Katiuska
09/06/2023
Good afternoon, I would like you to please guide me. I have been separated from my daughter’s father for 8 years. My daughter is now 14 years old and my ex occasionally writes or calls to find out how things are in general. My daughter is not that attached to her father and occasionally He doesn’t answer his cell phone and he turns to me to find out about her. My current partner does not agree that I receive his calls or messages and says that he only has to communicate with the girl. I don’t know how to handle that situation and I would like to some guidance please
FITO
02/16/2023
Hello, I want to know if what I am currently experiencing is normal.
I have been with my partner for 3 years and he has a 5-year-old daughter. We get along very well and even with her daughter’s mother, we have gone out to the beach together and everything. They have come to my house because I live with my partner and they have come to eat a few times, but one day the mother called my boyfriend and told him to go to the beach again and my boyfriend said that I would go, she told him , not this time because the girl needs to spend some FAMILY time without other people. that’s ok? That is to say, he goes to his daughter’s 2 times a week and stays at home the whole time playing with her, another day he goes to have breakfast and another day he goes for a few hours to share with her, and sometimes they and I have come here I have also gone to the house of those who live alone, but the day they didn’t want me to go I got angry. The mother told her that she likes me very much but that from time to time MOM, DAD AND DAUGHTER should spend time alone as a FAMILY because they are a family and that I should not always be with them.
Alright? I need advice. Thank you
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Karen
08/13/2023
FLEES! If your boyfriend doesn’t give you your place then you are wasting your time… The three of them have nothing to do together since sentimentally they are supposed to have nothing. The truth gives me a very bad feeling.
Maritza Montoya
09/30/2022
Hello, being part of a relationship when your partner has children is very complicated. If in itself putting 2 universes has its dynamics MORE MUCH MORE MASSS when one comes with extra load.
The best thing is from the beginning NOT to get involved in those types of relationships. All cases are not the same but they generate headaches, the other parent appears asking for more…too much SPAM and sabotage involved… I insist we have to think things better from the inside, that internal voice that tells us shows those red flags. I have already lived it and I have decreed: NEVER MEN WITH CHILDREN!! .. As the song says: And he left… and he called his boat freedom
Lourdes
02/13/2022
I have been with my partner for 4 years, he has an 11-year-old daughter. At first I didn’t accept it, I was very jealous. Now I accepted it. We get along very well with the girl, except that sometimes my partner makes a lot of difference when the girl is there. I am not successful, in everything it includes Your daughter, I feel very sad, I don’t know what to do.
Karla
01/18/2022
Hello, good afternoon, the truth is that I need some advice, I no longer know what to do with this situation, my partner has 3 children, two of whom live with us, the oldest is 15 and the youngest is about to turn 14. The issue here is that the child is 15. For years he had been acting strangely with me on a personal level for a long time and he took advantage of any situation to see my breasts, look at my underwear and even touch my butt according to him. With the argument it was an accident, I spoke many times with his father and asked him to stop, well, as I know well and it’s very clear to me, I can’t say or do anything to him because he’s not my son, but what ended my patience was that while I was taking a bath he had the nerve to look at me through the window when I saw him, he made stupid excuses for being Looking for something, I didn’t believe it at all, I told his dad and out of anger and helplessness I obviously cried. When he returned from work, he hit him and told him that he had to respect me.
The next day he was already as if nothing had happened. Out of anger, I didn’t talk to him because what he did, I can’t forgive him and apparently he was the one who was offended because he no longer wants to do anything, he ignores everyone, he became more rude.
I would really appreciate any advice or a word of encouragement.
Beforehand thank you very much
SUSA
10/28/2021
Hello, good evening, I would like to know how I can handle the situation with my husband’s children. They are not bad, but it has taken me a lot of work to get along with them and the only thing I have created has been a distance. I love my husband, but his children make me desperate. then understand things how they do them, one is of age and I say yes, the age he is and he doesn’t know how to do things or they don’t have the initiative to do them, I get desperate and do them but I know I’m wrong and I don’t know what to do I would greatly appreciate your advice on how I can handle those types of situations.
Paula
09/11/2021
I agree with the comments that say that they are tired of hearing that they have to accept that their children are the priority. This imposition of “You are secondary and you rub yourself in” is what makes the situation so heavy. I don’t think one should put up with being undervalued and that’s it. What we have to do is remember that our value as women is not determined by the “ranking” in which our partner puts us. There are men who prioritize their work, their mother or whatever, before their partner. The problem is that when it comes to children, society applauds them, and it is good for them to be responsible, no one wants them to abandon them. But it is also true that men are arrogant and selfish by nature and see children as extensions of their being. So, dear friends, I understand you and I know that it is not easy, but the only effective response is to never forget that our value does not depend on what a man or anyone attributes to us. To the extent that we are aware of this, they will stop destroying our self-esteem, whether in the name of their children or whatever. …Ah, because on top of everything, they even think they should be congratulated for their wonderful performance as parents, when the only thing they are an example of is their emotional neglect.
Breeze
07/24/2021
Hello, I have been with my partner for 2 and a half years, he is 27 years old and I am 21, he has a 9-year-old son, I met him obviously with a son, I accepted him but now time passes and it is difficult for me to get over the fact that he has a son, I mean there are many things for which it is now difficult for me to accept his son 🤷🏻♀️ what do I do?
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Flower
02/13/2022
Get out of that relationship… Even if you love him very much, that love will die because carrying children who are not your own is an ordeal… I loved my husband madly and I still do, but my mental health comes first… I had a son by him and because of their trauma of having left their other children, they put yours aside. Believe me, you will feel that and it will happen to you… So please get someone who will start from scratch with you… Let him be excited that they have a child… That everything is new for both of them… Get out of that relationship now
Lore
09/06/2022
I removed myself from a relationship like that, in fact their remorse that they left them makes the relationships fail, I can’t have children, and they always demanded that the child be my priority, their mother doesn’t work, and that they put me in her place and gave her things because her mother couldn’t. Soon the mother was more accepting, not the little one, and she left, leaving the child with my husband. And she wanted me to take care of him. But I could never educate him. Just doing homework like going to school, eating, washing and so on. Get out of that relationship. I got an arrogant man and after 4 years. I found a man without commitment and with treatment. God gave me 1 son. Be patient, no one has to live like this.
Isabel
07/09/2021
Hello, I have been dating my partner for 2 years and living together for almost 3 years. He is 32 and I am 23. He has a 7-year-old son and he lived with the child. But since the mother found out that he was dating me, she took him away and he came to live with me, on several occasions in the discussions she told me that she left her son for me and that she misses him, the boy comes to the house but doesn’t. We get along well, his mother has given him ideas that I should steal his father’s love, and because of me they don’t live together and it’s incorrigible, he turns the house upside down. I want to get his attention and he says things like he’s small, he doesn’t know what they are like. the children and it makes me angry to see how he treats him, it’s something like his son arrives and I don’t exist, he tells me that I’m crazy, how am I going to be jealous of his son and he always tells me that his son comes first and we hardly have a life. sexual because he is always worried or thinking about his son, I get depressed, enough is enough, I have already hit rock bottom, I told him that we should separate because he told me that he did not want to have more children because he already had one and he wanted to enjoy it. I know I’m a fool because despite all those things I still stay with him. 🙄☹☹☹
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Flower
02/13/2022
If you are a fool… That’s my answer… Let him stay with his son and go wherever he wants… You go and make your life with someone who even wants to have a life with you… The children leave in the end… He will be left alone, leave him
Matias
07/13/2022
If you should leave it. Find another person with your same goals, that’s the right thing to do…
Ruby
07/04/2021
I am very sad. I have been with my partner for 7 years when I met him. I had a son but I think I will never be able to deal with this. I don’t have children and I am still not sure if I will have a child with him. ABC would like to go away.
Dayanne
06/21/2021
Hello, I just turned 7 months old and I found out through a txt message that my boyfriend, who is 49 and I am 35, is not divorced. I don’t know how to face it. He asked me for 5 months to start living together in order to get his son on track. 17 and a daughter of 24, I thought in that period I would know their mother too, but no, of those 7 months she has only stayed on 4 Sundays of those 2 she has lived with my family, it irritates me that she doesn’t let go of the children or Buenos They are to bring a jug of water to the store. The 24-year-old doesn’t work but leaves him 1,000 pesos every week, the same goes for the other, I never thought I would see myself in this situation. He told me from the beginning that: “I would make it clear to them whether it seemed o not to his children, he was going to rebuild his life with me, he only had 1 year of responsibility with the 17 year old, which is false, he continues to support the 24 year old, he does not set limits for them, 3 people he trusts tell him that what they did to lose by giving them everything, (if of those 1000 pesos they spend 300, that amount will be replaced, so when they go to evaluate, isn’t that more harmful? They have told him that it is time for him to let them go, now even his eldest daughter who is married asks him to get an agency car, since my boyfriend is going to acquire a debt to buy a house, he even tells them how much it will cost, I believe that this issue should not be discussed with them or am I wrong?… well knowing that he dared to ask for the car, practically these months we have lived together 7 days a week 3 or 4 I stayed with him, he I wash, iron, clean your house, cook, which I do with pleasure. 1 week ago we had the first argument, I feel like something changed, we are both strong-willed, it all started like that, because a job came up in another state, it turns out that until September or say like this let’s go…