Felix
05/14/2022
Hello, I have a problem, and I don’t know what to do, for several years now, I have lived at my in-laws’ house, there have been many problems in which I do not feel comfortable, I have received insults, humiliation and other things, and I no longer I put up with it and I have also responded, at this moment I already left, however my wife wants me to return, however that has already happened before and I know that the same thing is going to be repeated, although I propose to change things, however all of them there in her parents’ house, basically I have to make a change to be able to be there since her family is obviously not going to do it, she would also make changes, but I don’t know what they wear, well, we have two girls and that also makes me think .
V.M.
07/07/2021
Hello, I have a problem that I can’t solve to date, when I went out with my partner I always made excuses like I have to arrive early because they scold me or I can’t see you today, because it’s a day to share with the family… Then he emigrated. and the relationship almost ended, he told me that he had many family problems, because at that time his father’s wife was also going to emigrate. Many times he told me that he did not want to get married and over time he made me a proposal to try to live together and see how it worked and it worked… I left my country to live with him and we lived in a shared apartment with another couple, then we moved to another city for work and we rented alone and after 4 months my father-in-law came to visit, but now The visit is 7 months old and I don’t feel well… I don’t feel comfortable, first because I feel that I suffered a lot because of the rules and problems at his house, because at one time he said that as a result of his family problems, the neglect relationship and I had suffered a lot because of that and because of other problems in which I was alone and now this… I don’t want to live with my father-in-law, I want my space, I feel like I have to wait for them to solve everything for me to be happy and that has me frustrated.. To date I have managed to set certain limits, which I had to demand from my partner, such as asking the man to come into the room, which will prevent him from hanging on my underwear, but I still have to get ahead of him to be able to clean something, because He gets up at 4 in the morning to do that, he also made it clear that he was not going to allow them to order the prayer to be done at the table, since that is not ordered to be done, that is born. And the truth is that I don’t want to live with either my father-in-law or my parents. I also feel bad because the man was alone in Venezuela and his wife went with his brother to Chile and his other son, then two weeks later To be here, she told him that she didn’t want to know anything about him, that she didn’t want to live with him or anything. When the reason for his trip here was to get a Chilean visa and go live with them, my husband’s mother died when he was a baby and I really feel that I owe a lot to that man for the good man he made. , but I feel that he has never loved me as a daughter-in-law, today I feel criticized and pressured by him… I don’t feel good, I don’t feel comfortable and I feel guilty for feeling this way
RR
03/08/2021
I need help, I am 21 years old, my partner is 22 and I have been living with my mother-in-law for 2 years, the lady is 39 years old, she was a very young mother, but she gets a lot involved in our relationship, we can’t talk about something because she always has to give her opinion, and It bothers me more because my partner tells him almost everything, when I am used to not giving explanations, my parents and my family always respected my privacy, they only listened and gave their opinion when I asked them to, but my mother-in-law wants to know everything, apart from me It makes me uncomfortable that I answer something and she too, by force, tells her son about my love and it makes me uncomfortable. We can’t go out because she wants to know where. And for a year my partner was maintaining her house, she only paid for the house, and when we bought a car, we suffered a lot and it was not to say that she helped with the payments or food, she only said that if we used money to tell her, right now She asks my partner for the car we bought, and almost every weekend she goes away with her friends and doesn’t return until the morning and here she leaves her underage children, part of which my partner gave her money to build another room.
I don’t know what to do, we are waiting for the house but that is still a year away. Thank God I don’t have children yet and I don’t plan to until I have a house.
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nzbt
05/12/2021
Well, queen, you have endured much better, and your husband helps your mother a lot, but that is not the case either.
Demand that your husband put him between a rock and a hard place to see what he is going to do, the mother is always going to have it and why doesn’t he talk to the mother and that he put his cards on the table because they have already put up with him a lot and you She is a very good girl, one does not deserve so much suffering, it is known that the house is not one’s, but neither should she abuse her son, and even more so by making you a babysitter.
And it’s better if you don’t have children yet until you have your own roof to live in.
Celeste chujutalli
02/05/2021
Hello, I live in my mother-in-law’s house, I need some advice. At the beginning I didn’t know my mother-in-law, of whom I supported her in everything, I shared with her and my husband but she denied me everything until I got tired. The pandemic started and I started to gain weight and he bullied me, he got into our privacy, our decisions and he didn’t say anything, I was on the verge of doing something crazy, I asked my family for support, as time went by I realized his ways. live (they are conformist, disorderly, selfish, envious, and above all dirty people). I have to live with the cockroaches, with the bad smells in the house, I ran out of my air freshener in less than three days. But all the time I talked to my husband, I told him that I don’t like it, that he should improve, that he should put the house in order, since He is the only man in that house. I’ve been living with them for two years now and they neither do nor say anything. Many times I told him that he doesn’t want to live with his mother, that I have my own tastes, that I want my privacy. And he doesn’t do anything…. I never argued with the lady, I don’t disrespect her. I work, I come home I dedicate myself to cooking and tidying up my room because the lady’s house is disgusting, many times I fixed things that were not necessary but she didn’t like it. So I decided not to do anything or get involved. I don’t like living like this but no, my husband doesn’t want to leave the house, he refuses to go out, I don’t know what to do. I have support from my family, my mother’s house is empty and I want to go there but he tells me that I want to abandon him and that I don’t care.☹☹☹☹☹
Maria Eugenia
06/17/2020
Well, I live with my mother-in-law and I try as much as possible to help her when she gets sick, I bring her food to her room and I try to keep her house clean. When she is healthy I noticed that with me it is one thing and with others it is another. She tells him things about me that are not true and she says other things to me. I am well educated and respectful. And I don’t like that she is that hypocritical with me. I try not to get her to help me with my chores even when I’m sick because later she will go around saying that I have her as a maid. I would like to leave. There are days when I get depressed. She wouldn’t want to be here. She has never insulted me or hit me. But I don’t like that she goes around saying things that aren’t true with other people and with you she has another side. She just asks God for patience and that I will soon leave here since I will soon be a mother and I don’t want him to tell me how to raise my son.
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Andrea
07/23/2020
My mother-in-law is a disabled person. My husband has been taking care of her for years and that’s how I met him. I moved in with her when he traveled abroad and since then there have been three of us. When I arrived my mother-in-law only stayed in bed and there was a lot to fix. I did everything I could to improve her quality of life and in general the family relationship, But she was very hard on me, she criticized me and scolded me like a child. I cried a lot and I never answered her badly, but I became afraid of her and became very nervous in her presence. Whenever I prepared something to surprise her, make her happy or cheer her up, I would receive an unexpected response from her…. Over time I started to get tired of this, I started to feel frustration and then anger, resentment towards her. I’m tired of him observing everything I do, supervising me, criticizing me, making fun of me and overlooking my good intentions and that I always do my best. Now I no longer take care of her and I have left that to her son. I no longer feel sorry for her like I used to, but it is horrible to live like this, avoiding her, hiding, without the possibility of moving freely throughout the house and also without privacy. I don’t know what to do. I really wish I didn’t have to live with her…
Victor Hugo Valadez
12/12/2020
A solution the married home needs!!!! As simple as that. I was married and my wife separated from me, I have been living alone for 2 years and 5 months and the truth is I am learning to enjoy my solitude from a point of view of introspection. The solution is to get your own space. Blessings and greetings from Torreón Coahuila Mexico.
Celeste chujutalli
02/05/2021
How cute you are, I was like that with my mother-in-law too. I work and try to keep things in order at home. At the beginning I dedicated myself to adopting her with the help of the house. So with pain and fatigue until the woman only dedicated herself to cutting me, which I found out about, I spoke with her, she denied everything until I listened to her myself and made my decision to only dedicate myself to my fourth job and my husband. What’s more, when he made arrangements, the lady didn’t like it. I am a person who suffers from anxiety and depression. But I don’t give up and keep going. I told my husband that I don’t want to be there in that house anymore. He doesn’t want to leave there, he doesn’t talk to his mother, and I put myself in my place because I don’t have a say in that house but he doesn’t let me be humiliated. Seeing the situation that my husband does not want to go out and he does nothing about it, my decision is to go out alone and if he wants to continue the relationship we can be but living separately. What do you think?