The zero contact technique has become popular and is used on numerous occasions as a strategy to establish complete distancing after a breakup. We explain how it works and what is the correct way to apply it.
What is zero contact?
The so-called “zero contact” is a technique that is used to restrict all types of communication with a person whose relationship has been decided to end. This implies restricting any form of interaction with said person, including calls, text messages, attending to their social networks, communicating with friends or in common or third parties who give us information about that person, sharing spaces and contexts, inquiring about their present, among others.
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Zero contact is primarily used when seeking to completely distance oneself from an ex-partner, but it can also be applied with other people who we consider toxic or harmful to our life or personal development.
Is zero contact a good practice?
However, this practice has also been controversial because, as Nahum Montagud, psychologist of the portal, explains, the technique has been used not only as a tool to get over a breakup but as a strategy to get an ex back (if you give yourself some time).
The specialist states that many love gurus consider that “the best way to get someone back after a breakup is to stop making any contact,” in that sense, these people promote the idea that sooner or later the other party will see that “not can live without us or she will understand how wrong she was to leave us. In this way, the zero contact technique would be used in an improper way, as manipulation, with the intention of faking a genuine breakup when it really aspires to recover the other.which can be really harmful.
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That said, the appropriate or expected way for this technique to be applied would have to do more with sincerity with oneself and with the ex-partner (or person from whom we want to distance ourselves), after having made the decision to permanently break up.
According to the portal, there are some essential aspects to carry out the technique of zero contactwhich they equate with the withdrawal phase in that person who decides voluntarily deprive yourself of an object that has generated great pleasure or desire. The aspects mentioned would be the following:
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Nine key aspects
- Withdraw all social media contact.
- Break up with everything type of communication.
- Avoid everything common circle of relationships.
- Do not frequent possible meeting places with the person.
- Not find no information about the person.
- Try to change the focus of attention when a memory of that person comes to mind.
- Tolerate distance as much as possible.
- Spend free time in beneficial activities for our mind and body.
- Know meet new people and attend our support groups.
Benefits of “zero contact”
Among the benefits of this technique are the possibility of clear our mind and feelings, move away from harmful dynamics in relationships, strengthen ourselves emotionally, prioritize our needs, promote our self-esteem and abandon self-deception.
Zero contact is a post-breakup act and can develop in stages similar to . It is advisable, in this sense, to seek support both in our support groups and in health professionals who can guide us appropriately.