EGO CREATION:
The important trauma in this character is the frustration in the search for erotic satisfaction, especially the genital one.
This structure begins to develop between the ages of three and five, the stage in which tender and sexual sensations are awakened.
His early experience related to sexuality is disappointment and rejection, either because of the prohibition of pleasure in erotic games, such as masturbation, or because he feels rejected in the search for sexual pleasure by his parent of the opposite sex.
In this stage of tender and erotic delivery, driven by his desire for contact, the child approaches and does not feel welcomed and recognized.
Until this moment, the rigid individual enjoyed a very strong love and approval from the father of the opposite sex, but from that moment he sees how the latter begins to distance himself from him.
The child experiences the experience of being totally rejected, for what he is feeling as a novelty in himself: for his erotic and tender stimulus, since erotic pleasure, sexuality and love are the same thing for a child.
The rejection suffered will prevent him from being able to integrate and feel, at the same time, sensory and emotional pleasure, both with himself and with others.
That is, the child, from that moment on, experiences a split between his heart and his sexuality.
EXPERIENCES FROM OTHER LIVES THAT HE BRINGS IN HIS MEMORY:
People with a rigid character defense have gone through experiences in previous lives in which they were in control of the situation.
It is very likely that they have held the power of being a king, queen, leader or any other position of similar importance, in which the responsibility contracted with the outside world forces them to maintain an irreproachable behavior.
Your responsibility prevents you from having any problems or showing any signs of weakness or making any mistakes.
Their behavior must be exemplary in the face of any adverse circumstance and their appearance must be that of a perfect person.
Other experiences that have been able to form this structure are related to experiences in which the individual has gone through, at one point in his life, intense suffering (death, brutal separation from a loved one, abuse, torture, etc.), the which he could not bear and, unconsciously, in order not to suffer again, he repressed his feelings, closed his heart and became numb to pain.
EXPERIENCES AT THE BEGINNING OF CURRENT LIFE:
The person with a rigid structure has been born into a family that has instilled in them to behave in a very specific and strict way. His parents controlled his entire environment, all the circumstances surrounding the child.
They taught him to “dress well”, to maintain perfect hygiene, to do his homework correctly, to behave exquisitely, to eat, sleep, get up at the right time, etc.
They tried, by all means, to create around the child a false world bathed in the illusion of external perfection.
In addition, they also had to control their internal world, their thoughts, their emotions and their moods.
The strategy was to hide and deny any negative experience that had occurred within the family; for example, the serious illness of a clan member, the argument or fight that occurred between her parents or any other setback or personal problem.
He was made to see that nothing had happened, everything was quickly forgotten and his attention was directed towards a false positive world.
The motto is to deny the bad and focus on the good, which causes a lack of sensitivity in the child.
If you hear that your father is sick and you are shocked by it, but your mother quickly tells you no, that your father’s health is good, that there is no such disease, that everything is working perfectly and, moreover, she tries to keep everything in order so that there cannot be even the slightest suspicion about it, he unconsciously concludes that he has nothing to worry about.
He thinks: “If my father’s disease does not exist, if it is not real, if I have only imagined it, then the person who had been impressed, who had felt, is not real either, he is also the product of imagination.”
With this interpretation of the facts, the child chooses to deny his internal world since it makes no sense and begins to contain his feelings, which leads him to lose his sensitivity and becomes a hollow and empty being.
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