There are many reasons why you might want to cry but can’t. Some possible causes include emotional repression, anxiety, depression, stress, emotional disconnection, or lack of emotional support. It is important to seek help if this problem persists or affects your quality of life. Some people, in certain painful situations in their lives, feel like crying but, no matter how hard they try, they cannot do so. In reality, they feel the same pain as another person due to the internal suffering that a certain experience has caused them, but they cannot express their emotions through crying, although they do feel deep inside the need to do so.
In the following Psychology-Online article we will explain why do I want to cry but I can’t. We will also talk about the negative consequences of this event and some tips to find a good solution.
Why when I want to cry I can’t
Despite the great pain that lives inside them and the impulse they feel to express their emotions through crying, it may be impossible for some people. What is this fact due to? The main causes of a person not being able to cry when faced with a painful event in their life, even if they wanted to, could be:
- His crying was widely criticized during his childhood. and he learned that he had to silence it
- His childish cries were repeatedly ignoredso he learned that it did not fulfill any real function and stopped using it
- During his childhood he experienced so many painful moments in which silent crying became his most faithful ally that, for survivalhe overcame everything and unconsciously decided to repress his crying so as not to remember such unpleasant moments from his childhood.
These three types of experiences cause an unconscious block in the person that, in painful situations, leads them to repress crying despite needing to use it to express their pain.
Other causes of inability to cry
In addition to these three causes, there are others that are not so much at the psycho-emotional basis of the person because, in reality, they are consequences of these or other childhood traumas that lead the person to disconnect from their emotions and live in a state of greater emotional insensitivity to protect oneself internally from the world.
Other causes of wanting to cry but not being able to are:
- Overly rational peoplewhose emotional expression will be difficult and minimal
- People with certain mental disorders or altered states of consciousness such as dissociation, autism, Asperger’s, antisocial behavior disorders, etc.
- People with difficulties in recognizing their psycho-emotional functioningl internal and to self-regulate
What if I want to cry and I can’t?
The situation in which people who want to cry but cannot find themselves can assume certain negative consequences for your health in the medium or long term. Below we show you what the main consequences are:
physical problems
Crying is a means through which our body discharges negative emotions that, if left inside for a long time, can harm us. Repress crying repeatedly or for a long time inside us It can have a negative impact on our physical health. by not allowing the body to readjust and recover the balance necessary to maintain a state of optimal health.
Repressed crying contracts the body internally. The prolongation of this contraction in time prevents the free and necessary movement of a certain internal part of our body, affecting organs, muscular systems, innervation of cells, etc. and causing toxins that dirty our body, acidify it and, over time, can end up causing certain physical diseases in our body.
Anger attacks and inappropriate behavior
Another of the psycho-emotional consequences of repressing crying for a long time as a consequence of not allowing the body to function properly in homeostasis is that this energy contained inside seeks an outlet and is finally discharged with strong outbursts of anger and inappropriate behavior or excessive emotional explosion of sadness and crying.
emotional disconnection
Finally, a final psycho-emotional consequence of repressing crying is increased degree of emotional disconnectionwhose disruptive functioning can eventually lead to more serious psychological disorders along with bodily illnesses.
In the following article you will find the different ones.
What to do if I want to cry but I can’t
Taking into account the negative consequences caused by wanting to cry but not being able to do so, it will be advisable to reverse the situation as soon as possible to avoid, as far as possible, the manifestation of serious consequences.
Below we offer you some tips that can help you express crying and help your body regain its balance and homeostasis necessary to maintain physical-psycho-emotional health:
- Carry out introspection work that allows you to investigate the reasons that prevent you from expressing crying. This process can be carried out through personal self-knowledge courses or by being accompanied by a specialized therapist. Therapy is always more recommendable because it allows us to travel accompanied by this painful return to the origin of our emotional wound.
- Practice breathing and relaxation techniques that release the body and, in this way, recover its natural functioning, allowing the sincere expression of crying. In this article you will find some.
- Learn to reconnect with our interior, working on everything that helps us recover our vital sensitivity. In this case, it is recommended to perform exercises that awaken our senses (smell, taste, touch, hearing and sight), learning to feel even the smallest sensations. These exercises will help us feel alive again
- Turn off the ratio that disconnects us from the senses and of true life. The mind grids, controls, and separates us from everything alive, roboticizing us. A practical and minimal use of the ratio will help us regain contact with external and internal life and will favor our natural homeostatic functioning.
Patiently practicing these tips will allow you, once again, to reconnect with your internal states and, if necessary, express repressed crying.
This article is merely informative, at Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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