Dayana Teresa Mendoza CUSME
04/22/2023
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Marolyn
04/17/2023
I have a partner who has been living together for 5 months.
At first he was nice to my 6-year-old son, now he can’t stand him, he says he’s very tough and told me to let him live with my parents.
Jose Antonio
04/09/2023
My wife does not accept that I pay child support to my son who is out of wedlock and she does not accept that I approach the one I do, thank you, I don’t know what decision to make.
Matias diver
12/15/2022
My girlfriend has always been well-spoiled by her parents, she likes attention and I have a 7-year-old daughter. She doesn’t want to spend much time with her because we can’t do many things. She asked me for separate, quality time with each other, is that okay? What to do? It’s fair?
Anonymous
10/18/2022
I think that the typical phrase (if he doesn’t love your children, he doesn’t love you) is somewhat abusive and unfair. I love my partner, I live with my partner, I fell in love with my partner, and it is clear that when you have children from another relationship, it is something that cannot be changed… It is empathy that comes into play in these cases, but not the obligation to love children who are not yours. And no, there is no reason to ruin the autonomy of the couple and the freedom to do, feel, live, or express what they want at any given moment because it is not healthy… What to do in these cases? Shared custodian. Children belong to two, not just one… Time shared in a fair and balanced way, spending days, and days, and days depriving yourself and in a stressful situation is not good and that is what breaks the couple. It is not the children themselves, but the poor management of not organizing quality time. Too much is tiring and little is enjoyable… So shared custody would be the most fair for everyone. Fathers, mothers, children, and new couples.
Jesus
09/26/2022
My wife has three children, the youngest one who is 30 years old lives with her and supports him. I have a 9-year-old daughter, her mother is very low-income. I took the initiative to bring her with me to study but my wife does not accept her in her house and she wants me to give her to her mother. She made me choose between my daughter or her. What decision to make?
Monica Guerrero
07/28/2022
What do I do if my ex’s new partner gets involved in matters that should be discussed with my daughter’s father and not with her?
My daughter’s father’s new partner is very jealous and thinks that when the father is called about issues of food and rights that my daughter has, she is there to say things, she says that I have nothing to say to my daughter’s father because she is already 10 years old and she is the one who must communicate everything she wants and needs, but the problem is that I keep my daughter away from the problems we have had and before she arrived we had a pleasant relationship as parents separated, but now I can’t say anything that my daughter wants or needs because she is on top of things, answering calls and messages and giving opinions that whether I give her money apart from the monthly payment or not, the truth is that it makes me ugly to have to tell her My daughter call your dad so you can tell him what you need…
I don’t know how to tell my daughter that we will no longer have that good friendship that we had with her father.
Aracely
02/04/2022
Please help me, my husband is always saying that he is the one in charge and makes me look like we are close, my daughter and I got upset today because my daughter put YouTube videos on TV and she always gets angry if she eats or not, she gets angry x Everyone who is in the house always has control of the TV and lets us watch nothing. He doesn’t give me money and when we go shopping he always pays so that I don’t take money… what should I do?
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KATHERINE
03/02/2022
I am also going through the same thing, not almost the same but something
Farouk
03/28/2022
I believe that no woman or man should allow themselves to be manipulated by their wife or husband, much less humiliate them, so we must be independent so as not to be dependent on anyone.
ale
07/28/2022
I’m going through exactly the same thing but I already have his son and I’m pregnant. It’s worth mentioning that we’ve only been living together for about 7 months. Before, I had my own place, my job, I never asked him for anything for me or his son, much less for my daughter. But since we got together I haven’t been able to work because of my high risk of pregnancy, but I see that he can’t stand my daughter, the less he treats her with anger, of course, nothing very serious, but it hurts me to see how my daughter does love him and He looks for it and he, on the contrary, stops, he has us well measured in food, sent in months. I have not sustained a single money because he manages all the money, of course he works for it, but anyway, I always take care of him well, sometimes I cry secretly because I feel like there is no escape and I just have to hold on and I think with my first partner who hit me it wasn’t as hard as this, I just hope to get relief so I can work and get away from him and get ahead on my own, that day seems like forever! !
Patricia
02/02/2022
It is difficult to raise children alone, sometimes it is desperate because there is no father figure, so much so that I am thinking about accepting someone I don’t love, to be a father for my children. Because being a father and mother is difficult.
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José Alberto Silva Ramírez
08/29/2023 If you accept someone it must be out of love and respect, not because of a father or mother figure,
It’s better alone or alone…
We must all work and be self-sufficient…
And that is what our children will learn, and if someone comes and you are willing, accept it but love yourself and love it, not for your daughter, just for yourself, but respecting that you have value as a person and that you will seek to contribute to the family and expect the same. and that you have a daughter, who is your responsibility, but he wants and is committed to supporting you, if not…
Let your life continue…
🙂
Ana
01/03/2022
Hello ! I don’t know if I need psychological help but I feel frustrated because my boyfriend’s children stayed with us for a few days and the truth is I was wishing they would leave, I don’t share their upbringings, for example: they are super messy, apart from that seeing my super loving boyfriend with the youngest girl I think it makes me jealous and angry, I don’t know if it’s because their mother has made life impossible for us and has manipulated the youngest so I haven’t been able to connect with her, example: she doesn’t let me let him put perfume on it; I feel bad, it’s horrible because I don’t know how to talk to my boyfriend, I don’t want to hurt him, and I feel like I’m not a bad person, but as soon as he talks to me about them he makes me angry, and even more so when he tells me that he wants to bring them back, it’s like a nightmare, I wish they didn’t exist, I also think that without them our relationship would be perfect, I love him so much, he is the love of my life and we want to get married, but this situation has made even me think if it is the right thing to be together or No, whether he is the person for me or not. PLEASE HELP
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Farouk
03/28/2022
I think the most important thing you should know is that they are his children and nothing is going to change that and the love he feels for his children is a different love than the one he feels for you. I think that this situation is very common when there are already grown children but you decide whether to accept it that way or end everything. As the old saying goes, “He who loves the cow loves the calves too.”
Daniela
03/28/2022
If you love him and plan a life with him, you have to accept that he had a previous life when you met him, you knew he had children, you accepted, well, just as you accepted the combo, you have to accept that they come to your house and that it doesn’t stop being affectionate with his children, it is my advice, do not live there, go for a couple of days, if you object, the relationship will become hell, if you love, accept and learn to love your partner’s children because they do not have the blame the parents’ problems or the antics of the grown-ups! I send you a hug, I hope you can share beautiful moments
Joaquin
06/12/2021
That happens on its own and is born. If there is no affection from the beginning, I don’t think there will be any in the future. Furthermore, if you loved your partner well, you should also accept and be happy with their children because that is what is ultimately good for everyone. If you both have children, too.
Rom
09/06/2021
My boyfriend of almost 2 years. He gets along well with my children. But he NEVER told her family that I have them. I have a good relationship with his family but they don’t know that I have 3 children. And I do not know what to do anymore ??
Minerva mireles
08/22/2021
Good morning, I have a lot of problems with my partner because my daughters don’t like me helping them and he always tells them that they are nothing and they don’t have a good job. He always tries to make them feel less than others and tells me to throw them out of the house.
Claudia
08/20/2021
Hello, my situation is that my husband has a 21-year-old daughter from his first marriage. We have been together for 5 years and we have a 2-year-old baby who barely knows his sister because she says she only wants to be with her dad and not with me. I hate having a baby and I have to be with him at all times.
The thing is that I can’t stand her anymore, she lives making trouble and the truth is, my husband swears she’s 10 years old.
She has never lived with him and she shows that in his face that since she made a family with me and never lived with her, it is psychologically draining every time she comes because if I am bad she says that I have a bad face and I don’t love her and if I am bad why? I’m sorry if she’s wrong!
Now it came out that she is going to put a restraining order on me for psychological abuse and she is going to commit suicide just like her cousin.
I hate that everyone cares about both my husband and his family.
But it doesn’t matter to me because I feel like it’s a lot of manipulation on their part!
He even invents that I take drugs and don’t take care of my baby.
And since she is my husband’s daughter, I can’t pretend that she doesn’t exist!
Toy was really distressed, this has led me to have terrible anxiety about everything!
Let something happen to him and make me feel guilty about his mental health!
I don’t know what to do and what’s more, I’m alone here with my son, my husband has his entire family nearby, they all live on the same land, so there’s more pressure every day!
I need to know how to approach this situation because I go to the psychologist but he tells me to only think about me and my baby.
But when you are faced with the situation it is difficult to do that and not have at least someone to talk to and support you in this process.
Thank you
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Lucy
08/31/2021
Claudia, I hope your father takes care of his daughter’s problems, since it is his responsibility after all. I imagine you can’t walk away completely but it’s true that you have to think about yourself first, your mental health and peace of mind first. And don’t let others pressure you, or make you feel bad for wanting to get away from that stressful situation. Because only you know how things are. Cheer up!
Vanessa
10/11/2021
Claudia is understandable about what you are going through, and if you think about yourself and your baby as your psychologist says, perhaps that can be achieved by doing activities for both of you outside of home activities, practice some sport or hobby, take time to that and ask them to support you to achieve it, it helps me…