Clotilde Sarrió explains in Gestalt-Terapia what the difference is between love and passion, and the evolution of love:
At the beginning of a romantic relationship, the passion becomes very intense, so much so that it predisposes one to become obsessive about the other person. However, as time passes and the relationship progresses, the levels of passion decrease at the same time that, if the relationship progresses, a deep love is consolidated in which the security of each of the components becomes more secure. without the dependent urgency of looking at the other and being with him or her.
Contrary to what many would like, passion is not eternal and as the relationship consolidates it gives way to a cluster of emotions and feelings that are calmer and much less impulsive.
We could say that passion is the force of sexual desire, the outburst that is allied with the instinct to perpetuate the species, a compulsion that calms the obsession that is experienced by the desired person who may also be loved, although this does not It is essential for passion to manifest.
However, love is a more benign, more docile force, a beneficial, edifying and creative impulse that arises with the encounter, is nourished by the frequentation and confirmation of the feelings of the other, and enables the personal growth of both individuals. as well as in the development and maturation of the couple.
To avoid disappointment and demystify the sweetened version of romantic love that literary and cinematographic works give, it must be clear that when a relationship begins, the desire to be with the loved one is normal—also gratifying—while experiencing a euphoria that fills us with happiness as we feel the conviction of having found the love of our life.
However, this is nothing more than a stage that often fades with the passage of time, for the same reason that the passion felt at the beginning of the relationship is fleeting, although while it is experienced it is associated with the feeling that it will be eternal.
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