How to overcome depression for love - 6 tips to be better

Carlos

05/18/2022

I have a relationship of almost 22 years with my wife (married 12), I could say that it is very good although the gossip has been lost and the sex has become almost non-existent, however we get along very very well. For various reasons I travel a lot and sometimes we are separated for more than a month, in the last year in one of the destinations (my country of origin) I have met a younger girl (15 years younger than me), beautiful and we have experienced many things , not only having a good time and good sex but more issues of affinity that have made this parallel relationship really important (at least for me). She (the girl) is very practical and when we separate and understand that I have my wife, she seems to easily re-adapt to her life, her friends, etc., of course it makes me very jealous, I I want just for myself. However, I feel a little trapped between relationships and now back in Spain with my wife, it’s not that I have a bad time, it’s simply that I miss my “lover” too much, she seems like a perfect girl for me, no only physically but intellectually, although we do not share as many tastes as with my wife. The truth is that this is bringing me sadness, reluctance, insomnia, discomfort and above all an incredible desire to throw everything away and go with her and leave my wife, which is not an easy task because here where I live with my wife (I love her very much). ) obviously we share a flat, I have an excellent job in Spain, and leaving would involve many traumatic issues. Should I accept what happened with my lover as an adventure (which was not just that) and rebuild everything well and continue with my wife?…Should I consider telling my wife and looking for another way out? The truth is I feel a little trapped. Thanks for any comments.

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Yiya

10/08/2022

Hello, advice from the heart. Firstly, think what it is love, what it is satisfaction, what it is family and finally what it is happiness. You analyze well and which of the three. You would choose. If you decide to break up with your wife, never tell her that it is because of someone else, that will kill her self-esteem, and you will not only end up with your wife but also with the family. Good luck and choose the best for you.

Kevin

06/26/2021

How can I let go of a person that I love but they no longer love me? What can I do? Sometimes I feel like my process never moves forward.

louis

06/21/2021

My ex-partner and ex-wife left me more than a year ago. A few months later I found out that she had left me for someone who during our relationship was a friend of hers…after 2 months he was already her boyfriend and now she is pregnant with When, being my partner, I begged him to give me a child because we lived together and had plans to get married and he didn’t want to because I was very young, the fact is that at the same time I understood that he never loved me because otherwise he wouldn’t have done what I did. What she did, because of my love for her I only wished her the best in the world but the problem is that I cannot forget her even though I have not had contact with her or seen her for a year, since we are no longer in the same country, no matter how much I I have tried, I have not been able to forget her and perhaps because I still feel something for her but everything has happened in a way that sometimes I do not understand, that has led me to depression although in the beginning the depression was stronger I still get depressed at times the only thing I would like is forget her completely and be able to continue with my life… since I have several projects in mind but thinking about her does not allow me to carry them out since I am living a past that has already happened… what should I do, thank you… And may God bless you! !

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JACKELINE

07/13/2021

I understand your pain perfectly and psychological help from a specialist on the subject would help you a lot, that helped me.

Adriana Galeano

05/10/2021

Help me get my husband out of my life, who is a humiliating egoist and ignores me, fights me every time there is a special date like my birthday, Mother’s Day, etc. He fights me the day before in order to depress me and leave me alone and then he talks to me again as if nothing had happened

Johanna

04/12/2021

I had a long relationship of more than 11 years. We were going to turn twelve on the 19th in January, everything was fine, but at the end of January and beginning of February, the relationship began to change. He began to distance himself from me. He had gotten a new job where he would have I came into contact with many people, obviously when I saw his behavior I decided to ask what he always evaded or treated me like crazy, without knowing what to think I started every day to ask the reason for his change but nothing I started looking for things in his cell phone new ones every day I found a number but I deleted it but he saved it again daily one day I decided to hack his cell phone and he saved the number as soon as he got to work but I didn’t see what he wrote only what she answered and you tell him my love things like that he realized because I opened the msg immediately I didn’t know what to do and I went to work I took away his cell phone and I didn’t give it to him he returned to work but when I wanted to write from his cell phone to his lover she I had blocked, she never answered, I swear to her children that I had nothing with her that everything was a misunderstanding that I didn’t think was good, we were still in constant discussions, I blocked, I saw his cell phone number but he unblocked it and I was obviously bothered by it because Because our relationship was getting worse every day, we began to talk and we agreed to move forward, but I continued with that thorn and doubt. One day I saw the same thing again, called the online solo, and he didn’t write anything to me. In March, on the 14th, we took With some friends, tired of the same thing, I lost control and started saying hurtful things to him and I also told him that I had also cheated on him with a person from my job, which wasn’t the case, I just did it to make him feel bad, but that’s it. He took it as an excuse to get away from me. After that, he told me that he no longer loved me, that the little he felt for me was gone that day that I said that I was unfaithful to him and that we separated because of that, but let’s continue living together. our daughters that if I fail as a woman I should not fail as a mother that wanting to see her daughters grow up I accepted thinking that we could fix our situation but he continued to have contact with his lover I saw calls from her and messages from him but he He denied everything, we discussed the issue as a mutual friend, knowing the situation, he acknowledged that she called him but that he has nothing with her, it’s just a friendship, but I don’t think so because if that were the case, he wouldn’t care so much about hearing from her. After that, he changed his password. and I gave him a password for everything obviously I can no longer know anything about him through his cell phone because we are at home and he hides for w I don’t see the password and you don’t see who he texts with but he stays up very late chatting I I see him but I can’t know who he is with and that’s how we are until today but there are days when he is with me in private but it’s not the same as before the problems he doesn’t accept that I kissed him on the mouth yesterday we went out to eat and shop and he behaved a bit affectionate but the night I told him to be with him and he didn’t want to and today he behaved again as if I didn’t exist and I’m really so confused so depressed so disoriented that I didn’t focus my vision without him I don’t know how to get away from him and Of all the things that hurt me, I would like help, I don’t have any friends, only my world revolved around him, I forgot about myself and I only thought about him, I left aside my friendships, they were few, but now I don’t have them.

Mari

04/01/2021 I have suffered disappointments due to betrayal, and I have read this article, but it does not get me out of my rut, I have been married for 17 years, and I feel like I can’t take it anymore, I need help and I would like to know if I can count on you, via virtual

I feel very sad, I would like to have contact with a psychologist via virtual means.

Kate

01/13/2021

Well, I, well, I was in love with someone now, well, I’m dating someone and well, the other person is suffering from depreciation because I’m no longer with him and I want to help him and he and I are trying to commit suicide because we don’t forget each other,😔 But well, I already I got over it But he didn’t 😣😔

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Mariely

05/26/2021

Help him in every way you can

Leonard

12/19/2020

Hmmm, mine is something curious, I met a girl in a very natural way through a game, without any intention of being boyfriend and girlfriend, it took several months to be able to trust each other and little by little it increased, after 3 months we said that We felt something for each other, I had never had a long-distance partner and much less did I think that you could feel something so great for a person whom you don’t see every day, after about 1 year of acquaintances between those almost 6 or 7 boyfriends, everything is over, and I didn’t think that she would enter my heart so much, it hurts even more than a girlfriend I had, with whom I spent a lot of time face to face, but with the girlfriend I had at a distance it was many months, many hours a day on calls, but everything in this life teaches you a lesson, it has hurt me, but little by little it stops hurting, sometimes when I think about it a lot I try to cry, because after crying I feel calmer, but for a long time I can’t cry for a while, I think my brain no longer sees it as necessary, it’s just a matter of time and eliminating all the things that remind you of that person 😀

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