Anonymous
08/17/2022
Thanks for the post and I appreciate the opportunity to write my story.
The girl I currently love was a good friend at the time, then we fell in love and were dating for 1 year until we broke up for various reasons. There was always an exquisite fluidity in us and a very strong sentimental intensity.
Here comes the thing, she slept with my best friend often, it was her “regular encounter.” Being good-natured, I was always a little in the middle of both of them, making jokes or listening to her complaints that this friend of mine couldn’t and didn’t want to take the next step…
As both of their situations ended, we began to get closer and closer to her, to the point where we made that intense connection immediately. The pandemic came and we became very close. The courtship was anticipated and we began a very intense relationship. The problems came with them and we ended the relationship 1 year ago.
Today, 1 year later, we met again and the connection is more alive than ever. But this meant that my fears, my jealousies, my insecurities resurfaced on the surface.
We love each other but I feel that this great detail prevents me from enjoying ourselves as a couple. To the point that I imagine all kinds of situations, such as that I couldn’t take her to a gathering of friends where my friend in question is and she is in the same place. I just can not. I need help, advice, whatever, I’m desperate.
Paris
12/28/2021
I would like you to give me your opinion. My partner always told me that she was a virgin and years later she told me that she had had sex with her ex but before I met her and then she told me no, it was a lie and she only told me so that I would be jealous and I would like your opinion if she told the truth or lied to me?
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mark
07/15/2022
I think he lied to you because he wouldn’t say it just because he analyzes how many years he was with his ex and sees how long it took for you to be intimate.
Slp
12/28/2021
Ami, I would like to know the truth, my partner, after years of being together, on one occasion we had a fight that he had slept with his ex but that it had been before I met her… and then he told me that it was a lie that he only Did she make me upset and jealous? I would like to know if she told the truth or lied to me?
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Pedro
07/12/2022
I think he told you the truth and then regretted it
Anonymous
10/03/2021
I am currently in a relationship with my best friend, we were best friends for five years and a few months ago we were a couple. During the period of best friends, it is obvious that we tell each other everything… I know about her sexual past, and she knows about mine. She has only had one sexual partner and you don’t know how much that torments me. Many times everything that they must have done under the four knobs goes through my head. And I know that it is wrong for me to think about all that since I also have my past, I know it very deeply… but it still affects me to the point that I lose the desire to talk to her.
It’s a little strange because when we were best friends it didn’t affect me when she told me that she had her first time with that guy, but now that we have a romantic relationship it does affect me to think that, what’s more… I don’t even want her to. I mentioned it.
I’m afraid that this will affect our relationship in the medium or long term, we have magnificent chemistry, we love each other too much, she shows me her love every day, I don’t want to waste so much time and I don’t ever want to lose her because of these stupid thoughts. I don’t know what to do… I would like to know if the same thing happens to anyone…
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Yoeljealous
04/09/2022
Note that I also have a nice relationship with my now wife, when she told me about her past before when I met her it didn’t bother me that much but after we were married it did start to bother me more and more and that’s because I imagine how he did to her. love? If she perhaps used positions like me? And it bothers me to think if she did it more often with them or if she was calm and when she gives me oral I sometimes think if she doesn’t compare herself to the others? Women have better memories than men and they remember details and as a man you don’t remember almost anything. I don’t remember women like I did but they do and that bothers me a lot. Retro jealousy is very harmful and I know but I try to read articles to get over them, it seems like I’m going to have to visit a psychologist because it’s not her fault that I have that jealousy……
Anonymous
07/12/2022
For just one couple before you, that’s nothing. Forgotten and go love her
Belen
10/03/2021
It hurts me that with the boy I liked and that we came and went but we were friends we spent Christmas together and the next day I told him that I didn’t want to ruin the friendship, so on New Year’s he slept with someone else and that same night he wrote to me At the same time I started dating someone else but we ended up being boyfriend and girlfriend and today the New Year hurts me.
Ruben
09/09/2021
Hello. I started with a girl with whom we only had sexual attraction, time passed and we fell in love, she told me that at 18 years old “due to things in life and because she saw herself on the street” she had to become a luxury escort, At first I didn’t care, but as I’ve fallen in love with it, it matters more to me. I want everything with her but at the same time her past weighs on me like a weight, and suddenly I think that I wish I had never met her, I was the one who asked her to tell me everything and well, everything she did and what they did is impressive. I don’t know what to do, I’m not very convinced about this… Thank you.
Allen
07/31/2021
I have been very close to my arguments and those of this article, however, it is difficult for me to assimilate that I have self-esteem problems, but I do not reject the argument either.
I don’t know if I can look for a psychologist to positively feed my self-esteem.
My name is Cecilia Gómez González
07/21/2021
I just found out that my partner last year, even though he was with me, did not forget his ex, we broke up and this year we started the relationship from scratch, everything I just found out affects me a lot since he only used me, this year since We started the relationship again, he has shown me that he has really changed, but what he did to me a year ago still affects me.
What should I do? Do I end him because of the bad person he was to me or do I continue with him?
Anonymous
06/28/2021
Hello, my current partner’s past torments me since it is not the first time we met, 2 years ago we were a couple and it didn’t work out, she wanted to come back a few months later, noticing that she was not reciprocated with anger and pride on top of it. She linked up with all my friends, passing around photos (packs), somewhat uncomfortable conversations, etc., now we met again and fell in love again, and sometimes I see things like a memory chat where she has saved those photos, little memories come to me the head that torments me a lot, to the point of not knowing what to do, I am in love with her and I love her but this torments me a lot…..
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Mat
07/15/2022
Leave it is the best for a while you will be fine and then that
Leo
06/15/2021
The past is important, since it helps you destroy the ideas that you mentally create with the reality of the facts. You can imagine that he had a night of intense sex, and it turns out that it lasted less than 5 minutes. What is true is that the fact that I don’t wait for you or don’t save myself will always bother you. In my case, I despised many girls for wanting to save me for the woman who would be with me for life… And it turns out that you fall in love with a girl and she reveals to you that she was with others. She makes you think that if they break up with you, the unconditional love that you told her you had so much was not true. Who says that someone’s past doesn’t matter, it’s because they have a tail that gets stepped on. But those of us who are faithful to the idea of one person have the right to ask questions to cope with the situation and try to save the relationship.
Ivan Acosta
06/02/2021
I can’t stop thinking about my girlfriend’s exes. I feel like they are better than me because they managed to win her over before me even though I liked her and have known her for 1o years. I feel that this is beyond my mental strength. Besides, she has more sexual and loving experience than me and I wonder: Why has she noticed me? I don’t have many doubts and that stops me from giving him love.
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Richard
07/12/2022
Friend, I’m sorry to tell you that you are BETA…. I don’t know how old they are but I’m sure she uses you (men and women use each other) to provide…. Be careful, an ex may appear there…
Joe
04/27/2021
Hello, I hope you are well, I loved your page, thank you for helping people who need a professional to advise us. After 12 years of divorce, and without dating anyone, I have met a very good woman, I have been dating her for 5 months, she was very in love with a person a year ago and one day he told her that he didn’t want anything with her, for something stupid, because she told him that she had done it several times. She spent the summer holidays with him and the weekends, she packed her suitcase and left, very upset, she signed up for a contact website and met me, we immediately met and started dating, this man has tried several times contact her and she has told him that she would like to go see him but that it is not possible, she has not told him that she is dating me, she makes him understand that she just wants to stay as friends. The truth is that I was investigating on my own and I came to know something about that Lord and one day it escaped me that I knew about him, but I never used the information to harm anyone but to find out what he was like. She got very angry and told me to forget about her, but two days later we talked again and she told me that she really loved me and that the other one was the past. But I keep thinking about that Lord, that I am very happy with her in all aspects, that they recommend what I should do. Thank you for all your attention.
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MANUEL
05/14/2021
Stay away friend, he doesn’t value you as a person. If it is an ex from the past and especially if they ended badly. It should not hide you, on the contrary it should give you your place. And don’t talk to him or block him, because he’s supposedly no longer interested. you should realize
Dayi
04/01/2021
My name is Dayana, I have been in a relationship for 1 year and 4 months. At the beginning of our relationship, things happened that affected me too much. After 5 months, my partner tried to change me for a girl and I couldn’t complain about anything because we had been together for very little and I didn’t We saw each other frequently but that killed me in life because I was already in love with him, he played a lot with my feelings in such a way that I became a totally different person, toxic, jealous, crazy and I lost a lot of weight, I didn’t sleep, I felt super bad… When We talked, we came back again, I was too in love and I didn’t feel for anyone what I felt for him. We came back and got married, but the past torments me too much. What can I do? I feel jealousy, insecurities and sometimes moments of sadness…