It’s Monday morning, today the sun is shining. Mrs. Rosa, a widow since the age of 45, leaves home calm and safe because at 73 she is still helping her family. She prepares food for some and takes them away in containers that never return.
Depression according to Biodecoding — Emotional Conflicts
She prepares cakes and magnificent stuffed breads for her grandchildren that don’t always run out. She knits a sweater for her eldest son every summer that is rarely used every winter.
In addition to taking care of her children, ironing or doing other housework and leaving dinner ready, she helps her youngest daughter, the one who has accompanied her the most every morning in the family business. A bookstore selling new and used books.
When no one is there, she takes the opportunity to read the first pages of so many books… There she is in charge of the till and monitoring entries and exits while her daughter works in the municipal library.
His daughter and son-in-law have paid jobs only in the morning
Six years ago, they told her that she no longer needed to come back in the afternoon and that she could take her granddaughter to after-school activities while her daughter and son-in-law took care of the business.
Now this granddaughter, who is the youngest, is at the University and has gone to live in another city. A few months ago they told her that it was no longer necessary for her to come back in the morning since her son-in-law has lost his job and he can only take care of the business.
She also spends a while at the bookstore but every time she notices that her presence is uncomfortable and she can’t even open the books because otherwise she will receive a disapproving look.
Rosa sees how the sun shines less every day and now, at 76, she feels more and more sad every day. He goes to the doctor who diagnoses depression. She sends him to a psychiatric specialist who prescribes a series of pills telling him that “happiness” will return on its own after a few days. Interesting follow up to the case.
What has happened to this woman who at 76 years of age enters a depression?
That his life has made sense through others; that it is difficult for him to assume that each and every one of his family members is very grateful to him but that each one has his life; that he has been left without a sense of life and above all that he has lost the territory that he considered his own.
She has lost “her bookstore”, the possibility of reading even 3-4 pages, of feeling useful helping her daughter so that she could pay the mortgage, that she no longer occupies the space behind the counter and the cash register and that now that space is occupied by another.
territory conflict
It is what in the Original Biological Decoding is called a Territory Conflict. It is a conflict that affects more men or women who live from the masculine polarity and that helps to manage the basic needs of a space or property in order to develop in it.
When a right-handed post-menopausal woman experiences conflicts of loss of territory (coronary arteries) or of not being chosen or of not belonging (coronary veins) she has the symptoms of depression. How much would Rosa have kept quiet to get to where she has come?
As he well explains in his book, numerous mental pathologies do not have a biological substrate since it is not an alteration due to a failure of neurotransmitters, so they are not “fixed” with drugs.
I recommend an interesting film, Prozac Nation, by Erik Skjoldbjærg (2001) in which he denounces the use and abuse of the medicine for the “joy of living without looking at what is happening.”
We can learn to see life as it is, as we have created it, or continue to assign the cause of our ailments to the outside. In Rosa’s case, what meaning did her life have since she was widowed? What place did her personal needs occupy? To what space did she relegate her life mission?
Living working, for and for others was the only thing that gave meaning to his existence and today when his actions have less and less repercussion on the lives of others and added to this he has lost his territory.
His history goes on to swell the lists of drug-friendly professionals and to move further and further away from the decision to live in the present taking it as it is and decide that other territories will give meaning to his life or if his life without territory continues to be pleasant for him. be lived.
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