If so, then you are the key to change the thoughts, judgments, beliefs,… of the family clan. Thank you for existing.
Being the black sheep is an act of love for the clan
When a person is excluded because it damages the image or the values of the family (we have all heard of the “black sheep”) someone from later generations will unconsciously take charge of reproducing their behaviors and imitating them, because nothing in the system is loses and tends to balance and do justice to the previously excluded, as I have said, in some other member of subsequent generations.
No one can be excluded from the clan and each exclusion has serious consequences. For this reason, the differentiation between good and bad as applied in religions has devastating effects on the soul of the individual. This is demonstrated by the fact that in religious families a black sheep is often necessary to show the denied aspect and to unmask the sustainability of the hegemony of the good.
Really, that person whom the family excludes and in many situations mistreats is the one who, through an act of love, the clan has chosen at the moment of being conceived as the repository of all this information to demonstrate, express, manifest all the unresolved dramas, as a liberation opportunity for the tree.
And if you have felt like a black sheep, you will wonder why they had to choose me?
Paradoxically, perhaps you are the strongest, the one who can carry that order, the one who has performed the highest act of love towards his family at birth.
The calls “black sheep” of the family are actually Born Seekers of liberation paths for the family tree.
Those members of the tree that do not adapt to the norms or traditions of the Family System, those who from childhood constantly sought to revolutionize beliefs, going against the paths marked out by family traditions, those criticized, judged and even rejected, those, for In general, they are calls to free the tree of repetitive stories that frustrate entire generations.
The “Black Sheep”, the ones that do not adapt, the ones that scream rebellion, fulfill a basic role within each family system, they repair, detoxify and create a new and flourishing branch in the family tree.
Thanks to these members, our trees renew their roots. His rebellion is fertile land, his madness is water that nourishes, if stubbornness is new air, his passion is fire that rekindles the hearts of the ancestors. Countless repressed desires, unrealized dreams, frustrated talents of our ancestors are manifested in the rebellion of these black sheep seeking to fulfill themselves.
The family tree, by inertia, will want to continue maintaining the castrating and toxic course of its trunk, which makes the task of our sheep a difficult and conflictive task. However,
Who would bring new flowers to our tree if it were not for them?
Who would create new branches?
Without them, the unrealized dreams of those who uphold the tree generations ago, would die buried under their own roots.
Let no one make you doubt, take care of your “rarity” as the most precious flower on your tree. You are the dream come true of all your ancestors.
bert hellinger
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