Luis Enrique\
08/14/2023
A question
My wife is very jealous of me and she got into it with my neighbor and she hears voices at times, she is fine with me from one moment to the next she changes her attitude and comes back with the same thing
Fredy Leonel Valiente Contreras
02/14/2023
Thank you very much for the information. My partner is bipolar.
RAFA
09/16/2022
Hello everyone.
I have been married for 30 years, and my wife debuted with BPD 5 years ago. She does not accept the psychiatrist’s diagnosis or her pharmacological treatment. Every year it goes through depressive phases in winter, and hypomanic phases in summer. In the latter, she looks great, active, enterprising, reckless, verbose and VERY ANGERY. Whatever she does, she annoys him, especially when she contradicts him. She is then capable of being aggressive, with insults, shouting, contempt and lack of respect. She had never been like this. She now appears self-centered, narcissistic, and very capricious. There is only her and her desires and her needs and her plans.
We are suffering a lot.
What can we do?
Thanks so much for reading.
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Frank
11/16/2022 Dear. I’m not a professional. So I will give my comment regarding my early experience with this disorder, but also from my personal opinion of what I expect from a stable partner.
If you have already had a diagnosis of BPD (confirmed by a professional) there is nothing more to do. It is chronic, there is no cure. You will always suffer from it. The more acute episodes you suffer, the greater the damage will be. I understand that in some cases it is cumulative. With medication, these episodes can be reduced and patients can be kept in euthymic phases (normal mood) and lead a normal life. But to do this you must be willing to:
1. Accept your diagnosis (this could apply to any other disease)
2. Follow pharmacological treatment and consult with your psychiatrist for any side effects (adjustments can be made)
3. Support yourself with psychotherapy. It will help them better manage their thoughts: As you mention, they tend to get irritated if you contradict them, since they feel very sure of their ideas. They become obsessed with them and since their mind sees (according to them) everything so clearly, it irritates them that you don’t understand them.
If your wife is not aware of this and denies its reality. Things can be difficult here, given your years of marriage, it would be worth giving yourself some time. Think about your own well-being. That she denies her diagnosis is not part of BPD, that corresponds to her own personality, it is typical of her. So if you want a healthy life, maybe you should take a step away. The problem is not that he is sick…the problem is that he does not accept treatment. Her behavior will worsen. The medication is for LIFE. 90% of those who stop taking medication suffer an acute condition again, whether manic or depressive.
Much luck and strength.
I hope I’ve helped
Mauro
09/09/2022
My partner left me, it’s my fault, I stopped treatment years ago, and my conditions are getting deeper and deeper, nothing but that
Juanjo
07/24/2022
Hello. I suffer from bipolar disorder, I didn’t know it, with alternating episodes of mania and depression, a psychiatrist treated me for depression and I noticed that it was not going well. Since another psychiatrist gave me adequate therapy for TB, I have led a very normal life. Of course, you have to be VERY disciplined with the medication, not drinking coffee or alcohol. Believe me, you can get out of this.
Shanin
07/12/2022
Good afternoon everyone, thank you for sharing your experiences. I have a bipolar partner for 17 years, he has followed treatment in recent years without great improvements and I agree that it is a roller coaster of emotions both for the person who suffers from it and for the person who accompanies his day day day My question is knowing when to consider his real need to separate and continue alone, since his emotions vary so diametrically according to his emotional phase. I want to do what is best for both of us and I don’t know how.
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Lola
07/31/2022
Get away as soon as possible, protect your mental health. This condition is never cured and over time it gets worse and if we talk about the manipulation that comes with it….. seek your peace, there are many more fish in the water.
Maria Angelica
08/31/2022
Hello Shanin, I hope you are well today, I have a daughter with this diagnosis, we live in Chile and I would like to give you information about a support group in which both patients, family members or people who live with patients with this condition share to support each other. On the other hand, I hope that her partner is hired and this must be constant and rigorous, both with a psychiatrist, medications and psychologically.
The group is circulopolar.cl, it is on all social networks and is very helpful.
A hug
mad
01/22/2022
First of all, thank you all for commenting on your different experiences. I met someone who was a single mother, we were dating for 2 months. She told me that she had TB. I didn’t pay much attention because I think it’s normal for one to change their mood from time to time. But I realized that it was something delicate when, despite not being dating, he told me that he loved me, that he adored me, and suddenly one day he didn’t respond to my message on WA. and posted in his WA state that he was in “bipolar mode.” There I realized that she wanted to be alone, or at least she didn’t want to talk to me. I realized that she was not under medical treatment. I practice a lot of meditation to have a stable mind and consciousness and I was not prepared for that emotional rejection that altered my inner peace. There I discovered how difficult it is for someone who doesn’t want drama to have a normal relationship with a TB.
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Karol
02/09/2022
Hello Mad, I read your comment, I’m going through something similar and I can’t understand it either. I would like to talk to someone who has or is going through these situations where they don’t know what to do.
Lola
04/17/2022
Hello Mad, having a relationship with a person with TB is very frustrating. I experienced it with my ex-partner, I did everything in my power to help him and try to maintain the relationship and what I managed to do was get depressed, I lost the confidence I had in myself and it was very difficult to overcome all the damage he did to me emotionally. I would tell you that within all their illness, they are also selfish, they do not care about the damage they cause to others. So if you want advice, stay far away. And don’t let anything or anyone disturb your peace of mind. Luck!!!
Emanuel
07/20/2022
Hello..as advice, prioritize your physical and mental health! The bipolar person does not value anything, you can give everything for them but when you make a mistake or do something that they do not like, they simply leave you and forget everything else and you become the worst person for them, and you are screwed.. ….I ended up with a beautiful emotional dependency, low self-esteem, in addition to being physically screwed, as advice, get away as soon as possible for 1 year and a half banking on everything friend, listen to me, take care of yourself……
Angelica
07/29/2021
Living with this affects your day to day life, it exhausts you and in romantic relationships it goes without saying it is a time bomb, they have already left me twice and taken my son away from me.
Mike
06/20/2021
My fiancé suffers from bipolar syndrome, he says he is healthy but he is not, when this illness hits his mind he destroys himself and hurts himself so as not to hurt me or so he says, I can’t stand seeing him like this, please help me, it hurts to see him like this every time He is good, loving, dedicated, strong and attentive, but when this illness hits his mind he talks a thousand things, he does things that he would not do if he were healthy, I do not want to leave him as I have been advised, I love him, I cannot leave him alone, I have already changed many bandages, and see wounds that heal, but I don’t want there to be more, please help me, I love him so much
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ruben
07/05/2021
I am in the same situation, we have a relationship of 5 years and 4 years living together, I have to stop working for fear of leaving her alone, I live with the anxiety of knowing that she could get hurt, because she has already done it several times, and I don’t have the help of either his parents or siblings and even less of his “friends.” I don’t know what to do right now, he’s having a very bad time, he says he doesn’t love me anymore and he’s put me on bad terms with everyone. I don’t know what to do anymore I’m desperate
Daisy flower
10/28/2021
The same thing happens to me too. I have a boyfriend, we have been together for 5 years, he is so tender, good and affectionate. But when this illness attacks him, he changes too much. I don’t want to quit either but it’s exhausting. I don’t want to Acerle Dano by leaving him. He doesn’t recognize the problem, he says he’s fine, help me.
SUN
03/05/2022
Good afternoon, I am a mature woman and after dreaming so much about a beautiful relationship….I met Carlos through video calls. We have not met in person yet—but now a giant fear invades me…he is very tender Worried about me, he has TB, he has been taking medication for several years and he is in regular check-ups with his doctor… a very great feeling of love has grown between both of us. My question is, will I do him good… I don’t want to cause him harm… He lives with his mother and she protects him a lot…maybe it’s better to get away…please guide me…I love him too much to hurt him…I don’t know whether to continue or leave him. thank you so much
susi
06/13/2021
I had a relationship with a bipolar person, but I think we had many obstacles, to begin with he was of a different race, educated, another language, and another culture, an economic level higher than mine, also the most difficult thing to understand each other is that I have TLC, or borderline as they know him. We got to know each other for about a year and a half. At first everything was very beautiful and he was very loving and attentive to me, after a year we started to distance ourselves, but he was always there looking for me and I wanted to end it like 10 times but he always looked for me until one day because of something stupid I annoyed him and he told me that it was better to be friends, (because I suggested that we have sexual relations, as is natural for a couple.) and that’s why I better run away in case he He always had strange behaviors when he approached me, I have had many partners but I never really understood him, Arenas has not seen each other for about 3 weeks and I do miss him a lot, but it is better to give up on him, I prefer a life in peace and without so much conflict without someone wanting to dominate and manipulate me. I really am better off without him.
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Elena
09/02/2022
Wow this is exactly what is happening to me now! Exactly the same!!!!
Adriana
03/25/2021
Greetings. I have been with my partner and three children for 15 years. I’m confused, I don’t know what to do or think. He has always seemed strange to me and with strange behaviors. He is happy with adrenaline as he says and suddenly because of something stupid he becomes very aggressive and angry to the point of breaking our household things. Every time he gives him that, he breaks something, phones, air conditioning, fans, and the next day he replaces it by buying it or fixing it. When he is not like that he is usually very responsible, he is with us all the time but when he gives that to him he literally seems crazy. What could it be that…