For many generations and in many cultures there have been false beliefs about virginity. The first sexual relationship, and especially in the case of women, is usually something that many people believe they have an opinion on, hence the large number of myths that exist on the subject and that can affect the sexual life of some. people.
Many of the things that are said are also part of social norms that have been perpetuated for a long time. However, not all of those things that are said correspond to reality, so It is important to dismantle existing myths to live a fuller and healthier sexuality.
What are the myths about virginity?
In many cultures, the first sexual relationship is classified as something that gives greater value to women who maintain it and, likewise, in the case of men when it is lost at an early age. In addition to being an outdated speechthese myths are usually far from the truth. Below are some common false beliefs.
Virginity must be maintained until marriage
Choosing to remain a virgin until marriage, or not, is a personal decision for each individual. All people have the right to decide about their body and their sexual and reproductive life.
Virginity only applies to women.
All people who have not had sex for the first time are virgins regardless of their gender. It is neither good nor bad to be, or not, a virgin.
When a woman has sex for the first time, her hymen breaks and bleeds
The hymen is a thin membrane found at the entrance to the vagina. However, not all women are born with a hymen, it does not always cause bleeding when it breaks, and it can sometimes break for reasons other than sexual relations.
The sooner you lose your virginity, the better
There is no specific age that is best to lose your virginity. The most important thing is that each person freely decides when he wants to start his sexual life.
Losing virginity causes pain
Although it is very likely that many people who have not had sex before wonder if they will feel pain the first time they do it, it is not a norm that it should cause pain.
A woman who loses her virginity loses her value
Decisions related to people’s sexual lives do not determine their value, it must be determined by the qualities and characteristics that make an individual unique.
If a man is a virgin he is not a “real man”
Having had a lot of sexual relations, or not having had them, is not related to being a “real man” or not.
There are many myths that exist around virginity, but these seven are, perhaps, the most common. If you decided to start your sexual life, It is important that you look for a health professional who can advise you so that you can do it in a healthy and responsible way.
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