How important is the emotional state of the pregnant woman? When do we really start nurturing our children and influencing their emotional states and their future?
The pregnancy process constitutes an extraordinary stage in a woman’s life that gives her the experience of creating a new life and offers her the possibility of creating a bond with herself at a deep level, unknown until then.
But, in order to do so, it is especially important to understand what conscious pregnancy consists of.
In this article we explain what conscious pregnancy consists of, to what extent this stage affects the future life of the child and the importance of freeing oneself from unconscious conditioning to choose how to live the experience of being a mother.
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What is and what does conscious pregnancy consist of?
Conscious motherhood consists of connecting with oneself
During pregnancy, many changes take place, not only in a woman’s body, but also in her emotions, in her way of thinking, in her relationships with others and, ultimately, in all aspects of her life.
Suddenly, everything is different, new and unknown and she is flooded with new emotions and thoughts that she had not experienced before.
In this scenario of uncertainty, conscious motherhood consists of connecting with oneself – with the emotions and thoughts that emerge in this unique circumstance – and in listen to own and baby’s needs throughout the entire pregnancy process.
And, in addition to doing this another fundamental aspect of conscious pregnancy is to be informed of the situations that can occur during pregnancy.
This allows the mother-to-be to make more effective decisions, related, for example, to diet during pregnancy, preferences for childbirth, etc.
In this way, the level of stress in the experiences we live during pregnancy is reduced, which is key since everything we experience, from the physical to the mental, can influence the baby.
Take responsibility for the pregnancy process
Until recently it was considered that the gestation period was passive, you only had to wait 9 months until the baby was born. Now we know that the of what has been experienced during this time significantly affects the future life of the child.
Each pregnancy has a particular story that has to do with the way in which pregnancies have been experienced in the . Pregnant women know that they carry another life inside and begin, before holding the baby in their arms, to think like mothers.
Living consciously during pregnancy means accepting one’s own responsibility for the process, obtaining reliable information and attend to one’s physical and emotional state to be able to make coherent and healthy decisions, having the necessary resources to manage emotional states during this stage of profound personal transformation.
How important is the emotional state of the pregnant woman? When do we really start nurturing our children and influencing their emotional states and their future?
Conscious pregnancy: how to live the experience of motherhood
Being present to connect with our internal state
Living consciously implies living each experience paying attention to what happens to us at the moment it happens to us, being present to connect with our feelings, thoughts, emotions and needs.
In the same way, it happens when living a conscious pregnancy, which leads us to take control and prominence of our gestation process and our new role as a mother.
Opening ourselves to this experience consciously allows us to let go of expectations and about what motherhood should be, to live the experience as it unfolds.
This way of experiencing pregnancy allows us be flexible, better adapt to changes and allow ourselves to be transformed for the new life that we are gestating.
The emotional environment during pregnancy
The question is how we live the fact of being mothers and also how our mothers lived their own experience.
That creature that is in the womb, as we all were in its day, lives moves with her mother, listens to her voice inside, eats what she eats, sleeps with her, laughs, cries or gets excited with her, notes if she is stressed, if she feels cared for, if she is afraid or if you suffer from something
Therefore, during that time, some of the basic foundations of their way of relating to the world in the future are established.
Understand that we are responsible, not guilty
Several scientific studies conclude that the emotional state of the mother influences the fetussignificantly affecting the mother-baby relationship, which is the basis on which the way the adult will have to relate to himself and others is based.
Living a conscious pregnancy increases the well-being of the woman and promotes the healthy development of the baby.
Knowing this information about the influence that the mother exerts on the fetus can lead to confusion and guilt in women, especially when they experience some type of problem during pregnancy.
Understand that we are responsible and not guilty It is key, and it makes the difference between experiencing an event or suffering it.
Guilt generates fear, questions such as: “Shouldn’t I be happy, instead of being sad, scared or upset?”, “If I am upset, angry or worried, am I harming my baby? The answer is no.
Well, what affects the baby They are not your specific emotional states, but how you relate to themfrom fear, impotence and avoidance or from the and the predisposition to consciously live each situation.
Remember, It’s not what you live, but how you live it.
By being aware of your internal processes, you are acting from responsibility, which prepares you as an adult towards the path of becoming a mother and allows you to create a healthy emotional environment to receive the baby.
“When the baby is born, the maternal emotional experience
It makes up half of the individual’s personality.
sue gerhardt
Importance of communication between mother and fetus
The affective bond of the parents with the baby
When we talk to the unborn baby, we favor their neural and emotional development. In addition, we significantly increase the affective ties with him.
This activity can be very exciting as the fetus can often react to a particular voice with movements as it hearing is the first sense to develop.
But the communication between the mother and the fetus is so complete that it goes beyond words.
The boy or the girl maybe They don’t know what’s happening to the mother, but they do know exactly how she lives it..
The role of the father during pregnancy
In addition, the baby recognizes the father through the vibration of his voice and contact with the mother’s womb and, in general, perceives the father from the experiences and perception of the mother.
In this sense, he is also equally responsible with regard to conception and childbirth, since his emotional state deeply affects the motherwhich in turn influences the development of the child.
This implies that their participation in the development of the baby is of the utmost importance, from the moment the mother knows she is pregnant, to grant stability in the psycho-emotional structure of the son or daughter.
How does the mother’s emotional state affect the fetus?
Emotional management during pregnancy
During pregnancy there are many changes that occur in a woman’s life, both physically and emotionally, and of course this is not unrelated to pregnancy.
The It powerfully influences the development of the fetus and also how the boy or girl will face the different challenges and experiences of life.
As cell biologist and MD Bruce H. Lipton explains:
“The mother not only provides nutrition to the fetus; Complex chemicals derived from maternal emotional cues, hormones, and stressors also cross the placental barrier and influence developing fetal physiology.”
What stress did our mother experience during the pregnancy?
Bearing all this in mind, when we repeatedly experience certain difficulties in our lives, we can ask ourselves: Do we know the stress our mother experienced during pregnancy?
For example, let’s imagine that she lived at her mother-in-law’s house while she was pregnant and experienced it as stress from not having her own home to raise her future child.
In this case, it is possible that, growing up, we give unusual importance to having our own home, not sharing a flat, emancipating ourselves as soon as possible, etc…
It might seem an excess or an eccentricity but it is a perception adapted to your .
let’s not forget that the brain circuits were created under the hormonal and emotional influence of the environment in which the mother lived.
Evolutionarily and biologically it is logical and natural that we develop those tendencies or preferences related to the history and the unmet needs of our parent.
Our life is full of which at the time could not be managed because there were no resources for it.
Reviewing and understanding the influence of this information on the adult-mother that we are, is essential to be able to free ourselves from unconscious conditioning and consciously choose how to live our experience of being a mother.
Bioneuroemoción® and pregnancy
The connection between generations
To talk about the influence we have on our children, we must first understand that we all we are born with information and all parents experience difficulties.
But this does not mean that parents are guilty of their children’s conflicts, but that each adult person is solely responsible how you decide to handle your circumstances and ultimately live your life.
Our it is directly related to the accusation we make, consciously or unconsciously as children.
So, In order to transcend the role of parents, we must first transcend the role of children.understanding that they did the best they could and knew how to at all times.
If we share something with our parents, it is that they too have been children and have learned based on their childhood emotional environment.
of them, will be the one that guides us, in the form of beliefs, in our development as a man or woman.
So the answer to the question “What happened to mom when she was pregnant with me?”,…