Painful childhood experiences, if not healed, carry over into adulthood.
1. ABANDONMENT
Those who have felt the absence of one of the parents or caregivers, the death of one of them or even of their bond, experience a feeling of emptiness and loneliness. Whoever suffers from it becomes intense, anxious, tends to exaggerately demonstrate what they can do, gets involved in several things at once, full of details and praise whoever they want, needs to be made to know that they are important and that they are loved.
2. REJECTION
Feelings such as sadness or rejection by the mother create wounds in the child that will be seen in their behavior as they grow up, as well as in children who are abandoned, denied, etc. The rejected person does not feel worthy of affection, isolates himself, is shy, very reserved, does what he is told, avoids participating in social activities, is indecisive, and easily abandons goals.
3. HUMILIATION
Feeling that we are disapproved of and criticized generates a dependent personality. May be tyrannical and selfish as a coping mechanism and humiliate others. They condemn themselves, they speak negatively, they complicate their lives, they have obsessions, they overestimate others and they devalue themselves. Having been victims of bullying, episodes of much criticism, accusations or punishment (abuse) create this wound.
4. BETRAYAL
It presents a distrust that can be transformed into envy or another feeling. Suffering from it since childhood forms controlling beings. When parents separate, it is common for children to feel ‘betrayed’ by the parent who left. This type of injury worsens when resentment and unforgiveness take root in the child.
5. INJUSTICE
There are demands that exceed limits, and thus feelings of ineffectiveness and uselessness arise. It can create fanaticism for order and perfectionism, non-conforming, rebellious, resentful beings, who consciously or unconsciously seek revenge, are envious, overestimate themselves and devalue others.
YOUR INJURY IS ABANDONMENT IF:
Loneliness terrifies you and you put up with relationships for not being alone.
It is difficult for you to set limits and say what you need.
You tend to become dependent on people.
You disqualify or overestimate the circumstances.
You feel that people do not love you and do not value you.
YOUR INJURY IS REJECTION IF:
As a child you had respiratory or skin problems.
You were or are lonely, quiet and feel that you are not part of his family.
You feel rejection of yourself, doubting your ability or feeling afraid of being rejected.
You have a very strong anger with the parent of your same sex.
The intellectual part, music and solo activities call you.
YOUR WOUND IS HUMILIATION IF:
You are accommodating and unconditional with others.
Your childhood, your body or your sexuality embarrasses you.
You have a hard time seeing and meeting your own needs.
You are overweight.
You are usually the ambulance, the cloth of tears and the rescuer of others.
YOUR INJURY IS INJUSTICE IF:
You tend to be a perfectionist, strict, rigid and square like your mom or dad.
You don’t know how to ask for help.
You have a hard time being spontaneous and doing fun things.
Order, structure, discipline is your thing.
You are very sensitive but you do not allow your emotions to come out.
YOUR WOUND IS BETRAYAL IF:
You do not know or it is difficult for you to trust, even if trust has been proven.
You always have high expectations of everything and everyone.
You are an organizer of lives, you are in a hurry and you do several things at the same time.
You make sure you are always right.
You are mental, intuitive and you hate lies.
CONSEQUENCES OF LIVING INJURED
Not living in intimacy.
Constantly feeling empty.
Generate repetitive stories.
Denying and not meeting my true needs.
Surviving without living the real life.
5 STEPS TO HEAL OUR EMOTIONAL WOUNDS
1. Accept the wound as part of yourself. Accepting a wound means looking at it, observing it carefully and knowing that having situations to resolve is part of the experience of being human.
2. Accept that what you fear or reproach you do to yourself and to others. The will and the decision to overcome our wounds is the first step towards patience, compassion and understanding with ourselves.
3. Give yourself permission to be angry with those who fed that wound. Give yourself permission to get angry and forgive yourself.
4. No transformation is possible if we do not accept our emotional wounds. These wounds are going to teach you something, even if it’s hard for you to accept it because our ego creates a protective barrier to hide our problems.
5. Give yourself time to observe how you have become attached to your wound. We can drop these masks as soon as possible, without judging or criticizing ourselves, so we can identify how to treat our wounds to heal them.
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You can enjoy life because you will be able to free yourself from your sufferings. A healthy person is a happy person who faces his path with personal empowerment and helps others to live better.