When you have a loving relationship, one of humans’ greatest fears is that that special person is capable of cheating. What to do if it happens?
The reasons for this fear can be varied, as explained by psychologist Jesús Matos, director of the ‘In Mental Balance’ center (in Spain), in an interview with the .
“The causes of this fear are multiple, from having well-founded suspicions that our partner is cheating on us, having suffered this experience in the past or even having seen it in someone close to us,” said Matos.
And what role does insecurity play in the fear of infidelity?
Although Matos accepted that an insecure person has a more tendency to think that they can be betrayed, he clarified that: “the fear of deception does not have to be caused by insecurity.”
Tips to overcome the fear of deception
The specialized portal provides the following advice to overcome the fear of infidelity in relationships:
- Work on self-esteem.
- Ask yourself “how likely is that to actually happen?”
- Improve the relationship with the other.
- Talk to the psychologist about the fear of infidelity.
In addition to the above, the expert interviewed by Hola indicated that it is also necessary to evaluate whether the fear has compelling reasons or is already something very subjective. In the first case, what you should do is talk to your partner. In the second, on the other hand, change those negative thoughts with adaptive ones (realistic thoughts that will trigger emotions appropriate to the situation).