What is the true nature of love and passion in a couple? Have you ever felt that you could not continue a relationship because “love is over”? Do you blame your partner for not living up to what you expected or do you feel guilty for not meeting their expectations?
Falling in love could be defined as one of the most intense, uncontrollable and special feelings that a human being can feel. But this enormous intensity can awaken the best part of each one of us, or also the worst.
In this podcast, Enric Corbera talks about the factors that define a coherent, balanced and healthy relationship and what we can do to start living our situation as a couple from love instead of from .
Have you ever felt that you could not continue a relationship because “love is over”? Do you blame your partner for not living up to what you expected or do you feel guilty for not meeting their expectations? What is the true nature of love and passion?
In this video, David Corbera explains how romantic passion, while being one of the most satisfying and intense states we can experience throughout our lives, is also a state in which we run the risk of disconnecting from our needs and our love. own.
What is passion in a couple?
Romantic passion is one of the most satisfying and intense states that we can experience throughout our lives. If we know how to manage this powerful feeling, it has the ability to bring us closer to ourselves and connect with one of the most intimate and deep parts of our being.
However, when living without awareness and responsibility, it is also a state in which we risk becoming disconnected from our needs and our own.
The feeling of totality that we experience when we are in love can make us believe that we only have the possibility of feeling that way through our so we attribute the responsibility for our happiness or misfortune to the person who accompanies us.
This energy that can start and sustain a relationship, paradoxically has the same capacity and potential to destroy it.
Origin of passion as a couple
In the early stages of falling in love, we feel a deep admiration for the other person. However, it is not the human being in front of us that we are admiring, but a which represents certain features that we need to integrate.
Passion does not have so much to do with the person in front of us, but with our way of perceiving it and the expectations we have about it. And, in turn, these expectations are conditioned by our beliefs, shortcomings and needs.
This attitude can lead us to manifest possessive and dependent behaviors and even to abruptly leave the when we feel that the passion has ended. So, we transform our love life into a compulsive and ineffective pursuit of passion. We constantly change partners trying to recover something that, in reality, was always inside us.
When we become aware of and responsible for the origin of our passionate love, we recover the possibility of enjoying it without fear or attachment.
How to keep the passion alive in the couple?
Keeping passion alive implies, on the one hand, understanding that what you see in your Both what you admire and what you reject are qualities that you do not recognize as your own and that, thanks to that person, you can recover them to complete yourself.
The fear of loss or the end of the relationship is an illusion of the ego. Every relationship is temporary, because each and every one of the relationships we establish in life will always have an end. But at the same time, all it is eternal, because each one brings us something that will be part of us forever.
Regardless of how long it lasts, the important thing is the quality of the bond and its ability to get to know each other, learn and evolve.
When we project our happiness on the other, there will come a day when we will also project our misfortune. Therefore, the key to establishing and maintaining balanced relationships is to take responsibility for our emotional well-being and happiness, giving your loved one permission to do the same.
“Love makes you want to be a better person. OK agreed. But maybe love, true love, empowers you to just be the person you are.”
Gillian Flynn
Knowing oneself and developing our emotional autonomy is not only a personal need, but the greatest act of possible towards our partner.
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