These are types of attachments that can explain the fact that some romantic relationships do not work.
As we said in a he Avoidant attachment is when intimacy is renounced and there is contempt for emotional ties.. For its part, In anxiety, the person has a constant doubt about the other’s desire or affection, which frequently leads to emotional dependence.
He consulted the psychologist and sexologist Lara Ferreiro Why do some individuals feel overwhelmed in a romantic relationship and flee from it?.
She explained that some could be experiencing one of the 2 types of attachment mentioned above.
“When one gets overwhelmed and it is the fault of the other part of the couple, it usually happens because they have a anxious profile, very typical today. There are people who want to have a partner at all costs and, if possible, agree from the beginning if they are going to get married, if they are going to have children… The ideal would be see the future together but not in such an overwhelming way“, the expert told the newspaper.
“You can overwhelm him because you call every two minutes, for example. The ideal is to go at the same pace, and it is easier to slow down than for the other person to learn to go faster,” added the psychologist.
And it is that the anxious want everything together without interdependent spaceswhile in the avoidant each person is an island. The latter occurs, according to Ferreiro, because one of the members of the relationship, or both, is with several people at the same time.
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- Don’t adjust expectations.