Good morning Cristina, grateful for your kind and immediate response.
Regarding your recommendations
Does this relationship make you feel good? Yes, until you know what you are going to see with that person, even though he asked me for a second chance and I realized it immediately… the intimate distance between us returned again, two days ago we became intimate and I felt that I was doing it more out of commitment to couple who out of desire… the frequencies have dropped a lot since he is dating this person and he argues that he is going through a difficult stage, I don’t believe him because when I look for him and stimulate him he looks for any excuse to lower his libido and that’s as far as he goes, intelligent- My mind hugs me and is conscious as usual to not bring differences and I fell hoping that this will happen… but nevertheless I know that it will not be like that.
What do you value most in a relationship, is he giving you? Everything except his attacks of freedom that he demands every time he wants to be unfaithful and his attitude becomes ostensible and offensive, giving signs that he wants me to be the one to end the relationship. His lies are his highlight of the day, this kills any value in our relationship.
What are the advantages of continuing in it and what disadvantages do you find? Advantages: his company, time, dedication… until that magic of him breaks every time this person demands his presence and financial help, which he denies, he even gives it to her, she even has her debit card, if I’m still in the relationship am I valuing myself? I feel like no… I’m getting worn out from giving so much and always seeing her lies after lies and impudence, she uses my feelings without scruples and care if not hers too… although she knows we have a relationship and yet she always seeks to ask I left, does the person next to me value my qualities (not only verbally but with actions)? He says yes… but if her actions are to fulfill the responsibilities of every couple and continue lying, looking for excuses to be unfaithful, I don’t think he values me… he just uses me.
You see, I am in denial and loss of self-love that does not allow me to move forward, to be decisive and, worst of all, I do not need to support myself or do things for me because I have always been very independent… I feel like I am his stability and material balance more than sentimental, those who I have spoken with tell me… so much so that a friend of his tells me HE IS NOT GOING TO LEAVE YOU BECAUSE HE GUARANTEES STABILITY AND HE IS NOT GOING TO LEAVE HER BECAUSE HE LIKES YOU. LIKE