I want to ask you for some very great advice because my marriage is ending. They have been married for 4 years and have been dating for 6 years. We do not have children.
For 6 months my husband practically forgot about me because of work. At first I understood it because he has not been lucky in that matter and he was very excited about getting involved in social projects.
At the same time, I made the effort to buy a car to facilitate his mobility and also as a family project because I eagerly wanted to go out for walks on the weekends and get much closer as a couple.
Unfortunately, my husband changed radically from one moment to the next. My husband was always dedicated to being there if he wasn’t working, he was with his co-workers at parties or playing or taking them for a ride in our car. He no longer spent time with me and always blamed me for the fact that I wanted to manipulate him, to have him by my side all the time, that he made the effort to take me to work and that was enough. He also always told me that if the years he had dedicated to me were not enough, that I was a possessive and annoying person who, since I had no social life, always wanted to control him. But that’s not true. He never understood my request, which I always made known to him and he said that I was exaggerating.
I simply wanted my husband, the loving and tender man with me, just as he once was. That we shared quality time even if it was just a little, so that the relationship didn’t cool down, what he asked for wasn’t much, it’s a fair request.
He changed me for other people to the point that about 20 days ago I burst into anger and anger and told him I was going to leave him. That was because he had been late for several days and that night she had gone for a ride in our car with her new friends, taking them for a tour of a colonial town. And it made me so angry, since for me he never had a detail, that for me everything seemed like torture, and every time I asked him to go out he had an excuse to do something else or if he did it it was not in the best way. attitude because he spent his time glued to his cell phone. Sometimes I understood that because of work I couldn’t, but it made me very sad that not even his free time was dedicated to his relationship, to his home, to his faithful companion who has always loved him.
That night I told him that (February 27), he told me no more. That I had kicked him out and then the fault that it all ended was mine because on previous occasions I had threatened him with the same thing. It is true, in those situations, I was filled with so much sadness and frustration as I felt that he despised me with indifference and made me take a backseat, totally invisible to him, he completely ignored me. What’s more, he did not behave like a married man, with commitments, but like a teenager, a loose wheel, he wanted to live the crazy life without explaining anything because according to him he was not doing anything wrong.
We made a deal to give each other a month to talk more calmly. This is how these fifteen days passed, where although we shared the house he continued arriving late, going out with his new friends, younger girls, who perhaps attracted him because he surrounded himself with rumbas, youth, adventures.
I asked him for forgiveness for hurting him, telling him that I was leaving him, I asked him because I felt that it affected him. But he never recognized his mistake and got involved in blaming me for everything and with the pretext of that continuing to do whatever he wanted.
Three days ago she took the car and went for a walk with her friends, that killed me. Because I also discovered that she had spent these days of truce driving around in our car, which is actually mine. The point is, it’s not bad to go for a walk with friends, but this moment was so inopportune that with this she showed me that her interest in the relationship is zero.
My heart hurts, I feel like I’m collapsing