Hello Daysi,
First of all, you shouldn’t feel obligated to have sex if you don’t feel like it. I understand that the situation is not easy to deal with if your husband does not react well to the refusal to have sex. But his reaction is not, in any case, your responsibility. That is, you are NOT to blame for him reacting badly and getting angry since, just as he reacts badly, he could also react well. In any case, he is the one who should learn to control himself, not pressure you and respect your wishes. When you agree to have sex so that he doesn’t get angry, he doesn’t have to manage his feelings because he gets what he wants, and on top of that, you are the one who suffers the consequences. Therefore, it is important to be clear about several things:
1. You are never forced to have sex if you don’t feel like it.
2. You are not responsible for their reaction.
3. He has to learn to manage his anger and feelings.
If you have difficulties with point 3, and the problem persists, I recommend that you go to a psychologist or couples therapy.
On the other hand, it is normal that you do not enjoy sex if you don’t feel like it at first. You don’t have any problem, but everything comes from what we have discussed. The normal thing in a marriage and in any relationship is that the couple has sex when both people feel like it at the same time, and not just one of them.
I hope I’ve helped,
A hug,
Aina