They say that people are angels with only one wing and we need to find our soul mate in order to be complete and fly, this is the true love which very few get to know.
Loving does not mean being tied to a person forever, it is rather “decide” to be tied to one person forever because it is what excites us the most and gives life, because this person makes us want to live every minute by their side without thinking or wishing for someone else. To love like this is to love forever, it is to find your soul mate. Loving also means love, respect, sacrifice, giving, surrendering, believing and trusting. Love can be defined as the sum of all these elements and others that cannot be explained can only be felt.
In this Psychology-Online article we talk about the different ways of loving or loving a person.
Real and lasting love does exist
There are different ways to love or love a person. If you love a person, what you feel is too strong to just think that you can be with someone else or lie to them, it is too strong to think that you love another person, it is too strong to want to be with someone else besides with your partner, because he or she doesn’t give you what you want (infidelity and selfishness).
To love is to accept. And if you don’t love, you don’t accept. But the moment you love, you don’t realize what you have to accept, because it simply happens by itself. You cannot love and be selfish because when you truly love you prioritize the love and well-being of those you love, to love is to sacrifice ourselves as Jesus did on the cross, there is no better example of sacrifice than this, because for love we sacrifice even our own. life. Therefore, there is no room for selfishness in love and there is no better way to explain infidelity than with selfishness.
The most reliable proof of real love is seeing an elderly couple who treat each other with love and tenderness after 50 years of marriage, who never disrespected each other, who never argued because they settled their differences through good communication, understanding and acceptance. of the other as it is, when you accept and truly love your partner, there will be no reason for there to be the slightest confusion or dispute in their lives, when you accept, love and respect your partner you are not capable of being unfaithful because that person fills all the needs or voids existing in you, which is why you find no reason or reason for the idea of being with someone else to cross your mind. To love is to complement each other which leaves no void or space for infidelity. It has to be learned so that it is built on a solid foundation.
Does true love exist?
, but there are few people who find it and not because it is difficult to find but because sometimes we ourselves do not make the effort to find it due to insecurity, or because we do not believe in that true love, we do not look for it and we adapt to what comes easily. to our lives, but we must always remember that what comes easy, goes easily. It also happens that many people fear not finding that true love and cling to their existing relationships just because of the security that having a partner who has put up with us for several years gives us, the fear of ending a stable relationship even if there is no love and to venture out. to start another one and it doesn’t work, or because of the fear of loneliness.
In cases like these, we could find our soul mate face to face and not realize because we have our eyes closed due to fear and insecurity, many people know their soul mate and let them escape for that reason and stay with their couples by habit which leaves in them a void that they will never fill except with continuous infidelity, which fills the void but only temporarily and never completely, which is why they look for different partners believing that one day they will fill that void that left their soul. twin.
Can you love two people at the same time? The answer is yes, but that love is different from real and true love, it is more of a passing love or superficial love as we will explain below.
Superficial or passing love: real but not lasting
When love turns into affection for the company of several years of relationship or rather it becomes a habit. He superficial love What we can feel for a person only lasts two or three years and then it turns into affection.
This does not mean that it is not love, if it is love and you really come to love the person, but it is a love so weak or superficial that later It stops being love and becomes affectionthis means that that person is not our soul mate but seems to have several of the qualities that make us feel good but do not completely complement us, that is, they are quite similar to us, that is why we accommodate ourselves for a while but they will never complement us because the complement is the difference.
When there is still love, it is impossible for there to be infidelity, because love is respect and if respect is lost little by little, love is lost. By being your partner you are disrespecting him, you are failing his loyalty, if you seek an adventure outside the couple it is because it is not right and we are incapable of facing it, it is a deception to the being we once loved and one same because you have stopped loving her but you are still there because of the fear of starting a new relationship and having it fail, the fear of feeling alone and without love again, the fear of starting over, the fear of ending a relationship of several years that stops It is stable for us, it does not allow us to leave our partner, so we look for in another woman or man what we already have in our relationship but without abandoning the person next to us for fear of losing the security that we feel from a seemingly relationship. stable.
Is loving two people at the same time possible?
It also happens that you can love two people at the same time. The truth is we are not machines that work mathematically and feelings cannot be measuredbecause we are human and as humans we are not perfect, and we have doubts, weaknesses, and something very important is that we are capable of love, and love is not divided but if it is multiplied like this we can then say that it is possible to love two people at the same time. time.
Love grows and multiplies and it can be subtracted, that is, forgotten, but it is never divided. Not because you have two children, you want the first and when the second is born, you have to divide that love in two and love the other less or stop loving the first to love the second, but you can multiply that. love loving a new person without ceasing to love the previous one, we only feel something similar for two different people, both one loves one and the other but one of them is the formal couple and the other is not, that It doesn’t mean that you love one or the other less, it just means that the position in which you started the relationship is different. As we see, there are many ways to love or love a person and all of them are valid.
It happens in these cases that you cannot leave your wife or girlfriend because you miss her, but when you move away from the other you feel that you miss her too, and you miss her, and even though you try very hard to get away, you always go back to look for her because you need her, even more. Even if you feel guilty for hurting both, that is, it hurts you to hurt your partner but it also hurts you to hurt your lover, that means that you love both because if you didn’t love the other person it wouldn’t hurt you at all, nor would you feel anything. guilt for hurting him. And this is possible because we are human and everything is possible for the imperfect human beings that we are.
They also say that superficial or not real love, it is not eternal, which for couples usually lasts 2 or 3 years and then turns into affection, but in the meantime if it is love there can be no lack of respect. This happens in couples who are faithful for the first few years and then no longer.
Love is affection, affection, needing that person by your side, helping, supporting…. love is an endless number of things, and it is inevitable to feel it, but it is not always true love, it can be just a screen of this or something that resembles it, which in the end becomes something other than love, affection, or custom.
Couples who yell and fight with each other do not feel love, if not obsession or infatuation. When you feel true love, you will not be able to raise your voice at the person you love and there will be no reason for arguments to occur, since there are no differences of opinion between the two, only small disagreements that in the end, with the understanding of true love, become quickly into negotiated agreements through good communication.
There are many people who confuse whim with love. The obsession with wanting. And that creates the confusion of loving. So when you ”believe” that you love a person, in the long run those ”ups and downs” become constant sacrifices, dissatisfaction, frustration, stress and that’s when you ”fall” and need another person.
Loving frustratedly is not loving
What if you are unfaithful to your partner with several people that you do not “love”, but simply feel attracted to or feel the whim of being intimate with them? That is not loving “neither with true love” “nor with superficial love” but loving frustratedly. Which makes you feel uncomfortable with your partner and you need another to please you. So you are with your partner only for the frustration of feeling that no one is capable of satisfying your ego, and you choose whoever seems easiest to manipulate so you can have her as a partner and be able to cheat on her/as many times as you want and with several people.
Generally, in these cases, a person insecure about himself is sought as a formal partner, who leads to deception, since it is a lie that a person will never realize his partner’s deception. At some point he will undoubtedly know it, but due to his insecure nature and lack of personality, he will prefer to turn a blind eye and continue with his partner as if nothing happened. But in a relationship like this there are lots of arguments and aggression that they do not transmit so much with the true reason for the frustration due to infidelity, but rather in any pretext that allows them to vent their anger with the partner and their discontent with life, since the same fear of ending the relationship makes them hide They already know the truth about their unfaithful partner, so they look for other reasons to vent their anger.
It usually happens here that in the end when the deceived person realizes that their partner is deceiving he keeps quiet about it for fear of abandonment but they vent their anger through infidelity which would lead us to the saying “an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth” and thus the two spouses are unfaithful to each other but continue together with their love frustrated by the fear of ending a relationship and starting another from scratch. .
But why does frustrated love occur?
The answer is simple, there are people in this world who they don’t feel happy with themselvesthat is, they are insecure, therefore, they do not believe they find or deserve true love, which is why they do not look for a person to love deeply because they do not believe in love and what they are looking for is a person who apparently loves or loves them. accept, more than love they seek acceptance, someone who is inferior to them in status so that they can worship them and not abandon them, although…