press, but everything has to be considered within the codes that have been establishedbut you always have to respect and distinguish limits of social interactions. In that sense, It is not good to insist on something beyond those limitsas in any other scenario, since it will not be comfortable or correct.
If the other person doesn’t want to do this or that, you have to accept it and understand that it’s not the right time. Going beyond another person’s decision or putting pressure on themto the point that making her feel that it is an obligation, Not only is it disrespectful, but it can also trigger other difficulties within the relationship, such as friction, arguments and even generating anxiety in the person who did not want to send them. It is always important to respect the decisions of others, especially with their bodies because they are theirs, not yours.