The ways of parenting have changed, what was applied before no longer works. What method can be used now? An expert on the subject advises the following.
Parenting is one of the most complex tasks and responsibilities for parents and, in order not to fail in the attempt, Lorencita Saavedraofficial coach of ”, Share five accurate recommendationswhich are part of their Effective Parenting Method, to educate without shouting, hitting or manipulation:
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Recognize your own reactions
From there everything starts, Parents or caregivers must recognize their behaviors or behaviors in response to their children’s response and understand why they react that way.
This process is recognized as reactive standard because, generally, brings together a series of attitudes that are copied from generation to generationTherefore, it is important to know if you are explosive, implosive and if this behavior is the same or different from that of your children.
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- Understand how your children react
You should be aware of reactions and know what type your child is in certain situations. The Effective Parenting Method recognizes three types of behaviors and reactions:
– Son/daughter strength: characteristic for the determination and impose your will.
– Child safety: personality is more reserved and need more data and information to do something, they are usually shy.
– Cooperation child: Are you ready for serve and please everyone. Raise your hand to collaborate in the classroom, know what parents want and seeks to cooperate. - Finding your parenting style
In this sense, there are also different types of fathers (which will help you recognize how to parent):
– Dads will: are characterized by seek success of your children overriding their emotions, if necessary.
– Mentor dads: They require their children to achieve things through learning, so They show how problems can be solved effectively.– Dads team: They sacrifice a lot for others. They can ignore boundaries as long as everyone is okay.
In the two previous points you must keep in mind that none is better or worse than the other. Everyone has their pros and cons. Knowing about them will allow you to adopt them according to the personality of each child.
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An example that stands out in is that: if you have a son safetyit’s good to be father will; if there is a son strengthyou have to be a mentor father Let him channel that force. While, if there is a son cooperationit is advisable to be a father will or team so you can connect with everyone and yourself.
- Educate differently
Do you consider that the behavior and parenting patterns of the past are obsolete today? If your answer is yes, it is recommended restructure the form of education. Saavedra believes that this decision must be made raise differently, in accordance with the needs of the children and not with what they told you or what you need.
- Be aware of the four fundamentals
According to Saavedra’s method, All human beings have four foundations of the “healthy self”: confidence, worth, passion, connection. That is, you must know how those foundations are within you, your self-worth, self-esteem, passion and relationship with your children.
“As parents we transmit our education in many ways, verbally, emotionally, so relating through security, emotional stability and wisdom is key for new generations.”, concludes Saavedra.
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