Wendy’s Dilemma
As a complement to the syndrome described, it is interesting to evaluate the relationship in which a Peter Pan man lives with a woman who suffers from the so-called Wendy’s Dilemma (also described by Dan Kiley) and is characterized by feeling inferior and allowing others to control her insecurities, her fears and, in short, her destiny.
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If for a woman without any psychological disorder it is difficult to live with a Peter Pan man and it triggers unmet needs, if this woman also suffers from Wendy Syndrome, the situation becomes especially complex, since they feel so inferior that they allow (and even force) his Peter Pan to control his life. Although Wendy pretends to be fine, the reality will be that she suffers from intense and permanent anxiety and, although in the eyes of others everything she does for her partner seems like love, she will be playing the role of a mother – submissive and protective but not a wife. .
Paradoxically, a couple with these characteristics usually works better – be less dysfunctional – than when one of the two members does not suffer from any psychological disorder.
Click to finish reading this interesting article on Clotilde Sarrió’s blog: Gestalt Therapy.
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