Ignatius
04/22/2023
I have a friend who is like that, he is distant. But I love him just the way he is, in fact, he is my best friend. Maybe something happened to him in the past, or some trauma, I don’t know… but what I do know is that I love him very much and I’m always looking out for him. He admits that he is distant, but the beauty of having friends is loving them as they are, not wanting to change them.
SUSU
10/21/2022
This article makes me a little sad because it describes me, my situation is this, I love my future husband madly and I have really tried to give everything I can give, tell him my things, open up to him, express what I feel. even tell him the things that bother me, but for example if there are things that bother me and I tell him, he gets angry and feels bad and says that I put up barriers, but I really feel that I am not putting up barriers by telling him what I It makes you uncomfortable because I am expressing that to you and by expressing it it is not to reject it but to ask you to understand me… what do I do? I feel vulnerable with him, I feel completely weak in front of him because I have given everything of myself so that he knows everything about me but he always wants more and if he doesn’t get upset if I don’t do it then I get distant, that’s when I feel like it’s an obligation. and I feel like I have to do it otherwise he will get angry…
I need advice, I need help 🙁
Sandy
07/15/2022
Good evening, I have a question and at the same time I need guidance. I have a brother who is currently 28 years old. Since he turned 16, he became an antisocial boy. He would not leave his room except to bring his food or go out to study. He had no friends. Because he did not want to talk to anyone, currently he works, it is not his career because he does not want to talk to people, he does cleaning work, he always covers his face, he wears wide things and he does not socialize with anyone or with his family, he does not participate in any family event he lives isolated and speaks only what is necessary with us it is worrying for us not knowing what to do we tried to take him to the psychologist years ago but he said that he only asked him about himself and he did not want to return again
Christina
01/23/2021
Would Narcissistic Personality Disorder have something to do with it? I’ve been reading a lot about it, I have a problem like this with my husband and it really confuses me. I would really like to know if he is related or if they are different, he is really charming and at the same time a stone
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Maria
09/27/2021
What have you been able to conclude? I have also tried to decipher my husband, because our relationship is getting difficult, due to his coldness.
JESSI-JEX
03/26/2020
I found it very interesting and thanks for the help😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😊😉😉
Carolina
11/21/2019
I read your articles a lot.
I would like some advice, I started a relationship with a boy.
I made the mistake of invading his personal space, his privacy and now he has walked away from me.
He was very clear in saying that he lost trust in me and security.
How can I regain his trust since he is a self-confident boy, he knows what he wants, he is free and independent.
What I can do
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José
11/04/2021
empathy ‘;]
Missy
08/27/2019
I feel totally identified with you, I am 18 years old and this “problem” has been hell for me. You see, I am a very distant person, I try to put up a barrier with anyone and I feel uncomfortable when I have to talk too much with someone, I don’t know what to say, words and ideas freeze, I am very good at listening to others, but when It’s about me trying to change the topic, I don’t like it. At the moment I’m dating a guy, but I’m totally sure that leaving out my appearance there’s nothing for him. I don’t want them to think that I think I’m a supermodel or something like that, not that haha. With this boy what we talk about is very little, he has told me several times that it is very difficult to get the words out of me, I don’t like him telling me that, because I already know that hahaha, he feels that I am just very serious, but no. Relationships simply don’t work for me because I never get involved romantically, the fear of being vulnerable is more overwhelming. Many people have told me that I am very pretty and yes, my physique does not make me self-conscious. It’s something bigger that I struggle with every day, I really try to be more open, show myself as I am, I want others to appreciate me for who I am, but I think that will never happen. A few days ago I went to the psychologist, it wasn’t because of me, I should have talked to him to discuss my brother’s issues, but he couldn’t get information from me, he was trying to be understanding with me, I noticed it, but after a while my answers were so short and basic that I could notice his annoyance towards me. I’m old enough to have a conversation, especially when it comes to an important topic like my brother’s stability, I thought about that after I came out. It broke my heart. Many think that I have no emotions, that my personality is not attractive at all, that I am extremely curt and serious, when none of this is the case. I am the complete opposite of what they believe, that is the only thing that keeps me going, knowing that no one knows me, that only I know what I am and I know that I am not what everyone thinks, I like what I am but I hate not being able to show it to the world. , I don’t want to feel vulnerable or “silly”, I tend to trust people a lot despite how distant I seem and in the end, everyone uses me for convenience, no one really stays, but how do you stay in a person’s life? with such big barriers? Even I understand them. I will try to change and I will do so, little by little, but I can’t continue like this. I’m not completely happy now.
Hati
07/23/2019
I share with you quite a few things, now I’m talking to you about myself, sometimes I consider myself an emotionally distant person, especially in things that I consider to be like that and that’s how they will be, because of who we are!! But I do know that I have a barrier to sharing my life with someone, because first of all I don’t think it has to be like that, I think it should be whatever it is, I mean! As you feel more comfortable in sharing your life, with yourself without worries, with someone and knowing what is there (when I say this, it is by not deciding for yourself, thinking about the other person all the time and not about yourself, I know it’s very nice! Thinking about the other person, but I always want to think for myself without being influenced by anyone. Even though influence always exists.
With this I avoid situations, circumstances that will happen, because of how we are!! So… emotionally distant in this situation, now when I say that I don’t agree it is because I am very empathetic, too much… and above all very very understandable I understand everything
paula
05/04/2019
Hi, I’m a 13-year-old girl who has many friends who love her just as much as I love them, but the problem is that when I get home I don’t know what’s wrong with me, but I’m a totally different person, an aggressive liar, etc., and my parents say they don’t know. They deserve it, it’s true because when I have a problem I always take out all my bad feelings on them and when they ask me what’s wrong I don’t answer them, I’m too overwhelmed and I have very little trust in them, what do I do?
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Nuria
06/12/2019
The important thing is that you know that you don’t want to do it and you don’t have to feel bad about it if it is something that is out of your control ♥ I would tell you to look for someone who can help you deal with those emotions and learn to manage them, it is part of what that psychology can help you work, exercise and take time to listen to yourself and examine what things you may be trying to tell yourself. But above all, look for support, I know there are many people who will be happy to help you 🙂 a hug!
Elena Figueroa
03/24/2019
More information.
Ailen
02/13/2019
The boy I was dating for 5 months is totally cold and I am a stupidly human and authentic person, I always showed myself as I was, and I was always tender human with him and I showed him my feelings he asked me to have something serious and I told him I said yes but now he left me because he said he couldn’t fall in love when I gave him everything I could, I gave him all my love with my whole soul and he only told me that he couldn’t feel love, the truth is that one doesn’t understand why. happens?
They are not going to change and they never will, just try to understand them and understand what they are feeling.
Ana
01/31/2019
My partner is like that…he doesn’t show affection…empathy…he doesn’t let anyone touch him nor does he…he doesn’t talk about his problems or anything…and when I do it to feel support or simply listen…he It’s overwhelming…I suffer enormously…on more than one occasion I have expressed my sorrow to him…his lack of affection…I don’t understand his empathy expressiveness and I give him time for this…we are about to turn one year old…but I see that there is no change…he just tells me…I can’t change…I’m like this…he loves me like this…😞
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Steffany
10/08/2019
Hello Ana, the same thing happens to me, I have been with a man for 4 years who has those same characteristics and like you I suffer from tremendous loneliness, he does not share his emotions and he does not want to listen to mine, he gets overwhelmed and frustrated when I have a problem (work, family, of any kind) does not want to know anything other than pleasant things. I have also talked to him that his attitude hurts me but he says he can’t change…I’m finally thinking about leaving him, it’s exhausting to carry the weight of a relationship on your shoulders, deal with your own life and also have to be understanding. with a person who cannot understand you anyone….if anyone else finds themselves in this position I advise them not to have a romantic relationship with a person like that unless they are highly charitable and mentally and emotionally strong. Greetings.
Yamilet Moreira
01/26/2019
I am a very positive person, I feel that way and I always support my friends and encourage them to keep going, but there are times when I feel down and I want to distance myself from people and I need to be alone to see what happens with myself but I don’t. I find a solution and I feel cold inside: help me please!!!
Sases Ogbomoede
09/15/2018
a song and reading this several times brought tears to my eyes to see the kind of person I have become
Gla
08/19/2018
I consider myself an Emotionally Distant person. Looking for information about what happens to me, I do not express my emotions, I am cold; distant, very despotic with my partners and even more so if I feel they are weaker than me, I found this article and I felt very identified. Most of my partners demand affection from me. They say they don’t feel loved and that I feel very distant and cold. I know it’s true, even though he tried to deny it. I suffer a lot from this situation because it makes me unhappy in my relationships and makes my partners unhappy. I am a lesbian woman. I think that my conflicts with my emotions and even my lesbianism have to do with my relationship with my father and my brothers. My father was very cold and distant with me…