Rest days favor reflection and introspection. For this reason, on these dates of change of year and cycle, I always like to dedicate a session, with the people who come to my office, to take stock of the progress we have made in your therapy during the year which is about to end.
We also take advantage of this situation to plan the areas in which we will have to work during the next one, so that they can achieve their therapeutic objectives. I am not referring to reviewing the typical objectives that we all set ourselves at the beginning of the year (eat better, exercise more, travel more, etc.). This analysis includes other more psychological aspects such as overcome fears, reprogrammed family patterns or reinforced self-esteem.
In consultation we always approach this analysis from a positive point of view. People are happy and proud of the achievements, while weighing the objectives that they have not been able to achieve without pressure. The philosophy should always be to learn from mistakes and take it as an opportunity to draw conclusions, readjust what we need and refocus, from a new perspective, on the problem. How to make this balance?
Remember that this emotional balance of the year is very personal and that each one must draw their own conclusions.
- exist some general aspects, valid for everyone (I detail them below), which we can review when undertaking this balance. Perhaps they will also serve as a guide for you to carry out your own emotional review of the year we left behind. Although do not forget each person is different and carries their individual history.
- At each of these points, We can ask ourselves some questions, by way of orientation. For example: Have I improved or have I stagnated? What can I learn and what conclusions can I draw? What do I want to consider for next year?
- Take advantage of this article toreflect on the year that is about to end, to extract all the possible learning and to continue, during the next year, focusing on the achievement of your well-being.
Have you connected with yourself?
Due to the pressures they receive, from the family, from school and from society, many people move away from themselves and their true physical and emotional needs. By meeting the expectations of others or to avoid getting angry, they conform, do not protest and learn to be more aware of others than of themselves.
- The time has come to move, each year a little more, in the right direction, not outwards but inwards, increasingly connected with ourselves, paying attention to our own desires and needs, not those of others.
Do you keep repeating familiar patterns?
Almost without realizing it we repeat patterns or attitudes that we have contemplated, since we were born, in our parents and/or grandparents (addictions, screaming, anxiety, etc.). We have internalized them in such a way that in moments of greatest tension, even if we don’t like them, they are harmful and we have promised ourselves never to repeat them, they appear automatically.
- Do not worry or beat yourself up if you keep falling for them, remember that they have always been there and cannot be changed overnight.
- The important thing is that you identify them and work to free yourself from them. Think that your parents had circumstances that are not yours. What worked for them may no longer work for you.
Do you know what your path is?
As we free ourselves from the burdens of the past and the chains that governed our thought, we can look within and connect more directly with our intuition. From this place, we will be able to feel what we want to do, how we want to live our life and which path we should take.
- Trust yourself and look for what you have always liked, what filled you up and made you feel good when you were little. Listen for the signs that tell you where your way is.
Have you focused on what’s important?
Many times, we tend to worry in an exaggerated way about things that, when we put them in perspective, don’t have that much importance.
- We must learn to give each event the relevance it truly has, neither more nor less. In this way, situations that do not deserve it will stop generating anxiety and we will have more energy to deal with those that are really important.