Always when starting a relationship we see a charming face of the other person, this is because we are in a stage of falling in love in which we usually overlook the other person’s defects. However, in some cases, after a while some young people find themselves faced with the dating violence.
Even if you think that the most serious thing about this situation is that your partner no longer feels so attracted to you, or that he has his eyes on someone else, The most serious thing when intimate partner violence occurs are the consequences that it can bring to your life.. Since whether it is expressed with beatings or physical abuse, or with emotional abuse, the negative effects can be very serious and last for a long time.
Dating violence does not respond to an action that you have carried out that has caused harm to your partner. Any type of abuse is only the fault of the person who violates it. and, surely, it is related to toxic behaviors that that person has developed during their life.
Sometimes, we think that in the name of love it is necessary to forgive the offenses or mistreatment of that person for whom we have a special feeling or Sometimes we don’t even realize that we are being violated.
14 warning signs of dating violence
Did you know that, in the United States, one in three young people experiences dating violence? This type of violence in relationships between adolescents is becoming more and more common. For this reason, it is essential that you learn to recognize warning signs that something is not right in your relationship and decide to get out of there.
So think carefully if your partner:
- Sample extreme mood swings.
- Express jealousy or insecurity excessive
- humiliates or degrades you constantly.
- Always has bad character or explosive temperament.
- He needs to control you all the time.
- accuses you of things you haven’t done.
- With his actions he seeks cause you pain.
- Find that you stay away from friends and family.
- Lx you have discovered cheating on yourself frequently.
- Hit or destroyed some of your possessions.
- He caresses you in an aggressive way or that it doesn’t make you feel good.
- They have reached situations in which they have presented slapping, pushing, kicking, punching, among other physical attacks.
- Ever has threatened you with hitting you or leaving you.
- has forced you to have sexual relations.
If you notice that your partner has had any of these attitudes towards you and you don’t know what to do, It is important that you seek support from a trusted adult or mental health professional. Allowing these situations to occur for a long time will undoubtedly lead to your physical and mental health being affected.
Frequent phrases when there is violence in dating
In addition to the previously mentioned signs, there are also some phrases that can alert you. Pay attention.
- I yelled at you, but it’s because you don’t understand me.
- Don’t forget that you are a mix.
- Don’t you trust me? You do not love me?
- You with your friends and me alone.
- How delicate! It was just a push.
- I have met better girls.
- You’re probably with someone else.
- You are going to lose me. I don’t lack opportunities.
- You’re going to play the victim.
- If you leave me, I’ll kill myself.
Even before physical violence occurs in a relationship, the phrases that people often say can indicate that things are not going well. Let’s avoid normalizing physical, emotional or sexual abuse in our relationships.
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