Many users come to a consultation with the aim of knowing what diagnosis they have, and my immediate question is: why?
Their responses are usually empty and unstructured, because we truly believe that knowing what we have would generate greater calm and tranquility, but the opposite is true. We blind ourselves to the diagnosis and, when we leave the consultation, we go to Mr. Google and look for signs, symptoms, characteristics, consequences, and billions of additional data and information that, let’s be frank, are they useful to us?
It is important to listen to the specialist, since he is the one who has studied and has experience with the difficulties and/or discomforts that you are experiencing and only he is interested in knowing your diagnosis since, due to regulations as health service providers, we are in the obligation to provide a diagnosis of these characteristics in order to speak the same language within the union.
What is truly important is. Many times we find users who attribute their actions and/or attitudes to their “diagnosis” and a behavioral pattern is created that allows them to be evoked without further guilt.
An example of this may be a teenager who, upon losing an important exam, develops a feeling of sadness, which does not allow him to do his chores, and his behavioral response could be valid within what we could do in his position. The difficulty lies in that at some point the adolescent verbalizes “today I am depressed because things did not go as expected and therefore I will not do my chores”, then What he really learned was to escape from an unpleasant situation by justifying it in a mood, because this only happens when he has to do his chores.
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This occurs due to our beliefs and how we act on them, in Sometimes we believe that having a psychological diagnosis will end our lives, but the truth is that it is not the diagnosis, it is what is done with it.. We can think a thousand different things, but if we believe them and limit our behavior in them, most likely, we will not move forward and we will stay stagnant, without making a greater effort to move closer to what is important to us, that is, our values.
In this sense, ask yourself: What is important to you? What life are you willing to live? How do you want to live it? And what can you do to live the life you want?then that is where with this recognition you can begin to establish actions that bring you closer to what is important to you.
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