Love is a word so widely used that, sometimes, there is a risk of calling anything love and not knowing how to differentiate the gratifying feeling from the unhealthy one. How can you cut a negative relationship in time to allow yourself to welcome a constructive bond? To start, you have to learn how to differentiate healthy love from unhealthy feeling and, from there, go to rebuild the relationship or work on what we need to change in ourselves to improve in the relationship or in future relationships.
First of all, healthy love It is the feeling of fulfillment that you have when being with someone who complements you because values you just the way you are, it reinforces you and doesn’t want you to change. In the same way, it gives you freedom, it helps you grow in all areas of your life, you can complete this relationship with other friendships with other people and you can continue enjoying various social circles.
Instead, sick love It is one that becomes an obsession. It is more based on the conflict than in happy moments. Behind an unhealthy love, the idea of love with a criterion of belonging is also highly developed. From this perspective jealousy They are also justified for those who think that it is impossible to love without being jealous at certain moments.
Nothing could be further from the truth, all this type of myths does is promote an unhealthy idea of emotional ties. Thus, love is not belongingSimply because no one is property. Therefore, there is also the individual freedom to break a bond that is not rewarding.
When you have fallen into the networks of an unhealthy love, then your whole world becomes complicated. You have more worries at work, less quality of life, more anger with your family… On the other hand, when you have a pleasant love on an emotional level, your whole life flows more naturally. In a love of these characteristics there are fewer mood swings and less intensity in emotions. But, happiness is also palpable in the simple.
This article is merely informative, at Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.