Throughout your life history you will meet different people. With some of them you will have a higher level of affinity, while with others you may have the feeling of being immersed in a permanent internal conflict in a situation that always seems to be pending resolution. It may happen that you do not feel comfortable with people who have some behavior pattern that repeatedly disappoints you. With toxic people, you have the feeling of not fully understanding what is happening.
In this Psychology-Online article, we list 10 types of toxic people that you should avoid in your life and their characteristics so that you can identify them.
Superb toxic people
A superb person positions oneself before the other from an expectation of superiority that breaks the balance of relationships. The person does not grant the same level of importance to the other within that bond in which he places expectations of frequent praise and recognition.
The ego of this type of toxic person fills so much space in this interpersonal context that it does not let the relationship flow, because the other has difficulty finding their voice in this friendship.
Critical toxic people
Another type of toxic people includes those people who constantly criticize others. For example, these types of toxic people when they are with you makes negative evaluations about other people of the group of friends. What you frequently observe in his way of relating to others also makes you wonder if he won’t do something similar with you when you are not present in the group’s plans.
That is, he is a person who reflects a lack of constant transparency between what he shows when he is in front of others and what he thinks in his absence.
Toxic people who compare
In the case of toxic people who they compare you with others You probably feel that this person does not value you as you are, but instead sends you messages of constant comparison with others. These comparisons are not an anecdote, but rather frequent actions within this relationship.
In other words, you probably feel that through this reference to someone outside you do not appreciate your own light.
Toxic people who hold you responsible for their situation
There are toxic people who make you feel responsible for their situation. You can offer support to another person, but in no case can you assume for them powers that correspond to them in person. However, perhaps you have known someone who frequently deposit this weight on you that becomes a heavier burden for you every time.
This type of toxic person makes you feel responsible for their situation, especially when circumstances do not meet their expectations, at which time they demand a lot of your time and attention. It asks you for a level of commitment in which it positions itself in the expectation of receiving. This type of bond may be conditioned by a situation of dependency such as, for example, codependency in a relationship.
Envious toxic people
Your repeated experience around those situations that have aroused your jealousy and envy may cause you to avoid touching certain topics of conversation and showing your joy for certain goals because your response is the manifestation of someone who is not happy with what happens to you.
However, toxic envious people do not recognize their envy explicitly but rather their messages are disguised in the form of irony or comments that are not based on empathy.
Toxic people interested
Each human being is unique. However, it feels treated as a means when he is the victim of an instrumental relationship in which he has placed expectations that break his illusions. For example, when a person only meets another person when he has no other people to make a plan with, it can make him feel this way.
It also happens when someone makes plans that they usually cancel at the last minute without taking into account the other’s time and feelings.
Toxic people who make you choose
A toxic person can condition your decision-making capacity by putting you in the position of having to choose between maintaining the bond with her or a bond with others. For example, if an argument occurs in a group of friends, that person may interpret that supporting them means positioning yourself in the conflict by distancing yourself from others.
Thus, when you find yourself in this situation, you feel that you have to give up other friendships to respond from their vision of loyalty. The fact of positioning yourself in the situation of having to choose can also be transferred to the case of putting their interests before your leisure preferences when there is no coincidence between the desires of both.
Toxic lying people
There are toxic people who lie constantly. There are so many occasions in which you have felt like a victim of deception that you question issues that are part of your conversations because of this previous reference to experience. Here you will find .
Probably, The lies of these types of people will have fueled your distrust. and produced an emotional distance between them, even when being close to that person. This lack of sincerity that is at the basis of the relationship affects the very essence of this story.
Authoritarian toxic people
There are toxic people with little self-criticism but who They are too demanding of others. While with you he shows a high level of demand, on the contrary, his level of self-reflection is low. For example, although he apologizes to you after a certain behavior, he soon repeats the same gesture in a different situation.
They often justify their behavior with the statement: “That’s how I am.” A message that shows the point of view of someone who is in this position is “I cannot or do not want to change.”
Manipulative toxic people
There are toxic people who manipulate, people who do not offer their appreciation unconditionally, but rather expect something concrete in return. That is to say, behind an apparently disinterested gesture there is, in reality, a favor that at some point will become evident to make the other feel indebted for that previous effort.
The relationship does not flow to the rhythm of the present since yesterday constantly interferes with the rhythm of the now. A statement that can describe the position of someone who is in this position would be “with everything I have done for you.” In the following article we explain to you.
This article is merely informative, at Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
Bibliography
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- Gaffoglio, L. (2008). How to recognize toxic people. The nation.
- Stamateas, B. (2014). More toxic people. B OF BOOKS.