ADDICTION is a dependency or need for a substance, activity or relationship, due to the satisfaction it causes and which we apparently cannot do without for the normal course of our lives.
All addiction avoids contact with emotion. It can be a feeling of existential emptiness, lack of love, feeling alone, disconnection with our higher self. Our reality makes us suffer and addiction masks our suffering, temporarily to then worsen it.
According to the World Health Organization, 1 in 4 people suffer from some behavioral disorder related to addictions WITHOUT SUBSTANCES.
From NeuroBiological Coaching we understand that addiction is derived from a conflict of recognition and lack of protection from mom.
The BIOLOGICAL SENSE of addiction is to recover, through external things or behaviors, something that I have lost internally.
By not providing us with what we are looking for, we repeat it over and over again, making that consumption or act abusive.
Addictions are always conflicts related to mom, because she was our first “addiction” and the most important in life. That to which we are addicted returns us to that love, recognition and protection of mom that we had and lost, or that we never got to have (in which case the addiction is usually more compulsive).
All addiction tries to avoid contact with the emotion that underlies the conflict. To protect us, it creates a substitute emotion that seems to fill us but ends up depending only on the substance or external behavior.
General conflict: Protection, mom. Always in an environment of “Running from reality” for fear of not being able to face it.
“Are my parents coming to help me? Don’t you see that I am suffering, that I am dying?
Unconscious program of death and self-destruction.
I am not able to face a situation.
Addictions are related to the unsaid (addiction). I have no right to express myself.
ADDICTION TO INFORMATION: Devaluation. “Without information I am nothing.” Conflict of lack of recognition.
ADDICTION TO SUCCESS: Conflict of Abandonment and recognition. “Mom abandoned me or didn’t recognize me.”
ADDICTION TO SEX: Conflicts of Abandonment. Need to return to the mother or father, to have her protection. Inability to provide pleasure to oneself. I am not a product of love but of pleasure, I was conceived in sin. Or it can also respond to an attempt to compensate for the sex life that my parents wanted to have but could not.
ADDICTION TO WORK: Abandonment conflict. Belief that “I am what I do” and need for recognition “Mom (or dad) did not recognize me.” Need to reach agreements. Conflict of affective deficiency. Need to prove to my parents that I am good for something.
DESIRE FOR RECORDS: Depreciation. Desire and need to prove that I can be the best at something.
ALCOHOLISM: Fear of being hurt again and not being protected. Also fear of loneliness or an easy way to simulate contact with the divine (spirits, contact of water with fire).
Conflict of separation from the father. Way to reach the father (head) through the mother (liquids). Conflict fleeing from reality to forget. Way of expressing the truths that I must keep quiet in front of the family (drunkens always tell the truth).
GREED: Piece (snack) reservation conflict. “If I give, I’m left without.”
BULIMIA: Relationship between food and emotions (emotional food). Conflict of toxic mom. “I want security from mom and what she gives me is anguish and insecurity.” “What mom gives me is what I don’t want” (that’s why I take it out again).
In a right-handed we have a conflict of rancor in the territory and fear with disgust. In a left-handed man, the conflict is one of resistance and rancor in the territory. In a left-handed woman the conflict is one of identity and fear with disgust.
COLLECTOR: Depreciation. Feeling incomplete, “I’m useless”, “I complete myself through my collections”. Conflict with objectives.
DRUGS: I don’t like reality without mom’s love and I run away from her and from this world that I don’t understand. Conflict of control and escape from reality. I flee from this world to another that I can understand better.
GAMBLING PATH: Abandonment and recognition. Need to “win” mom’s love. Belief that the prize will allow us to free ourselves from our needs.
TOBACCO: Conflicts in relation to the mother and the territory. The smoke is like fog that I inject into the territory. I need a familiar atmosphere that makes me feel safe and makes me feel accompanied.
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