The prostate is linked to my feeling of potency and sexual ability. Since it is often older men who suffer from prostate disorders, I must ask myself: Am I satisfied and comfortable in my sexuality? Am I experiencing frustration, impotence or perhaps even confusion in the face of my sexuality and also in the face of my search for a perhaps younger partner? Would it be better to leave everything?
Perhaps now I feel useless, ineffective, incapable of being a “real man.” I live the intense fear of not being in the sexual norms implanted by society.
If I have a problem with my prostate, I must ask myself if I experience difficulty and guilt in front of my grandchildren or in front of my own children who, even adults, are still “little” and “fragile” for me. I am afraid that they are in danger, morally or physically, and above all in the face of any situation that may be related to sexuality and that appears to me as dirty or that goes beyond the usual norms established by society.
CONFLICT: Loss in the family. Protection of grandchildren (fear, as if predators were coming to eat them). Or feeling that he should be more competent with his (probably younger) woman. Also the feeling that he lives a sexuality outside the norm (a man of 60 with a girl of 20-25). Or a story of castration (the woman castrates the man with her rules: “If you don’t do that, today there is no bed” or “I want to have sexual intercourse, but I can’t”.
Conflict derived from dramatic situations of children, partner, grandchildren or equivalent: An accident, illness, death. All of this disgusts us.
RESENT: “I want to have sex, but I can’t.” “I want grandchildren.” “I have to be up to the task to satisfy my wife, because she is much younger than me and I don’t know if she’ll be capable.”
The same question should always be asked to anyone with prostate problems: WHAT ARE YOU ALWAYS THINKING FROM THE WHEN YOU WAKE UP UNTIL YOU GO TO BED?