Martha
09/14/2022
Hello Lic.
I have been in a relationship with my partner for 10 years and have been living with him for 5 years. His son has been living with us for 2 and a half years and we have had many arguments about him. His son is 16 years old. He has no habits and since he came home I have asked my partner to educate him, he does not lift his plate from the table, he did not help with any housework until a few months ago when I asked him to wash the food dishes , my partner does not ask me to collaborate with any chores. He doesn’t pick up his plate from the table, he doesn’t lower the lever in the bathroom, he brushes his teeth and leaves all the food in the sink, he doesn’t leave the things that aren’t his in their place, what bothers me the most is that he doesn’t lower the one in the bathroom, this is how I have been asking the child to do it for 2 and a half years and asking my partner to ask him, I don’t know if it catches his attention or not, at least in front of me he doesn’t reprimand him and if he does In private, the child has not understood that he must lower the lever to the toilet. Sometimes I think that I don’t want to continue with the relationship.
Patricia Barros
05/25/2022
I need advice… I have been with my husband for 7 years, and we have 2 children, both 9 years old, and his son has been living with us for 4 years, but there are things that are not going well!!! His son sends mine to do things and sometimes when they do things they shouldn’t when they are not in our sight he tells my son not to say what they did because otherwise he doesn’t play with him anymore and tells him what he is going to say ( changing the story), on 3 occasions I have heard that he is going to live with his mother forever and things that I don’t like but aha… sometimes he tells my son that his uncle or cousin is nothing like him or tells the cousins not to play with mine! And he always leaves mine out. He has pinched him, hit him and endless things and tells him not to say anything because otherwise he won’t play with him anymore, my husband and I don’t know what to do since his mother doesn’t want to have him because she says she can’t keep him and all that! !! But I have come to think that the best thing is to end our marriage but we also have an 8-month-old baby together! My fear is having to deal with two ogres later or worse things… please help, thank you
Thamy
02/25/2022
I have been in a dating relationship for 8 years, my partner (he) has 2 children from two previous relationships (his ex-partners in turn have more children from other commitments) during this time I have seen little of his children and I feel that there is an affinity , his children who at this time went from children to adolescents by decision of my partner no longer have a relationship with me, nor have I been presented as his partner. This is sad to me, I tell my partner that I want to be part of it, occupying that place as his partner. This situation makes me doubt my partner’s intentions, years have passed and on the other hand our relationship is not consolidated. Tips. Thank you
Mopar
10/03/2021 Help!!! My partner has 4 children, (1 in his first relationship and 3 in the second) his oldest daughter (12 years old) is very jealous, and very spoiled, the child speaks loudly and rudely to him and he says that it is because he hates him. “trust”. He creates serious conflicts between us, and he is too jealous. When the three of us live together, the child kisses him on the mouth and ear and caresses him as if believing that he makes me jealous, and my partner allows it because he says it is trust, the child Sometimes it gets to a point that is unbearable. I have a son almost the same age (11 years old) and my son tries to have a good friendly relationship with my partner and his son, but sometimes they are so annoying in the way they get along. to a degree that they (my partner and his son) think they are funny and in reality it makes me angry how the child talks to him but every time I bring up the subject he tells me what it is because they trust each other that yes I envy their relationship xk I don’t get along with my son like that, I really love that man but I’m nowhere near definitively ending my relationship because of that, I’m clear that he will always be his son and I don’t even intend to take his place. his mother, nor wanting to “educate” him or anything like that, much less separate them but I really don’t know how to help my partner first so that he realizes that that is not normal, 😭😭😭 help!!! I really ask you, thank you!! Please guide me!!
maria lara
07/29/2021
I have lived with my partner for 5 years and he has 4 children and I have taken care of them. Until I realized that their parents do not assume their roles towards them while I live overwhelmed and exploited, I decided to give myself more importance and give each person their correspondence. Now I receive backlash and abuse from my partner
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Leidy
11/19/2021
It’s good that you have realized that you don’t have to take responsibility for others. Take care of yourself, it is very necessary.
leonardo
06/08/2021
Good morning doctor, my name is Leonardo, I currently live with my partner and his 8 year old son, due to changes since they came here from another city, he has acquired many bad behaviors from the beginning (throwing things, not paying attention to what what his mother demands, throwing food, acts of violence, he doesn’t like the house, he doesn’t bathe, he doesn’t do his homework) I don’t know if those attitudes are due to the change since in his other city he lived in a cradle of gold with his grandparents and had many more comforts, and they fulfilled all his whims, the question and finally is that we are about to separate because we cannot address the situation, we tried everything to talk to him both about the things that have to be done, proposing rules of coexistence of all kinds and nothing, thanks for reading a hug
Lily
06/07/2021
Hello, I don’t have anyone to tell this to but seeing your comments helps me a little. I have 3 children with my husband, of course I met him first with his son, he was 6 when I married him, before the child only came on weekends, but now he lives with us and has been there for a year now, but I can’t stand him now he is 13 and the truth is, he doesn’t obey me, he has even disrespected me when I call his attention, he sees me in a very ugly way as if he wanted to hit me, he only gets upset because I ask him to clean up his bedroom or take a bath, that’s the only thing I tell him. I ask.
And the worst thing I say to my husband and he just scolds him right away and weeks go by and he, as if nothing had happened, never asks me how I’m doing with his son. I’m the one who has to give him the complaints. Imagine that aside, I have my three babies sometimes. I’m crazy and the worst thing is that I then take it out on my children for what I can’t tell their son, I don’t know what to do.
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Seni
07/07/2021
Hello Lili, I am in the same situation as you. My husband has a daughter, whom I have known since she was 4 years old and there have never been any problems, I have always taken care of her. Now she is almost 13 and she is snappy, rude, and she is not clean at all, but nothing. My husband never scolds her, she is overprotected. About 2 months ago she fought me and left with her mother, she hasn’t asked for forgiveness and my husband forces me to come back and wash her (she changes her clothes 3 times a day), take her to school, take care of her at her meals and be her maid without saying anything so she doesn’t get overwhelmed. I want to separate, I can’t stand it anymore, but I have two small children and I’m not prepared to not see them. I don’t know what to do. 🙁
Kathy
08/05/2021
The truth in my opinion Between the couple if children are important in our lives but as couples we must act and be a change if they are lacking in respect to our partners if the partner does not like the idea then it is better to leave it, prefer to leave the children Let them govern because that’s how you remain single as if your children grow up and go on with their lives, but you try to be a couple, you have to be even, it’s not what the children want. Or they are used to it, the man is not going to put a foot down in the scrubbing, we don’t have to put up with and waste time with other people’s children, better alone than in bad company, better for your children, you give them more attention and love with other people’s children and still struggling, well, no, it’s better to be alone.
Diana S
07/21/2022
Don’t worry, friend, good morning 😊 Remember that everything you sow will one day reap. If you feel love for your partner, sow love in that child, also treat them the same as your children. Remember, they are our responsibility until they are of age, you better enjoy this long road and every day have a fun plan for your home, remember that you are the captain of that ship that is your home, it depends on you how happy you are, it is a child and remember that children are beaten with games so for him to tidy up his room you tell him who tidies up his room more beautifully wins a surprise and when it’s his turn to take a bath you tell him I’m going to put bubbles in the bathroom who wants to take a bath? They are children and you beat them with creativity. Fill your home with love and patience, hug everyone, tell them that mom is there and that every day is going to be nice, look for solutions, not problems. They are innocent and their happiness depends on you more than anyone else… come on, sweetheart, if you can. God entrusted them to you… remember that our children do not belong to us, they are only borrowed in our life. Enjoy the present, it is a true gift and ALWAYS SMILE that is good for the soul and gives peace. Good luck
José
05/05/2021
I would like to know what I should do. My problem is the following: my wife’s daughter, who has always been problematic, is 25 years old and lives independently with her partner, destabilizes my wife with phone calls, which for one reason or another always end up laughing and then the mother He pays for it with me being in a bad mood for days. The truth is that I am tired of this situation, what advice can you give me?
ADELEINE
04/09/2021
My husband is a widower, we have been living together for a year and a half, and he does not want to get married until his daughters, who are older than 22, finish college. I feel bad about that. I think that they are already adults and that my home situations should not be based on them, since they do not love me and study in another city. I feel like it’s an excuse not to get married. What do they tell me?
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Seni
07/07/2021
I… got married and I made a mistake… live together, but marriage is overrated. It’s a way to tie yourself to someone who, by the looks of it, doesn’t care much about your needs. If you get married, I advise you to make separate property.
Betty
03/13/2021
I was living with a man who did not have a good relationship with my 12-year-old son, it was very overwhelming, justifying that he had bad habits, it is true, but it seemed to me that she was exaggerating when complaining about him. We separated, but we want to stay together, the problem is that my son no longer wants to be with me and his father’s partner doesn’t want him to live with them. My partner and I live 10 hrs. Away and we would like to be together from time to time, would it be foolish of me to leave my son in the care of his grandparents? Or how would it affect my child emotionally? to go with my partner for a month, we love each other and we identify with each other a lot and he can’t go where I am, because of his work. My son tells me to go, but alone, he won’t go with me.
Raul
02/22/2021
My current partner has a big problem, he is a four-year-old boy, and he is already experiencing a degree…