Carlos
06/19/2023
My girlfriend and I have been together for four years. At first I did feel attraction, but over time her physique has changed a little and I wish she has diminished enormously. I like her personality and, above all, her way of being, seeing life and acting I have great admiration for her, her intelligence, her attention and other qualities that make her unrepeatable. But physically I feel that it is no longer the same and other girls are beginning to attract my attention from a physical point of view to the point that every time I see them the only thing I would like is to have a sexual relationship with one of them. I don’t know what to do, it’s a complicated situation. On the one hand I feel this but on the other hand I wouldn’t want to leave her.
Garcia Gutierrez
01/05/2022
I have a girlfriend with whom I have been bad for a long time. We spend more time bad than good. I have thought about leaving it in the next few days when I find the time. I have realized that I am only happy when I am without her and when I am with her I am unhappy. I think it’s not fair for either of us to continue with this situation but she could go on like this for a lifetime. In addition to this, I have fallen in love with a friend we have in common. She is not a close friend. She is a girl in a group of friends that we made a few months ago in our new city of residence. Lately I’ve spent a lot of time alone with her and with other people and I’m happy and in my element. She is a person you can trust and every day I get to know more things about her and I like her more and more. I had thought about telling her soon what is happening to me with my girlfriend and that I am going to leave her in the next few days, but I am afraid that this could scare her away or that it will harm me in a future attempt at a relationship. I am very clear that I want to share my life with her. Also, I think that conversation could make her uncomfortable or feel uncomfortable meeting my girlfriend. But on the other hand I think it could be positive for her to know a little about my feelings and my expectations for the future. I need to talk to someone about it and I want to talk to her more than with any of my friends. I need expert and objective help. Thank you very much and happy new year
Garcia
01/05/2022
Good morning, I have a girlfriend but for a long time now we have been getting worse, more distant, and there are more bad moments than good ones. I have realized that for some time now I am only happy when I am with other people, but when I am unhappy. The problem now is that I have fallen in love with a friend we have in common. She is not a close friend to either of us, just a girl within a group of new friends we have made in our new residence a few months ago. Lately I have spent quite a few moments alone with her and with other people and I think she is an incredible woman and I can’t get her out of my head. And I think even my girlfriend has noticed something. The fact is that I have thought about leaving my girlfriend in the next few days. I think prolonging this situation is bad for both of us. I would like to talk to the friend I have fallen in love with about leaving the other one because she gives me incredible confidence and good vibes. But I have doubts if this conversation with her could be detrimental to trying something with her later since it may be something uncomfortable or unpleasant for her. But on the other hand I think it can be positive. I have many questions and I hope for her help. Thank you very much and happy new year
Jose Luis
10/05/2021
I have a girlfriend but I started to like a person 9 years older than me, when it comes to sex they are both incredible, the problem is that they are both in love with me. With my oldest, I live on the edge, I’ve known her for a month and with my 7-year-old girlfriend, the relationship has gone through ups and downs, but I love her. She cheated on me on one occasion or at least I saw that she sent quite compromising photos to another person who blackmailed her because it was her teacher, she told me it would never happen again but I don’t know. Several years have passed and I notice she is quite committed but I don’t know what choice to make because the new person I met is 39, I’m 30 and my girlfriend is 26. Someone with a similar situation to mine.
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Dania
10/07/2021
The truth is that if you are with the other person it is because she makes you feel somewhat stronger than the previous one and if you no longer feel the same for the other person the right thing is that you cut her off so as not to be deceived and be happy with the second one after all if you loved her. The first one you were not with the second one so it could be that in the second one you are very in love, be happy champion and make a good decision we all deserve to be happy
nicole
09/14/2021
I have had a boyfriend for three years. A year and a half ago I started working in a company and I had a lot of affinity with my co-worker who also has a girlfriend of several years… we both knew it and the attraction was noticeable when we went out with other colleagues to have a drink but we were never able to to say anything or try something… until this weekend when the occasion arose and we kissed… We talked about it and it was clear that our partners did not deserve it and it would not happen again since we did not want to lose the friendship we have but I don’t know why I feel uncomfortable and I don’t know what to do when I’m around him and the same thing happens to him.. what could I do?
Jaider Quintana
04/11/2021
I’m dating a girl and I really like it. The feeling is mutual, but recently a girl wrote to me that I tried to go out with in the past and things didn’t work out, but I got a lot of affection for her and now she’s telling me again that she regrets it. everything and wants to have something with me and I’m already dating someone, the real problem is that I also love that girl and I don’t know what to do, I’m very confused and sad.
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Favian Arturo
07/24/2021
The past is the past, if you have a good time with the girl you like, she is also very nice to you, she treats you well and if you are getting to know her, keep doing it, I don’t know what happened so that the girl from the past doesn’t know about the relationship.
but give the new one a chance
Don’t go back to the past, I went through it once and I regretted doing it, the girl did the same to me
and the other girl was great, super cute to me and I walked away to go back to an ex from the past
So give that person you’re meeting a chance and the feeling is mutual.
Lucy
11/25/2020
Hi how are things? I NEED you to guide and advise me.
I have been dating a girl (let’s call her A) for 6 months, I have liked her for almost a year or more, we both love each other very much and in my opinion we have lived a true love story, today we are very much in love .
I recently started to like her best friend (who will be called B), for almost a month or so, I’ve been trying to get her out of my head for a while and I can’t manage to do it… The one I really want to be with is A and I’m not very proud of my new feelings towards B. B only confuses me more and more. I think there are some things, behaviors that confuse me, the way he breaks personal space with people, with me, no one can say no to B for breaking personal space since a person feels comfortable, it is very affectionate with me, in general with everyone, but sometimes she tends to have strange behavior with me, her way of approaching me is what confuses me the most, when she is going to approach someone she does not hesitate, she goes directly to hug him or her On the other hand, with me it’s like he sometimes doubts whether to come or not or when to go, whether to give me a hug or not or to shake my hand (he only gives his hand to me and my girlfriend), for example the other day we were all the group of friends at a meeting, my girlfriend was sitting on top of me and she got up (I don’t remember why, but she did it) and B approached the table that was in front of my chair and leaned on it, he looked at me like out of the corner of his eye hesitating whether to sit or not and after a few minutes he sat down and kissed me on the cheek and I kissed another, my girlfriend is jealous but with B she doesn’t mind so it didn’t bother her much. Another day we were leaving school when she grabbed my hand, but she sort of hesitated or maybe I felt that way. I looked at her and she said, “I’ll warm your hands like this” (before that I said my hands were cold), when we talk on WhatsApp she usually tells me that I make him very happy, that he loves me a lot, but I also assume that he will tell other people… And so a few more, that attitude confuses me a lot and on the one hand (30%) it makes me believe that he taste and on the other hand (70%) it makes me think that I am confused and they are imaginations or movies that I make up in my head. The side that makes me think that he doesn’t like me is because, when we talk on WhatsApp and I tell him that I’ve been scolded or something has happened to me, he doesn’t usually ask questions and he doesn’t take much interest in me either, 1% or 2% of the time. Sometimes he looks at me out of the corner of his eye (the other percentage is when we talk), he doesn’t talk about me to anyone (when you usually like a person you usually talk about him not about what you like, but about who I am), he doesn’t want to hang out with me either. alone (I haven’t asked her if she would like to meet her but she wouldn’t ask me either)…
Before A and I dated, B and I were friends since the three of us are in the same group of friends. B is heterosexual and has no doubts about whether or not to change for anyone or for herself. On the one hand, I don’t want her to do it, I don’t want her to change her sexual orientation, but on the other hand, I would be more excited if she told me that she likes me. (which is not going to happen).
I don’t tell A about this topic, what I feel about B for 2 reasons: the first is because my girlfriend is very sensitive and is having a hard time because of family issues and I don’t want to make her suffer that way for something temporary, and the second reason is I don’t want to ruin their friendship over something stupid. I know I should tell him and that it is a big mistake, but the only option other than not making anyone uncomfortable is that.
And I have reached a point where I am very confused since I don’t know which one I prefer to be with. There are things that I have with one and the other I don’t, that also makes me doubt a lot, because what I don’t have or would have with A I would have with B or the other way around.
I turn to this article on your website to see if you could help me on this very complicated topic.
Pepillo
11/23/2020
I have had a girlfriend for just over 4 years. The relationship has gone well, we have had some bumps that have been resolved and she is a person about whom I cannot say anything bad, so much so that I could say that it is the best relationship I have ever had.
Not long ago at work I met another girl who I really liked. It’s not simply that I find her pretty or attractive, but that I can’t stop thinking about her. In recent days her contact with that person has been zero and I am not considering trying to get closer to her, since it would be disloyal and a betrayal towards my Girlfriend.
I am in that stage of strong internal conflict, seeking to clarify what I feel and trying to define what I should do. For me the problem is not the possibility of being or not being with the girl I met. The problem is that this new feeling, totally unexpected, has weakened something that seemed to be solid. I hope it won’t be too long before I can…