Like everyone, you deserve the best, you deserve to be happy and lead a dignified and peaceful life. Starting from this premise, the next step would be for you to reflect on what it is that does not make you feel deserving of all the good things that life has for you. Because I want, I can and I deserve it.
What happens to you, what surrounds you, is a true reflection of how you relate to yourself and the type of thoughts and beliefs you feed day by day. Ideas that you incessantly repeat to yourself, one after another and to which you cling as if they were the true universal laws. We already know that if you repeat a lie many times in the end you will feel it as a truth.
We hear people say that in order to take control of their lives they have had to “hit rock bottom” in order to make the firm decision to be happy. The truth is that everything a person needs to be happy is found within each one, it is not on the outside, it is not in material things, nor is it in another person (partner), despite this, it is difficult find inspiration, find something that pushes us out of our comfort zone.
It is not easy to make the decision to change habits, and to continue permanently, to do it in a structured way, putting in order what we already know is good for us. At this point one can allow himself to be helped, either in one way or another, we do not know everything and we do not know the tools or resources that can lead us to be successful.
A main issue that we must learn as human beings is to feel deserving of good things happening to us. Has it happened to you that when everything is going well for you, you feel that you owe someone something, as if you felt guilty for the achievements you are obtaining? Maybe because you’re not trying as hard as you’re supposed to to achieve something?
Guilt is one of the main enemies of deservedness. It’s the one that doesn’t allow you to take the perfect moment as it is and you can just be thankful for it. Blame disappointing someone, reaching further than someone you value highly, being different from the people you love, being successful, fulfilling your dream, being happy while others cannot be, having a higher income, to buy your own house, or with the opportunity to be able to live from what you like to do.
Just like guilt, your mind plays tricks on you, and it could be said that it is your but enemy, not only because it knows all your weaknesses, but because it creates them. The mind does not like new situations, it does not want to let you out of the stability in which you find yourself in your comfort zone and it will invent a thousand excuses to evade any attempt in a new situation. So don’t think about it too much, just act and you will see that little by little, your repeated actions will become a habit.
Surely with the passing of time you have postponed “looking at yourself”, “feeling yourself”, “listening to yourself”, knowing that you are strong, safe and confident and you have realized that you have done everything possible to distract yourself, to get away from things that you have wanted to do and in reality, nothing prevents you. Your biggest obstacle is you. So make the decision and repeat: because I want to, I can and I deserve it.
Where do you think your unworthiness lies? In what part of your life do you find yourself stuck or always repeating the same situation? Everything is in your mind and within your reach, if you want abundance and prosperity you will have abundance and prosperity.
It’s all in your way of thinking and acting in the world. There are no limits. Only you decide what you want for your life today, here and now. It is your attitude that determines what happens to you, so change your mind and prepare for the life you dream of. You decide when and what to change in your life. You decide what to feel and what to think.
Prepare an action plan and become, for a few days, a machine that does not think, only acts. If you need a change, if you really make the decision, from the inside, you must find the way, the people, or whatever you need to achieve your goal. If you really want it with all your might, with all of your being, you must choose to take responsibility.
Feel deserving of everything you want. Do not settle for what is fair, that is false modesty, it does not make you a better person, nor more humble.
Abundance comes with deserving.
Lead Image: Art by Shelia Liu