Being authentic constitutes a process of personal reconstruction, through which much of what has been learned and internalized as our own must be abandoned to allow the purest and most primal thing to emerge from within us, which longs to come out to be delivered as our own gift to the world. Much of the emotional backpack we carry is part of a mask about ourselves accepted through fears and the consequent construction of defense mechanisms. Furthermore, the unconscious assumption of “norms of conduct” received from society have little or nothing to do with us or anyone else.
Therefore, being authentic allows us to free ourselves from such personal and social burden to manifest the gifts with which we have been endowed, and deliver them to our neighbors for their benefit and to consolidate our true union with them. In this Psychology-Online article, we explain how to be authentic through 10 steps. Discover how to do the process of converting the ancient being that we are into our most real and authentic being.
Become aware of our ego
The first and main step to being authentic is to become aware of how a large part of who we are belongs to a being “constructed” from fears and blind and meaningless obedience that, in most cases, has given rise to an ancient being, commonly called “ego” in psychology.
What things prevent you from being authentic? He ego totally limits our behavior through a large number of fears and rigid norms that silence and boycott our real and authentic being.
Start a process of personal introspection
When starting the personal authentication process, it is necessary to carry out a process of personal introspection that will allow you to begin to become aware of the two voices that exist within us: the voice of our mind, currently dominated by the ego, and the voice of our heart, or .
From the depths of our being, our inner voice whispers to us every second the good actions that will allow us to continue on our path and free ourselves from the limiting chains of the ego.
Learn to differentiate the voice of the mind and the heart
How to be authentic in today’s society? Once you have recognized the two voices of your conscience, the next essential step is to learn to differentiate them:
- The voice of the ego: manifests through the mind. It is a rigid, authoritarian voice that scares and oppresses us internally, as it limits us to carrying out stereotyped and forced behaviors. It is always usually related to negative, limiting, normative or humiliating thoughts towards oneself or others, which is usually the clear beginning of misunderstandings, disputes, fears and separations.
- The voice of our authentic self: arises from the spiritual heart. It is a voice that, as an intuition, whispers to us the best act for each of our steps. When we obey this voice, life becomes something simple, joyful and that takes us to fabulous and perfect places. Our soul feels calm, happy and in harmony with others.
Contradict the voice of the ego
One of the next steps to being authentic is to fight the voice of the mind, whose objective is to silence our inner potential. The most effective way to silence this limiting voice little by little is, first of all, reject it as true and recognize them as chimeras that limit us.
Secondly, carry out acts contrary to what this voice tells us. These actions of contradicting the voice of the ego weaken it and, little by little, breaking the chains that bind us to it.
Learn to listen to our heart
In conjunction with the reduction and erasure of the ego’s voice, to be authentic it is necessary to begin work on recognizing the inner voice. Unlike the previous one, it is a authentic and peaceful voice that guides us always on our path. The fact that we have not heard it before is not because it did not exist, but because it was silenced by the voice of the ego.
Trust the inner voice of wisdom
Starting the path of being authentic will not be easy because the voice of the mind will hinder our efforts to free ourselves from it so as not to lose control over ourselves. However, if we trust that the inner voice constitutes the voice of wisdom that and we remain in this attitude of change and personal liberationour inner strength to combat continuous impediments will be greater and our being will reflect, more and more, the authentic being that we are.
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Recognizing our gifts
What makes you authentic and unique as a person? As your inner voice is guided, in a way that you will hardly be able to understand rationally, those gifts with which you have been created will manifest. In a simple and natural way, these They will show themselves through you in a way that perhaps had been glimpsed until now, or that you would not have even remotely imagined.
Give these gifts to the world
Once recognized and manifested, it is your duty to deliver them to the world, since these have not been given to you for personal benefit, but for the benefit of all human beings, nature and life on the planet in general. In fact, seeking selfish and personal achievement through these gifts will feed the voice of the ego and weaken the bright and conciliatory voice of your heart.
Perform an authenticity test
How to be authentic? At this point, you can perform an authenticity test to see if what you are manifesting constitutesIn fact, the reflection of your authentic self or they are manifestations of your being scared and controlled by your ego. The best proof of this is to see if you have become a spiritually stronger, happier, wiser and more conciliatory person.
In reality, the archetype of the human being is that of a peaceful, conciliatory being and one of constant personal struggle for the common good. Even so, the internal manifestation of our restricted beings generates societies and personal lives based on constant struggle and competition, separation and distrust.
Only when each person fights to manifest their deepest and most authentic being will that be when personal and social life begins to transform. People will find themselves calmer, stronger and with a great inner joy that drives them to join their neighbors and care for them selflessly. Reconstructing our authentic beings will allow us to create, once again, peaceful societies of true personal and social progress.
Help others be authentic
Become authentic It is a lifelong process., since the fight with the ego will be continuous, because at all times it will try to take the reins of your life again. However, as you stay on the path, the manifestation of your real being will become increasingly clearer. In this way, you can be a clear and true example for others on how to live with true freedom, joy and reconcile all areas of your life.
Helping others on their path to being authentic will become your responsibility. In this article you will find information about.
This article is merely informative, at Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
Bibliography
- Rufi Cano, S. (2021). The art of being authentic. How to connect with your real self. Versos & Reversos Editorial Nº2.