Throughout life, there is a lot of emotional garbage that we generate What do we mean by that? To bad sensations and energies that you feel but do not finish processing or releasing, and they accumulate within you. The worst thing is that many times we do not realize the amount we accumulate, since we are not aware of it.
But, when that emotional garbage inside us is too much comes the real problem: we start spilling those bad vibes on others. Then we become the grumpy, pessimistic, even mean people we never wanted to be.
To avoid reaching that point, the first thing is to identify when you are loading yourself with emotional garbage. For this, it is important that you know what attitudes and situations generate it and try to avoid them.
1. Criticize
Speaking ill of others is, without a doubt, one of the first symptoms that you are generating emotional garbage. Keeping an eye on the other, and always trying to find their negative side, is a way of accumulating bad energy.
In addition, it prevents you from focusing on what really matters, which is your own being in relation to others.
When you find yourself too critical, try to do the exercise of looking for a positive aspect to praise about the person or situation you are criticizing. You will see that you always find something.
2. Complain
This goes hand in hand with the previous point. All situations or people have things that bother us. A situation will never be perfect.
However, many times we choose to complain: we are on a beautiful camping day but we complain about the insects, we are invited to a wedding and we complain about the menu, we have a job that we love but we complain about our office… We complain about everything! time!
Many times the complaint or non-conformity is what helps us to move forward, not to stay stuck in the same place. But it is important to know how to distinguish when it is worth complaining and when it is better to enjoy the moment. Otherwise, we will never enjoy anything.
3. Be proud
We all make mistakes, okay? And that includes you. It is true that sometimes it is difficult to admit that we have been wrong, because it is possible that we feel a little ashamed. But acknowledging our mistakes and asking for forgiveness is extremely healthy.
Do you know the weight you carry inside for every time you try to be right (even though you’re not)?
Knowing how to accept that we are wrong, apologize if we have hurt someone and, in general, not be proud is the best thing we can do to live lighter.
4. Always be defensive
The world is not against you. Really. Acknowledging that and letting go of being defensive can get a lot of emotional junk off your back.
Sometimes we feel that everything that happens around us is personal: they do it to us. But in reality, you are not the center of the world and not everything revolves around you.
So relax and stop carrying emotional garbage that has nothing to do with you.
5. Grudges
We have all been hurt at some point. Unfortunately, it is part of life. We may also have ugly and traumatic memories.
Returning to them over and over again only burdens us with negativity. It’s like constantly reopening a wound. Or, put another way, it’s like never taking out the garbage: soon, your house becomes a pigsty.
Letting go: that’s the best way not to accumulate emotional garbage.
6. Yelling frequently
Shouting frequently is a symptom that something is wrong inside you. It is not good to always be spilling that negative energy out loud. Notice that in general the happiest people yell little: if they do, it’s out of happiness.
Yelling is synonymous with anger, and anger is emotional garbage. Violence is emotional garbage. So trying to control your negative emotions and lowering your voice can make a big difference.
7. Wanting to be in control
Many times we need to be in control of things. We feel falsely secure if we think we can handle everything going on around us, and we may even get a little manic.
But look, the reality is that you can’t control others, or their thoughts, just as you can’t control the environment.
There is only one thing you can control and that is yourself. That’s all. And sometimes, you’re so hung up trying to control impossible things, that you can’t even handle your own emotions.
Use your energy in what you really have in your hands, which is to change yourself, and say goodbye once and for all to emotional garbage.
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