Why do we need a partner so much? We become emotionally dependent people through socialization and culture. And this situation is further strengthened by economic dependencyfears, personal insecurities and loneliness.
The more alone we are, the more we need a partner. And that need has its dangerssuch as choosing a partner who is not a good person or with whom it is impossible to build a healthy and balanced love relationship.
Or spend years with someone that doesn’t make us happy. Or deceive ourselves thinking that at some point our loved one will change or love us again as he loved us at the beginning.
Or live in permanent fear to leave us, or with a jealousy that makes our lives bitter, or lose our own personality to please the other, or endure mistreatment for fear of being alone.
How to achieve emotional independence
1. Be yourself
People fall in love with you, therefore it is essential that you always remain you. Don’t forget that regardless of whether they love you or not, you are a beautiful person and there are many people who appreciate and love you.
2. Love maturely
Accept and cultivate your autonomy, do not delegate your own responsibilities, do not expect others to change or improve your life. we all have to learn to love each otherto make decisions without fear, to respect the pacts we have made with ourselves, to take the initiative, to make mistakes, to try again.
3. Build your relationship
Do it with the same love and dedication that you would build your house. choose a good partner, establishes agreements for coexistence and the equal distribution of tasks and roles. May the bases of your relationship always be respect, equality, balance and mutual care.
4. Basic questionnaire
From time to time, ask yourself these questions: Am I happy with my partner? Do I have space and time for myself? How do I solve my relationship problems? Am I used to making decisions or having my partner make them for me? I feel loved? Is the exchange of care and affection balanced or unbalanced? What could you do to improve the situation, change it or get out of it?
5. Let go of the past
Discover the new stage that life presents to you. Dare to change, to make decisions without fear. Only by leaving the old behind can we open the doors and windows towards the new, towards what is to come.
6. Accept losses
People accompany us on the path of life, sometimes for years, sometimes for less time, but no one goes through our entire journey through this world with us. So that, even if it’s painfulIt is important to keep walking.
7. Break away from the pain
Better alone than in bad company. If you are in a dependent relationship, it is very difficult for you to think that you could fall in love again and find a great partner, or you have a hard time imagining yourself alone and happy. However, love is to be enjoyed. If you are suffering, it is better to end a harmful relationship than to stay in it for years.
8. Imagine their reactions
How would your partner feel if you were able to increase your self-esteem and empower yourself? If you spent more time on your hobbies, or taking care of your loved ones? What would your reaction be if you started saying what you think and feel without fear? He I would be happy if I saw you happy, looking for your autonomy, your dependence, so as not to depend so much on him? Do you think you could share that process with him, that he would respect and encourage you?
9. Fill your life with people
Recover hobbies. Learn to enjoy your solitude and company. Meet new people, take care of the usual. Diversify your affections and associate with people who come together to learn, to share passions, to celebrate life.
10. Take an emotional vacation
It is very useful to do an “emotional detox”. Think about the amount of time and energy that goes into relationships; take advantage of these breaks to be quiet for a while, to rearrange your thoughts and carry out your projects. Use your loving energy to make others happier, but also yourself.