Not knowing how to correctly express or recognize anger in conflict situations, whether with others or ourselves, can cause irritation that ends in a state of stress or anxiety.
Anger, like happiness and sadness, is an emotional response characterized by physiological, motor or cardiovascular activation, and by feelings of anger, which appears when we do not achieve a goal, do not meet a need or feel hurt. It is then when we become indisposed to the action of protecting ourselves and alerting ourselves to that which hurts us and that is the origin of this emotion.
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Regardless of the more or less specific provocation a person receives, anger is cognitively assigned the meaning of harm and injustice, especially perpetrated by someone intentionally. Simply put, the angry person will tend to present ideas that they are being unfairly and intentionally harmed. – CETECIC
Can I recognize my anger or anger?
Since anger is a natural emotion in certain situations, the level of anger is distinguished, from a psychological point of view, based on its frequency, intensity and duration. According to the Center for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Behavioral Sciences (CETECIC), in the city of Buenos Aires, Argentina, at least three main ways in which anger can manifest can be distinguished:
- Suppressed anger: The person prefers not to express his anger or simply reduces it to an insult or expression. This modality is considered extremely harmful to physical health, and can lead to cardiovascular or gastrointestinal problems.
- Explosive anger: Insults, shouting, even physical attacks are the most common manifestations of this classification. These reactions, more than physical problems, are associated with interpersonal problems that hinder the person’s adequate social development.
- Anger expressed assertively: Behaviors that signal the person’s annoyance in a socially acceptable way, such as verbalizations, gestures and tones of voice, generally peaceful, They represent a minor impact on health and interpersonal relationships, and improve the quality of bonds, as they are a way to resolve conflicts.
However, Identifying and feeling anger can work in our favor and not against us, as long as we regulate said anger strategically. and so we learn to look for alternative plans to manage difficult situations. Therefore, we recommend the following actions:
- Work on empathy and respect. It is important to be able to explain the person’s behavior from their point of view and not just from ours.
- Look for relaxation techniques like, meditation, exercising and listening to music.
- Don’t give the matter too much thoughtsince looking for a reason, from the emotion of anger, may only prolong these feelings.
Remember that you do not exaggerate if you want to distance yourself from a person who you feel is bothering you or from a topic that simply irritates you. You have every right to express your anger so that it does not affect your physical and mental health in the future.